If you ever walk into my house, it’s going to be rare that you don’t smell some sort of scent that’s coming from a soy candle, a diffuser, or an Air Wick plug-in (if not all three). For me, the sense of smell is so important — and science certainly backs me on that. Not only does smell do practical things like alerting you to potential danger, helping you to taste your food better, and even making you aware of certain health-related issues, but smell is also tied to memory, emotion, and relational bonding.
Since this is the time of the year when the cooler weather probably has you spending a lot more time indoors than usual, I wanted to share with you 10 scents that are signature ones for fall — ones that, by just breathing them in (whether it’s via a room in your house or applying it in essential oil form on your body), they can do wonderful things for your mind, body and spirit too (by the way, although all of these have proven health benefits, we’re just gonna simply focus on the power and purpose of their scent today).
1. Cranberry
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Something that I like about the smell of cranberries is that they are fruity while also being really crisp — if that makes sense. It’s the kind of scent that is clean and invigorating while also being festive at the same time since cranberries are a fruit that is pretty much in abundance during the holiday season. What makes it a great smell to incorporate into your home is the fact that cranberry can be invigorating and yet, if you are looking for something that will reduce your stress levels, cranberry can do that for you too.
2. Vanilla
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Vanilla smells very sweet and even…warm — warm in the sense of being very comforting and yet intimate at the same time. And when you look at it from this perspective, it probably makes sense that vanilla has a reputation for providing an aphrodisiac effect. Even if you’re not looking to “set the mood,” though, vanilla is still a perfect fall scent because it helps to reduce stress, and induce calm and it can help you to have a more positive attitude as well. Also, if you’re looking to get a good night’s rest, vanilla can help you in that department too.
3. Cedarwood
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If you want your living room to smell like a marriage between being out in the woods and citrus fruit, believe it or not, cedarwood can make that happen for you. And, fascinatingly enough, that combination will not only help to deodorize the rooms of your house but reduce tension and even help to bring you clarity.
Something else that’s pretty awesome about the smell of cedarwood is if you’re working on a project and you need to focus a bit better, taking the smell in is highly beneficial. Or if you’ve had a really long day and want nothing more than to sleep soundly throughout the night, cedarwood also works perfectly in that way.
4. Cinnamon
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To me, cinnamon smells spicy, sweet, and also pretty warm — kind of like vanilla with a strong “kick” to it. And when it comes to its aromatherapy benefits, baby, it’s definitely one that you should try. Studies have proven that the scent of cinnamon not only helps to boost your creativity levels, cinnamon is good for your brain, aids in decreasing depression-related symptoms, can decrease feelings of fatigue and irritability — and, since it also falls into the aphrodisiac demographic, make sure that you at least light one cinnamon soy candle before the fall (or winter) season ends.
5. Pine
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What is it that the old Pine-Sol commercials used to say? Something along the lines that pine creates a fresh and clean scent? Their marketing team is actually right about that because there are studies to support that pine helps to purify the air and is a great ingredient (in essential oil form) to clean your house. Not only that but the scent of pine can help to decrease anxiety levels, relax your system and, if you need something that will quickly put you in a better mood, pine will make that happen also.
Plus, since Christmas trees are oftentimes pine ones, the smell of pine can put you in the holiday spirit, if that happens to be your favorite time of the year.
6. Apple
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Is it just me or is it hard to explain what apples smell like? I mean, don’t they basically smell like…apples? LOL. Anyway, if you like the sweetness that comes from sniffing one or if nothing makes you feel cozier than the aroma of homemade apple crisp, this is the fall scent for you. That said, if all of the hustle and bustle of the fall season has you feeling a bit tense or anxious, apples can help you to feel more relaxed.
Another thing that’s worth noting is since apples (and pears) are technically a part of the rose family, that may also explain why they are so fragrant. Finally, something that is really cool about this particular scent is if you follow recipes like this one here, you can make your own apple essential oil with the help of it and a carrier oil like grapeseed or plum.
7. Cloves
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The scent of cloves is something else that’s a mixture of spicy and sweetness. I like it a lot because, any time I use the fragrance in my own house, it immediately makes me think of things like cool weather, falling leaves, and apple cider. Believe it or not, a lot of people like to use the smell of cloves in their bathroom while soaking in a warm bath because it creates a calming effect.
Then, once you get out of the tub, if you and your bae would like to do something like…maybe some orgasmic meditation (check out “What Exactly Is 'Orgasmic Meditation'?”), the sensual undertones of cloves can help you both to concentrate on each other better. Perfect.
