Whether we're ready or not, 2022 is here. Besides receiving utter relief from what felt like both the longest and shortest year ever, I am also looking forward to some serious style upgrades, starting with why and how I make purchases moving forward. My purchasing philosophy before the 2020 lockdown was very similar to Ariana Grande and T.I’s: "I want it, I buy it." Lately, though, my habit of abundance has taken a back seat as I find myself more intentional about my money in regards to my wardrobe. And since I still yearn for the excitement of a new trend, it’s left me a bit confused.
To get a kickstart on my inner Marie Kondo, I picked the brain of the internet’s fashion favorites and asked one important question: What's one item in your closet that you're ditching in this new season of life, and what's something you're gravitating towards in its place?
Keep reading to see what these style stars have to say, and make sure to follow these ladies for everyday style inspiration.
Brittany, Style Influencer and Founder of GREIGE
"I'm trying to rid myself of overconsumption and have been making an effort to purge items that have been too fussy or trendy that I don't wear as often. I'm always on the go, so as of late I've been dedicated to adding more functional, classic pieces to my wardrobe that have longevity and can be easily put together and styled up with great jewelry and a statement shoe or bag.
"I've recently purchased an amazing pair of lace-up chocolate-colored 'Manhattan' sandals from the brand 10th Floor that I know I'll get a lot of wear out of. Now that the world is opening back up, I'm looking forward to all the fun shoes and bags hitting the market again to get dressed up for those brunches and dinner dates."
Nikki, Dallas-based Style Influencer and ¼ of Influencing in Color
"In the new year, I’m ditching bright colors. I know it sounds crazy! I love color but as my style matures, it has become more simple and streamlined. I’m really into neutrals and investing in classic pieces!"
Jen, Maryland/DC-based Style Content Creator and Photographer
"With the new year, most fashion lovers are thinking about their wardrobe and how they want to show off their personality through their clothes. While doing an audit of my closet I realized that I’m 'ditching' all of my more fitted jackets and super cropped ones. It’s not a look that works with who I am today no matter how much I try.
"In its place, I’m gravitating towards comfort and adding more oversized, loose jackets and outerwear. Think slightly looser trench coats that can belt for a more polished look, the ever-popular shacket, and even my beloved moto jackets in a slightly longer silhouette. I’m thinking of hitting at the hip or a little lower over above the hip. Speaking of leather, I also added a few maxi leather jackets and love it!"
Tashira, Style Influencer and Founder of The Joy Lounge
"In 2022, I’m ditching skinny jeans and gravitating towards more black designers like Hanifa, Fe Noel, Almasika, and Brandon Blackwood."
Valentina, Style Influencer and Digital Communications Manager at Catbird NYC
"One item in my closet that I am ditching in this new season of life is anything I have not worn twice. I am a stickler for cleaning out my closet each season, but the new rule going into this year is ensuring I am wearing my pieces up to 5+ times and giving it the life it deserves in my closet!
"Something I am gravitating towards [when] replacing any items I am cleansing out of my closet is, more space for vintage pieces! I want to start a capsule I can enjoy and also potentially have my little cousins enjoy as well once I am done with the pieces!"
Joy, Digital Content Creator
"An item that I'm leaving behind [are] vests. I tried my best, but they're not for me. I'm looking forward to leaning into styling more sneakers. Wearing them with dresses, playing with patterns, and of course, matching sets."
Dominique, Style Influencer and Content Creator
"In this new season of my life, I’m ditching items that don’t make me feel good! If I put it on, on several different occasions and it has consistently been an 'ehh, nevermind' — it’s gotta go no matter how good it looks on a hanger!
"I’m definitely gravitating towards more color! I love wearing black, but seeing dark-skinned Black women wearing color— and a variety of it— has been so refreshing to see! I’ve definitely been inspired to continue to wear more color."
Abria, Fashion and Finance Influencer
"I recently found myself parting ways with a lot of my 'business professional' clothing. As the world continues to change and I evolve with it, workdays look much different than ever before. I’m slowly but surely dumping any items left in my closet that I simply don’t feel my best in. Whether that be stuffy blazers or random t-shirts that have seen better days, they all have to go!
