This is the time of year when you’ll probably be drinking more coffee and hot tea than ever before because that is definitely one of the easiest (and most satisfying) ways to stay warm. Well, if you’d prefer to not use sugar and you’re looking for an alternative that not only tastes great but comes with all types of health benefits, too, what about some bee pollen?
Although it might not be something that you’ve ever considered adding to your diet before, I’m about to break down some of the reasons why it absolutely should be — because, when it comes to a food that will have you thinking, “Where have you been all of my life?” bee pollen is slowly yet surely beginning to top a lot of people’s list.
What Is Bee Pollen?
Although a lot of people think that bee pollen is not much different than say, honey, that actually isn’t the case. Bee pollen is a mixture of bee nectar, flower pollen, honey, bee enzymes, beeswax, and other bee secretions. These things work together to provide your system with all sorts of nutrients, amino acids, and protein (which means that it could be considered vegan, although it depends on what your take on bee harvesting is).
In fact, some scientists and researchers have so much respect for what bee pollen has the ability to do, health-wise, that they don’t just consider it to be food but a form of medicine as well.
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If you’ve never tried bee pollen before, you might wonder what it tastes like. What a lot of people say is it’s slightly sweet, semi-nutty, and a little floral. That’s actually why many will not just take it in supplement form, they may consume it as a tea or sprinkle it over their yogurt, put it in a smoothie, add it to their cereal, use it as a garnish for their toast, or acai bowls, grind it up to put into their dessert recipes or use it as an overall sweetener alternative. Yeah, that’s one of the best things about bee pollen — it’s super versatile when it comes to how you can easily get it into your system.
As far as storing it goes, make sure to keep your bee pollen in airtight containers and away from sunlight. It’s also a good idea to keep your pollen in the refrigerator; that way, your enzymes will remain potent for a longer period of time.
Keeping all of this in mind, let’s get into some of the reasons why you should get yourself some bee pollen (if you’re not allergic and your physician gives you the green light, that is) sooner than later.
Who Shouldn’t Use Bee Pollen
Now before I get into seven ways that bee pollen can certainly do your body good, a word of caution: If you’re allergic to pollen, you definitely should leave bee pollen alone. Also, if you happen to be pregnant or taking a prescribed medication, ask your doctor first before consuming bee pollen; as far as pregnancy goes, sometimes it can stimulate the uterus, which is something that you definitely don’t want if you’re not close to your due date.
It should also go on record that there is a slight chance that you could end up with a contaminated batch of bee pollen. One telling sign is if there is a lot of moisture in the bee pollen that you’ve purchased. If so, don’t use it. Same goes for if it smells bad or you notice any type of mold. If either is the case, toss the bee pollen out.
What Does Bee Pollen Do To Your Body?
What does bee pollen do for your health?
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1. Bee Pollen Reduces (Some) Menopause-Related Symptoms
GiphyAight, who had it on their bingo card that bee pollen could help with perimenopause and menopause? As crazy as it might (initially) sound, it’s absolutely true. Certain studies reveal that some of the extracts that are in bee pollen can help to reduce hot flashes, balance out erratic mood swings, and even help to decrease night sweats so that you’re able to get a better quality of sleep at night.
2. Bee Pollen Boosts Your Immune System
GiphySomething else that’s cool about bee pollen is it has the ability to strengthen your immunity by strengthening your immune system, increasing the number of red blood cells that are in your system, and accelerating the speed of your antibodies too. Some studies also say that bee pollen can help to strengthen your liver, fight diabetes, and lower your obesity risk.
Not to mention the fact that bee pollen contains powerful antimicrobial, antifungal, and antiviral properties that help to fight off many different types of bacteria and viruses as well.
3. Bee Pollen Can Help with Hair Growth
GiphyWhen it comes to this particular point, when you think about all of the nutrients and antioxidants that are in bee pollen (protein, Vitamin C, iron, and fatty acids), it would make sense that some reports say that bee propolis (which is basically a form of beeswax) is good for hair growth and overall hair health. As far as bee pollen, specifically, goes, science says that a sulfur-based amino acid called cysteine that’s in the pollen can help to reduce an itchy scalp as well as strengthen your hair shaft in the process.