8. Sandalwood
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I like sandalwood a lot because it’s got an earthy-meets-sensual-meets-almost milky smell to it. Because of this, in essential oil form, it tends to smell pretty amazing on both men and women. Aside from the fact that this is another scent that can de-stress you, sandalwood is very seductive which also makes it an effective aphrodisiac. Some other perks of sandalwood are it can help to improve your level of focus, sharpen your memory, and get you to sleep soundly at the end of every night.
9. Plum
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Oh, the sugar plum fairy. It’s a topic that comes up a lot around now because, for one reason, it’s the words that are used in the title of a song that is featured in The Nutcracker. And so, that alone makes the smell of fresh plums a befitting fall scent. If you like something that is very sweet and fruity with a hint of floral, that is what plum will bring into your life. It’s actually so pleasant that it’s a “base ingredient” in many perfumes. That’s because it has a way of being alluring and relaxing at the same time.
10. Peppermint
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And finally, there’s peppermint. Minty smells are super exhilarating which is one of the best things about having peppermint in your space because, if you want a traditional holiday scent that is able to energize you, increase productivity, and even control your appetite, you definitely need to put some peppermint oil into one of your diffusers.
Since it’s also able to boost your workout performances, clear out your sinuses, and give you energy all from just taking a whiff of it, please don’t let this fall season come to an end without having a peppermint candle somewhere in your house. No holiday season should go by without it!
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Hopefully, this was a quick reminder that your sense of smell is as relevant as the other four (sight, touch, taste, and hearing). So, why not pamper that part of your being with at least one of these scents over the next few weeks? They don’t just smell amazing — as you just saw, they can do wonders for you in a myriad of different ways too. Enjoy!
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Exclusive: Melanie Fiona On Making High-Vibrational Music & Saying Yes To Partnership
Melanie Fiona is back! After taking a little more than a decade-long hiatus, she has officially made her return to music and blessed us with two singles, “Say Yes” and “I Choose You.” While both singles are very different from each other, they both reflect who she is today and the type of music she wants to make. In our conversation, the mom of two expressed what she learned during her time away.
“It's interesting, even when I said it is like coming back, I don't ever feel like I really left because I was always still performing. I've still been public. It's not like I went into being this recluse person or version of myself, but the thing that I really learned in this process is that I think things take time,” Melanie says in a xoNecole exclusive.
“I think often we're so caught up in it, being on the timing of demand or popularity, or, like, striking while the iron is hot and the thing that I've learned is that everything is on God's time. That's it. Every time I thought I would have been ready, or, like, things were taking too long, I had to reship some things, personally, professionally, in my life. I also gave myself permission to make a living, not just make a living, but make a life for myself.”
Making a life for herself included getting married to Grammy-nominated songwriter Jared Cotter, starting a family, and embracing new landscapes, such as podcasting as a co-host of The Mama’s Den podcast. She also began doing more spiritual work and self-care practices like meditation, sound healing, Reiki, acupuncture, and boundary setting, which allowed her to get in touch with her inner voice.
“I wasn't putting out music, and I wasn't experiencing a number one record, but I was being a number one mom,” she says.
“I was experiencing things that were allowing me to heal and get in touch with myself so that I could make new music from a space of joy and freedom, and excitement again because I definitely feel like I did lose some excitement because of just politics and industry and what it can do to your mental health and even your physical health. So giving myself the space to really just say, ‘Hey, it's okay. Everything's right on time.’”
The joy and excitement are felt in one of two new singles, “I Choose You,” which is more of a lovers rock vibe, a tribute to Melanie’s Caribbean roots. While the Grammy award-winner is known for ballads like “It Kills Me” and “Fool For You,” she is becoming more intentional about the music she makes, calling it high-vibrational music. She says her music is a “reflection of my life,” as it captures every facet, from hanging out with friends to riding around in her car.
“Say Yes” has the classic R&B vibe Melanie is known for. However, both songs are inspired by her relationship. Melanie and Jared got married in December 2020, and the Toronto-bred artist dished on their relationship. Fun fact: he is featured in the “Say Yes” music video.
“When we first started dating, I had come into that relationship post a lot of self-work. I had gotten out of a long-term relationship, I had a year and a half to date and be by myself and do a lot of work on myself alone. And when we met, I remember feeling like this has to be my person because I feel it,” she says.