"In their place… I have my eye on a few special pieces or 'FinStyle Highs' as I like to call them that I have been hunting for and believe I’ll be adding to my closet in 2022. My goal is to finance a closet I absolutely love!"
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Self-Validation, No Meals After 5 P.M. & The Wellness Rituals That Helped Lizzo Take Her Power Back
Don't let the "weight release" fool you, Lizzo's transformation wasn't just physical. It was spiritual, emotional, and deeply personal. In her Women's Health cover story, the "Good As Hell" artist opened up about the low point that became the catalyst for radical change in her life, inside and out.
In the summer of 2023, Lizzo found herself at the center of what she calls painful allegations when some of her former dancers filed a lawsuit against her. The 37-year-old singer has denied their claims, and though she has experienced "backlash my entire career," going through such legal woes coupled with public scrutiny proved to be detrimental to her mental health, leading her to one of the darkest periods of her life.
She told Women's Health, "I got very paranoid and isolated. I wasn’t even talking to my therapist. I wasn’t present. I wasn’t open. I wasn’t myself anymore."
After spending months in isolation, Lizzo, whose real name is Melissa Viviane Jefferson, decided to go to a tour stop on the Renaissance World Tour. She was nervous that the public would shun her, boo her, or reject her, but instead, she was embraced. It shifted something in her and after feeling so in the dark, she saw the light again. "It made me feel like, wow, maybe I don’t want to die," she shared with Women's Health.
"That was the kick-starter to me being like, ‘Okay, Melissa, get your ass in gear and take your f*cking life back.’"
Her first step in Operation Get Your Life Back? Cutting out the external noise. She gave her team total control of her social media and stopped looking at comments. "My validation was from external sources, people telling me they loved me, or that I look good, and accepting me," she explained. "But if that’s all I’m getting my validation from, when it changes—and it will, because people are not always going to like you—what happens? Where are you going to get your love from?"
Lizzo continued, "I can convince myself that I’m beautiful, my body fine, no matter how big or small. But reminding myself that you can’t let others tell you who you are—that was hard work."
Lizzo started going to therapy again, she started practicing quigong meditation, reading books, journaling, and doing sound baths. She released unhealthy relationships, drank echinacea tea, and began incorporating Pilates as a means to "feel sacred" and "be gentle" with herself.
But what many have interpreted as a "weight loss transformation" after she popped out sharing she met her "weight release" goal earlier this year, Lizzo has clarified that it has been something deeper for her than the aesthetic of a smaller body. "I wanted to be big-girl skinny," she told the mag. "Every big girl knows what I’m talking about. Big-girl skinny is 250 pounds." According to her, it was her back issues that inspired her to take the physical part of her wellness journey seriously.
I DID IT! #weightrelease
@lizzo I DID IT! #weightrelease
Through her friend Kelly Rowland, she linked up with her now-trainer Marvin Telp and developed a fitness regimen that prioritized strength and intention. Her weekly schedule now includes moves like single-leg deadlifts, reverse flies, and lateral lunges, along with infrared sauna sessions and cardio. Add to that a change in eating habits after realizing her vegan diet no longer served her (to be fair, she wasn't doing the vegan thing the "healthiest" way).
All the meat substitutes, bread, cashew cheese, and soy left her bloated and lightheaded, so now she's switched things up a bit to fill the nutritional gaps. When it comes to diet, it's heavy on the protein and vegetables for Lizzo. A typical day eating looks like scrambled eggs and cauliflower hash browns for breakfast, Thai chicken salad or lettuce wraps for lunch, and turkey meatloaf with greens for dinner.
She also has a strict cutoff of no meals after 5 p.m. to support her GERD and give her body the time it needs before bed to digest her food sans the acid reflux. Of her relationship with food and wellness, she told Women's Health, "There's a balance. I think that's what true health is."
Read Lizzo's full cover story with Women's Health here.
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