
Earlier this year, while talking to a married couple about how their sex life was going, the wife brought up something that, believe it or not, I’ve been asked several times before: “I don’t know if it’s all in my head or not but there are times when [my husband] devours me and then there are times when he is less enthused.”
When I waited for the husband to confirm or deny, at first, it took him a second: “I’m always going in. Sometimes I’m confused because it tastes different, though. Is that weird?”
Nope. It absolutely isn’t because the reality is that the vagina goes through all kinds of changes — ones that, a sexually attentive man, is going to take notice of.
So, let’s talk about it. If there are indeed moments where either your man directly mentions that you taste a bit different down below or you sense that he feels that way, it’s (probably) not all in his head. Here is what science says could be the underlying cause(s).
Possible Reasons You Taste Different During Oral Sex
The Time of Month That It Is
GiphyA part of the reason why I wrote the article, “Vaginal Discharge. Arousal Fluid. Cervical Mucus. What's The Difference?” earlier this year is because it’s important to know that all of the fluid that comes out of your vagina isn’t automatically or necessarily the same thing. Know what else? Due to hormonal shifts, the time of the month that you are in can affect the amount, texture and even taste of these things which is something that you and your partner must always stay aware of.
For instance, just like stress can alter the regularity of your periods and even how wet or dry your vagina is, it can also impact how your arousal fluid looks, feels and even tastes. Typically, not drastically so yet enough for a very observant partner to potentially take note of.
Your pH Balance Is Off
GiphyWhen you get a chance, do me a favor and check out “Sis, This Is How To Keep Your Vagina's pH Balanced.” There are several reasons why it’s a good idea to maintain a healthy pH balance; however, as it relates to this topic, in particular, you’ve got to remember that your pH is all about how acidic or alkaline your vagina is. And so, if your pH is a bit off-balance and it’s too acidic, it can cause your vagina to taste more metallic instead of sour (sour is pretty normal).
Or, if it’s too alkaline, it can have a fishy smell and aftertaste (which usually means that you’ve got some sort of infection going on).
You’re Dehydrated
GiphyIf your partner tells you that everything smells and tastes stronger or that he notices that you are saltier than usual, you very well could be dehydrated. It’s important to keep in mind that although your vagina is self-cleaning, it needs water in order to function properly. Not only that but, the more water that you consume, the more you are able to flush out toxins and bacteria — and a healthy and well-hydrated vagina is a tastier one!
You’re Eating Sulfur-Strong Foods
GiphyIf you check out the article, “Check Out These 10 Ways To Make Your Vagina Smell So Much Better,” something that I mention is how sulfur-enriched foods have a way of impacting how your urine and vagina secretions smell and, to a certain extent, even taste. Although the scent is temporary, this is a good thing to keep in mind if you plan on getting some oral action in after a dinner date. Oh, and for the record, some foods that are full of sulfur include onions, garlic, cabbage, broccoli and asparagus.
The Medications That You’re Taking
GiphySomething else that can alter the taste, smell or texture of your vagina is certain types of medications. Antibiotics and steroids can make you more susceptible to yeast infections (which could cause your discharge to taste a bit like sour milk). Antidepressants, diuretics and antihistamines can reduce your natural lubrication (which can make whatever you have going on below seem “on concentrate”). So, before getting a prescription, ask your doctor what vaginal/sexual side effects you may have and what you can do about them, if that is indeed in the case.
Your Period Isn’t Completely Over
GiphyWhether it’s stress, hormones or you’re dealing with perimenopause — sometimes periods don’t come or leave when we want or expect them to and yes, that can result in a bit of blood popping up in the most inopportune times. And so, if your partner says that you smell or taste a little like a copper penny, that could be because of blood. Nothing to really fret about, though. Period blood isn’t dangerous or anything — although it can be an indicator of underlying health issues. You can read more about that here.
You’ve Overdoing Caffeine (Just a Bit)
GiphyIf your vagina tastes kind of bitter, it could be because you’re enjoying a bit too much java. Yep, word on the street is things like caffeine, smoking and even consuming too many highly-processed foods can make your vagina more acidic and that can leave a really bitter taste in his mouth. Pun intended…and not intended at the same time.
You Need to Consume More Greek Yogurt

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If you were to read “10 Ways To Have An 'Extra Sweet' Vagina,” something that you would notice is the big shout-out that I gave to kefir which is a fermented milk that is high in probiotics. Yeah, probiotics are essential when it comes to maintaining optimal vaginal health because it puts “good bacteria” into your vagina — and that can help to keep your pH levels right where they need to be, so that your vagina tastes as it should.
No, not like a hot fudge sundae (even cups of pineapples a day won’t achieve that) but again, a combination of somewhat sour, slightly sweet with a touch of bitter is more than natural and okay.
Bon Appetit! Tell him that I said it. #wink
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Exclusive: Viral It Girl Kayla Nicole Is Reclaiming The Mic—And The Narrative
It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
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Jon B. Talks New Album, 18-Year Marriage & Being A Girl Dad
Since 1995, Jon B. has been entertaining us with his soulful voice, belting out R&B classics like “They Don’t Know” and “Someone to Love.” Despite his immense success, Jon decided to prioritize his family and take a step back from the music scene. He got married, and together, he and his wife had daughters. While he didn’t release any new music during this period, Jon remained dedicated to his fans by touring and maintaining his connection with them.
"I'm raising two daughters," he tells xoNecole exclusively. "One is 11 now, and one is 18, and both need their dad. Besides being a father, a rock star on the weekends, and a husband of 18 years, the real thing that kept me the busiest over the last 10 years was the road, keeping the bread on the table, and staying with my fans. Nevertheless, connecting with the fans and keeping that relationship alive. Regardless of whether I was on the radio every five minutes or whatnot. I just wanted to keep that relationship alive, and the best way to do that is just go and perform."
A decade later, Jon B. dropped a new album, WAITING on YOU. The album title alone is a nod to fans who have been waiting on him to release new music. The "Are You Still Down" singer collaborated with Rick Ross, Alex Isley, Tank, and Donell Jones on the album, giving fans a little bit of everything.
"Compiling this album was a labor of love because it was me sort of picking the gems. I wrote so many songs over the last 30 years. I wanted to go back and dust some old gems off and see if I can rework these records," he says. "Some of them are kind of reworks from back in the day, from back in the late '90s. I just kind of love the beat. One of the songs on my album is a vintage cut. I'll call it a vintage cut because I did it in '98. It's a song called "Pick Me Up."
"There's a little bit of the old and a little bit of the new, but WAITING on YOU, I felt was an appropriate name for the album, being that it was 10 years and it's really about my relationship that I have with my fans. Not only is it the relationship I have with my wife and my children, it's the extended relationship I have with with you guys, the listeners."
"There's a little bit of the old and a little bit of the new, but WAITING on YOU, I felt was an appropriate name for the album, being that it was 10 years and it's really about my relationship that I have with my fans."
His wife and kids are his biggest supporters and he shared that they sometimes give their opinion on his music. When it comes to his relationship with his wife, he says communication and patience are the keys to lasting. "I don't mean to sound like Dr. Phil up in here, but 18 years, going on 19, and it's like, I'm not counting, but I guess we're doing something right because we're very happy people," he says.
"I'm making music that reflects what I feel in my heart, which is pretty cool to share with the world now as a grown ass man instead of a guy who was growing up and had an old soul and I was figuring stuff out. I'm grateful for those records, but I really feel like these records are like a guy celebrating everything that I've been blessed to experience so far."
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