“And so when we went into that relationship, and we started dating, I was very clear. I was like, I know what I want. I'm very clear on what I need, and I'm not going to withhold my truth about myself in this process because of pride or fear of rejection. I know you love me, but I'm coming with my heart in my hand to let you know that if we're gonna get there, we have to put fear aside and say yes. So that was kind of like my open letter to him, which is why the video is us having a conversation.”
Melanie also shares that saying yes to her partner has empowered her in many ways, including motherhood and showing up for herself. Her new EP, also titled Say Yes, will be available at the top of 2025.
Check out the full interview below.
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Entertaining Like Ayesha Curry: Expert Advice For Holidays Done Right
Be prepared to wow the crowd.
It’s officially the holiday season, which means parties and gatherings galore. Between Friendsgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Eve celebrations, many of us are preparing to host loved ones in our homes one or two times between now and the end of the year. No matter the occasion or season, hosting for family and friends is a labor of love. But we can also agree that entertaining can be overwhelming, especially for first-time hosts.
As a seasoned host and entertainer, Ayesha Curry knows something about creating a memorable event for loved ones. Whether preparing for an intimate dinner with your immediate family or hosting a larger crowd, your guests will think you are a pro this holiday season with her tips on everything from welcoming guests to setting a beautiful table.
Q: What is your top tip for hosting?
Ayesha Curry:Part of being a great host is spending time with your guests, which means you can’t be stuck in the kitchen. Prep is key! I usually serve wine with the meal, but a cocktail or mocktail is a great way to greet guests. I prep the garnish the night before and batch the drink just before guests arrive. When the party begins, I pull everything out of the fridge and am ready to serve.
Writer Note: If you would like to offer non-alcoholic beverages for your sober or sober-curious guests, I love Saint Viviana Cab. It maintains full-body cabernet and flavor; no one will ever guess it’s alcohol-free. You can easily create a signature mocktail using Bittermilk’s Smoked Honey Whiskey Sour mix.
Q: Do you suggest any prep for serving or cooking?
AC:I lay out all my serving dishes and utensils the night before with little post-it notes saying what goes where. That way, I’m not digging around for anything. For more elaborate menus, I lay out quarter sheet pans and label them with tape according to the dish. I prep and measure everything for each recipe and then load each sheet pan with everything needed to make the dish. I wrap each tray in saran or foil, stack them, and place them in the fridge. Pull out the sheet pan you need when cooking, and everything is ready. It’s something I learned at the restaurant that saves so much time.
Q: What’s one item that should always be on a dinner party menu?
AC: Bread or roll with butter is excellent for holding guests over if the kitchen is delayed.
Q: What’s one non-menu item you should always have on hand?
AC: For a non-menu item, wine!
Q: How do you decide on a theme or menu for a gathering?
AC: It all starts with the occasion and the guest list. If it’s a group that doesn’t know each other very well, I may get more elaborate with the theme to help break the ice. For a group of friends or family who don’t get to see each other very often, I usually keep it simple so the evening can be all about catching up. A great playlist, good wine, and a family-style menu are all you need.
Q: Should attendees be expected to bring a gift?
AC: If I’m hosting, I’m not expecting gifts. The gift is taking time to come over and enjoy a meal with me! But bringing something to enjoy at the gathering, like a bottle of wine, is always appreciated.
Q: What are three affordable gifts that guests can give a host?
AC:A bag of excellent coffee is a beautiful gift for a host. Sweet July’s House Blend Coffee is sourced from all-female co-ops, so it’s a gift I love to give to the women in my life. Whether it’s being served after dinner or just for the host to enjoy on their own, you can’t go wrong with a bag of high-end coffee.
Fresh flowers are great if you have a host who likes total control over the food and beverage menu. Go for something neutral in color that can work with any décor.
The Sweet July Olive Oil and Balsamic Vinegar set is my go-to host gift. Bottled in Napa, it’s a gift any foodie will appreciate - and use!
Q: What are some creative tablescape or decor ideas that you love?
AC: I like to keep my dinnerware neutral and classic (like this ceramic collection in nutmeg) and infuse color and texture through linens. For centerpieces, I want to use what I have in my yard. If it’s summer, it might be flowers or greenery, but interesting branches can also look architectural in tall, clear vases next to tapered candles in the colder months. There’s no need to spend a ton of money on flowers.
With Ayesha’s tips, you can create a holiday gathering that your family and friends will cherish forever.
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