The Full Moon in Gemini taking place on December 18 will be one that highlights the importance of communication. Expect turning points as a result of deep conversations during this time. In astrology, a Full Moon represents a period of culmination. Your body’s ability to absorb minerals and retain nutrients is heightened and things that have been lingering unaddressed will come to the forefront now for resolution and conclusion.
With this Full Moon taking place in Gemini, a sign ruled by Mercury, expect a period of time that carries wild card energy and focuses on technology, short-term travel, and interactions with others, especially neighbors and siblings. Any short-term road trips that you take now may bring or represent a major turning point in the way you view and approach your relationships and life in general.
The Full Moon brings things that have been lingering unresolved or that have been in the works to complete fruition. Full Moon energy lasts for the three days preceding and the three days following the exact day it takes place. Look out for any noteworthy experiences— revelations, conversations or hunches during this time. They hold more significance and weight than they would at other times during the month. They are likely to affect the way you live your life and the decisions that you make moving forward.
Experiences that occur during a Full Moon mark a shift in the way you usually operate and are meant to put you more in line with your truest and highest purpose.
Here's what the Full Moon in Gemini has in store for your zodiac sign:
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The energy of the Full Moon in Gemini is positive and optimistic. You are likely to feel particularly hopeful and motivated and your ability to absorb this energy is intensified at this time. Amplify these good vibes with yellow- and orange-colored crystals.
Better yet, bathe with them to better boost the fortunate experiences that are likely to accompany the Full Moon in Gemini phase for you!
You’re likely to experience a significant conversation during this time that shifts your perspective in a major way. Time spent with siblings or neighbors will be especially rewarding, Aries.
You are going to experience due recognition at work, in some form, or come to the realization about something that enhances—or takes away from—your self-esteem, earning power, and value. Now is the time where your hard work—or lack thereof—will pay off. This is a full-circle moment for you, Taurus.
Gemini, you are likely to come to a realization about yourself through a conversation with a sibling, neighbor, an article you read online, a social media post, or something you experience during a short trip away from home.
Pay attention to any strong hunches or gut instincts that you experience about yourself and knee-jerk reactions during this time. They are likely to spotlight any defensive or self-destructive patterns that may be hindering you from being your best self in life and in your relationships, Cancer. Meditate or take a spiritual bath during this time.
Something that you’ve been suspecting about a friend or a member of your social circle will be fully revealed or confirmed now. The way that you interact with this person or group will change as a result, Leo.
A seemingly insignificant event or conversation at work will mark a shift in the future of your career, Virgo. Remain alert and take advantage of any seemingly casual opportunities now. What you do now will impact the future of your career in a small way short-term, but in a significant way for the long haul.
Step out of your comfort zone this week, Libra! You will receive blessings as a result of engaging in anything that expands your mind, experiences, and body of knowledge.
Sex will be particularly transformative for you during this time, Scorpio. You may experience epiphanies about the way you interact with and express your sexuality. Receiving a bonus, inheritance, or monetary gift is also highlighted under this moon phase.
You are likely to experience an epiphany about the person you view as your life partner or about someone who could potentially fill that role for you, Sagittarius. Any feelings, conversations, or epiphanies that you experience about people during this time are noteworthy and mark a shift in the way you choose to view and interact with them.
You are likely to either have a doctor’s appointment, medical procedure, or to be given new job responsibilities in the days preceding and following this full moon phase, Capricorn! Other Caps will find themselves signing up for a new workout class or sharpening up their daily routines and health regimens.
Get ready to experience a realization about your need to live according to your true self, Aquarius. An epiphany or sudden revelation related to your self-expression, sexually and creatively, will mark a shift in the way you approach living a life that’s more in line with who you are inside. This is an excellent time for conceiving a child.
Considering moving, Pisces? Feel like sprucing up your place? In the market for a new apartment or home? You are likely to make a decision about something home- or family-related, or something that increases your feelings of stability this week.
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From Monogamy To Polyamory: 'I'm In An Asexual Poly Marriage With My Husband Of 7 Years'
Have you ever wondered what it's like to be asexual and in an open marriage? Relationship Coach Mikki Bey shared her first-hand experience with us as well as answered some of our burning questions.