4. Bee Pollen May Help to Prevent Anemia
GiphyIf something that’s a challenge for you is getting your body to absorb more iron, bee pollen also has your back in that department. Apparently, what makes this possible is the fact that bee pollen is a great source of vitamin C and bioflavonoids, and both of those things make it easier for iron to be absorbed into your bloodstream. So, if anemia or being borderline anemic is something that you deal with, this could be an all-natural remedy for you.
5. Bee Pollen Increases Blood Circulation
GiphyWanna know something else that bee pollen is able to do? It can increase blood circulation, especially to your brain and nervous system. This can result in you having less fatigue, more energy, and even better orgasms (since more blood circulation helps to intensify those). Something else that’s cool about bee pollen, on the blood circulation tip is, since it’s considered to be an unsaturated fatty acid, it can reduce your chances of blood clots, heart disease, and stroke.
6. Bee Pollen Decreases Stress
GiphyWe all could use hacks that help to decrease our stress levels, and on the heels of what I just shared, the reality is that when your blood circulation is good, your body doesn’t have to work as hard, more oxygen is going to your brain and your other organs, and you’re able to feel calmer and more relaxed. Hmph. To tell you the truth, when you think about the fact that sugar can make you more anxious and bee pollen is an awesome sweetener alternative that is also good for your blood — why not give it a shot ASAP? What really do you have to lose?
7. Bee Pollen Increases Longevity
GiphySeveral years back, The New York Times published the article, “One Spoonful of Bee Pollen, Each Day, and You, Too, Might Make It to 113.” And y’all, while that might be pushing things just a bit, some studies on animals have revealed that bee pollen has helped them to have increased muscle mass, a boost in their metabolism, and, yes, longer life. And anything that can add some time to the clock, that’s gotta be worth investing in. So, the next time you’re at a health food store, grab some bee pollen.
As you can see, it can do a helluva lot (although, if you’ve heard that it grows breasts, that’s unfounded). The all-natural way.
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Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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At the same time, though, it’s one thing to age; however, it’s another thing, entirely, to prematurely age — and that is what we are going to get into today: things that you can find yourself doing that can rush the season that you are supposed to actually be in as far as aging is concerned. And one of those things includes the kind of relationships that you choose to get (or remain) in.
Are you ready to learn how to choose wisely as far as your aging seasons go? Wonderful.
Things That Naturally Speed Up the Aging Process Overall
The reason why I am starting this off with a clip from the podcast ReLiving Single is because, if there is one person who I think is aging so beautifully and gracefully, it’s Queen Latifah. Personally, I like that she isn’t trying to look half her age and yet she still looks really, really good.
I’d venture to say that a part of the reason why is that she really does seem to “stay out the way” as far as dramatic celebrity culture goes which definitely can make one’s life less stressful — and there is quite a bit of proof that the less stressed out you are, the more you are able to slow down the aging process (more on that in just a bit). So, salute to you you, Queen. Salute, indeed.
Other than stress, you know what other things can speed up the (physical) aging process:
- Eating processed foods
- Wearing too much eye make-up (all of the time) and/or sleeping in your cosmetics
- Drinking out of straw (too often)
- Consuming too much coffee
- Not taking care of your teeth
- Not getting enough exercise
- Being consumed with/by negativity
- Stressing out your nervous system by being on your devices all of the time
- NOT PRIORITIZING REST
- Not having a quality social life
That last one? Watch how I connect the dots between it and the kind of friendships that you have. Because the reality is that if your relationships are causing stress, drama and/or trauma, are making you feel lonely rather than supported and/or they have you out here doing most of the work just to keep them going, that is absolutely going to age you, physically, mentally and emotionally, far faster than you should be aging.
How Friendships Impact How You Age
GiphyA couple of years ago, the American Psychological Association published an article entitled, “The science of why friendships keep us healthy.” The CliffsNotes are this: according to science, individuals who have HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS report being more satisfied with their lives, are less likely to deal with depression and, physically, they are diagnosed with less diseases and end up living longer overall as well. In fact, it goes on to say that those who have no genuine friendships or poor quality ones are twice as likely to die prematurely.
A part of the reason is because good friendships equate to experiencing less stress which means that our health is in better condition, along with our brain. On the cognitive tip, that’s good to know because these types of relationships also motivate and inspire us to make plans, set goals and to become better people overall.
And that is why friendships can absolutely affect how you age as an individual. Yep, according to science, when your friendships are solid, intact and consistently that way, it can literally slow down your biological clock in the sense of your system experiencing less chronic inflammation (which can lead to diseases) and your cortisol levels being lower.