Like a lot of people, Mikki met her now husband, Raheem Ali, online. As soon as they met, they instantly fell in love and got engaged on their first date. Just 90 days after they met, the couple tied the knot and have now been married for seven years. Raheem and Mikki aren’t your typical married couple, and despite being married for almost a decade, their marriage is anything but traditional. Mikki and Raheem have what she calls an "asexual polyamorous marriage."
Defining Her Sexuality
It wasn't until last summer that Mikki found the language to define her sexuality. "I didn't have the language for it until last summer," she explained to xoNecole. "Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing.”
Mikki always thought she was broken because she had no interest in sex. Mikki noticed after her friends came to visit and started discussing their sexual fantasies that she realized something was different about her. “At that point, I knew something was definitely different about me since I do not have sexual fantasies at all. It was truly news to me that people are at work thinking about sex! That was not my experience.” This led to Mikki researching asexuality, which she soon realized fit her to a T. “It felt like breathing new air when I was able to call it by name," said Mikki.
"Looking back, I just thought sex wasn't my thing. It was never enjoyable for me, and I'd go years without even noticing it."
Asexuality refers to people who experience little or no sexual attraction, experience attraction without acting on it sexually, or experience sexual attraction differently based on other factors. Like most things, asexuality falls on a spectrum and encompasses many other identities. It's important to remember, however, that attraction and action are not always synonymous: some asexuals may reject the idea of sexual contact, but others may be sex-neutral and engage in sexual activity.
It's possible that some asexuals will have sex with someone else despite not having a libido or masturbating, but others will have sex with a partner because it brings a sense of connection.
From a Traditional Marriage to Kitchen Table Polyamory
Although Mikki never really had a high sex drive, it wasn’t until after the birth of her son, that she noticed her sex drive took a real nosedive. “I never had a high sex drive, but about a year after my son was born, I realized I had zero desire. My husband has a high sex drive, and I knew that it would not be sustainable to not have sex in our marriage at that time.”
She was determined to find an alternative to divorce and stumbled upon a polyamory conversation on Clubhouse. Upon doing her own research, she brought up the idea to their husband, who was receptive. “It’s so interesting to me that people weigh sex so heavily in relationships when even if you are having a ton of sex, it’s still a very small percentage of the relationship activity," Mikki shared.
They chose polyamory because Mikki still wanted to be married, but she also wanted to make sure that Raheem was getting his individual needs and desires met, even if that meant meeting them with someone else. “I think that we have been programmed to think that our spouses need to be our 'everything.' We do not operate like that. There is no one way that fits all when it comes to relationships, despite what society may try to tell you. Their path to doing this thing called life together may be different from yours, but they found what works for them. We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us,” Mikki explained.
"We have chosen to design a marriage that works for us. We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sex partners to lifetime partners if it should go there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it."
She continued, “We both consent to each of us having everything from casual sexual partners to lifetime partners if it should get there. We believe love is abundant and do not limit ourselves or each other on how we express it. Our dynamic is parallel with kitchen table poly aspirations.”
Kitchen table polyamory (KTP) is a polyamorous relationship in which all participants are on friendly terms enough to share a meal at the kitchen table. Basically, it means you have some form of relationship with your partner’s other partner, whether as a group or individually. A lot of times, KTP relationships are highly personal and rooted in mutual respect, communication, and friendship.
Intimacy in an Asexual Polyamorous Marriage
Mikki says she and her husband, Raheem, still share intimate moments despite being in a polyamorous marriage. “Our intimacy is emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical, although non-sexual. We are intentional about date nights weekly, surprising and delighting each other daily, and most of all, we communicate our needs regularly. In my opinion, our intimacy is top-tier! I give my husband full-body massages, mani-pedis and make sure I am giving him small physical touches/kisses throughout the day. He is also very intentional about showing me his love and affection.”
Raheem and Mikki now use their lives as examples for others. On their website, thepolycouplenextdoor.com, they coach people interested in learning how to be consensually non-monogamous. “We are both relationship coaches. I specialized in emotional regulation, and Raheem specializes in communication and conflict resolution. The same tools we use in our marriage help our clients succeed in polyamory."
Mikki advises people who may be asexual or seeking non-monogamy to communicate their needs openly and to consider seeking sex therapy or intimacy coaching. Building a strong relationship with a non-sexual partner requires both empathy and compassion.
For more of Mikki, follow her on Instagram @getmikkibey. Follow the couple's platform on Instagram @thepolycouplenextdoor.
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