You know, I’ve written articles in the past that feature warning signs of having unhealthy friendships in your midst. Some of them include “10 Signs You’ve Got A Close (TOXIC) Friend,” “Why Friendships Should Come With Deal-Breakers Too,” “7 Signs Your Friendship...Actually Isn't One,” “Ever Wonder If A Friend Is Just...Not That Into You?” and “5 Signs Your Closest Friends Are The Most Envious Of You” and, as you can see, to be in a relationship with someone who really isn’t good for your mind and/or body and/or spirit?
Not only could it literally be putting your mental health and emotional well-being on the line, it could actually cut your life short too. And who in the world is possibly worth risking that? NO ONE.
Circling back to the ReLiving Single podcast, everyone appears to still be friends; they also seem to be thriving in their own special and distinctive ways as well. That is the goal that we all should have in our own friendship dynamics, don’t you think? Not either/or. BOTH.
So, in honor of aging wisely, well and gracefully as far as your own friendships are concerned, I’ve got a few tips to keep your own friendships on track.
5 Tips for Choosing Friends Who Keep You “Youthful”
GiphyFashion designer Karl Lagerfeld once said, “Youthfulness is about how you live, not when you were born” and when I think about synonyms for youthful like active, fresh, keen, vigorous and buoyant, I would absolutely have to agree.
So, how do you go about selecting friends who can help to keep you in this type of youthful head and heart space?
1. Cultivate friendships where you feel safe. Because several things about my childhood were unsafe, I spent many years selecting friends who were the same — and that will absolutely stress you TF out. At the end of the day, being in safe friendships is all about surrounding yourself with individuals who you can trust, who help you to feel secure while in and out of their space and who don’t come with a lot of emotional or relational risk. If you need some help figure out what that looks out, read Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't. It never disappoints.
2. Hang around people who don’t stress you out. Aight, you already saw that stress ain’t good — so definitely avoid people who are stressful — who are always in some drama; who never takes accountability; who like to play the victim; who constantly gaslight and deflect; who are unreliable and/or inconsistent; who take more than they give; who talk more than they listen — you get where I’m going. The reality is a lot of serious health-related issues (like heart disease, depression, headaches, weight gain, strokes and insomnia) are directly connected to stress. That said, always remember that friendships are supposed to enhance your life. If you’re not feeling your best because of some “friend”? It’s time to do some serious reevaluating. Your health depends on it. LITERALLY.
3. Spend time with friends who hold you accountable. Want to know another sign of a toxic friend: they don’t want to be held accountable and/or they don’t want to hold you accountable. Whew, I am so sick of people living by the totally f’ed up motto that if someone is their friend, they should back them no matter how ridiculous their choices may be. Nah, if something is going to cause hurt, harm or danger — you are a horrible friend to cheer that stuff on and/or they are a horrible friend to back you in your toxic decisions. Love means telling people things that they don’t want to hear sometimes in order for them to dodge foolishness. Mature and healthy friendships know this to be true.
4. Commit to friends where mutual reciprocity is evident. Back when my house burned down and I was trying to find a new place to stay, a friend of mine gave me some real money to put towards my down payment (because I also lost one of my main-paying gigs a month later). Fast forward to this year and she was in a bind, so I gave her some real money to bankroll a project. THAT’S WHAT RECIPROCITY LOOKS AND LIVES LIKE. A part of the reason why good friendships slow down aging is because they help us out in times of need so that we don’t feel like we are out here alone. That said, if you’re wondering if your friendships are worth a damn, ponder if you can consistently rely on each other; even if/when it’s (sometimes) inconvenient to do so (check out “Life Taught Me That True Friendships Are 'Inconvenient'”).
5. Surround yourself with friends who celebrate you. Question: Do your friends CELEBRATE you? Believe it or not, that is another way that they can play a role in you aging gracefully. That’s because, according to science, celebratory activities can reduce your stress levels, help to put/keep you in a good mood, prevent loneliness and isolation and make you feel like you are a priority in the lives of others. Think about the last time your friends made a big deal outta you? It will reveal quite a bit.
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Again, there is absolutely nothing wrong with aging. Case in point, every day, someone doesn’t make it to the age that you currently are — and that’s real. Just make sure that you aren’t doing things that “age you” before your time. This includes choosing friendships that put frown lines on your face instead of laugh ones.
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