We are stressed out. Millennials (ages 18 to 33) and Gen Xers (ages 34 to 47), according to a study by the American Psychological Association, are currently reporting the highest levels of stress, which isn't that surprising considering the economic, political, and social issues our generation is facing.
Since we know this, we have made self-care more than a buzzword and have committed to taking moments (or full days) to do a face mask, take a bath, exercise, or enjoy a night in with our girls. But what if I told you adding a simple practice to your daily life could help lower your stress levels while helping you sleep better, improving your intelligence, and even reducing your chances of getting Alzheimer's disease?
Yes, there is something that does all of those things that isn't a beauty product or a class, and you can do it anywhere.
The self-care practice is simply reading a book.
I know that reading might seem like an old-school way of getting information in the era of podcasts, Audible, and the growing lists of streaming services we use to watch our can't-miss television shows. But, there is no denying the mental health benefits of a good old book.
Studies have even shown that reading can be more beneficial to helping your mind and body relax than taking a walk or grooving to your go-to playlist. Lucky for us, there are many books written by women dripping with #Blackgirlmagic that we'll never run out of content that will not only help our imaginations soar but help keep our minds sharp and our stress under control.
Below are a few of my favorites.
7 Books To Read To Relax & De-Stress
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October 2025 Astrology: An Overview
Mercury enters Scorpio on October 6, and Mercury in Scorpio only knows depth. The conversations being had this month are inspiring, transformative, and a little more blunt than usual. This energy is good for the power of persuasion and for asking for what you want, especially within business and financial matters. On the same day, we have a Supermoon in Aries, and this is a powerful Full Moon for reflection, owning your power, and letting go of the insecurities that don’t resonate with what you want for yourself and your future.
Venus, the planet of love, moves into Libra on October 13 after being in Virgo for the past month, and after some time of healing and clarity in love, Libra is here to bring in the romance. Venus loves being in Libra, and this energy creates new beginnings within relationships and provides a little extra magic in this area of life. With Pluto going direct in Aquarius on the same day after being retrograde since May, life and love move forward mid-October, helping provide more stable and nurturing foundations in your personal life and community as well.
The New Moon of the month occurs in Libra on October 21, making it a beautiful time for manifesting romance, balance, and harmony in your world.
This New Moon aligns with the Sun in Libra, and it’s all about letting a new beginning transform your world and the love in your life for the better. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and Neptune retrograde enters Pisces on the same day, bringing in some water sign energy into the mix. As we close out the month, it’s time to renew, honor the transformations occurring, and know that your dreams aren’t as far out of reach as they may seem at times.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what October 2025 has in store for you.
What October 2025 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is all about perspective, Aries. This is the month to trust the divine timing of your life, and not let the what-ifs overwhelm you. With the Sun in Libra, your sister sign, for most of the month, October is about building connections, finding your balance in love, and knowing that you are worthy of what your heart is seeking right now. We have a Supermoon in your sign on October 6, and emotions are a little heavier this month, but also healing. Give yourself grace, and let go of what isn’t working for you.
Venus is in your house of love from October 13 until November 6, and there is a lot to look forward to when it comes to romance and the relationship dynamics in your life as you move through the month. It’s about being confident in your power of attraction and letting love come to you right now. Before October comes to an end, we have a New Moon in your 7th house of love as well, and with all this energy in your relationship zone, life changes for you in love for the better in October.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a spiritual month for you, Taurus. You are thinking a lot about your next steps ahead, and are getting organized, focused, and aligned. The Supermoon on October 6 is a time of reflection for you, and you are entering the month ready to let go of the past, heal, and create space for something new in your life. This month is all about trusting your intuition and letting your wisdom guide you in your personal growth and evolution.
You are more than where you have been, and this month is a reminder of that.
With Mars in Scorpio and in your 7th house of love all month, you are motivated by the partnerships in your life right now. Your love life and relationships are where the action is for you this month, and you are honoring your passion and direction here. Venus, your planetary ruler, moves into your house of health mid-month and into November, and you are leaving October seeking healthier habits, daily routines, and relationships. Overall, this month is helping you align with your vision.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a fresh start for you, Gemini. Your heart is free, love is beaming, and you are feeling larger than life. This month is about taking a leap of faith in yourself, honoring your confidence in life, and being your biggest advocate. With the Sun in your 5th house of self-expression, romance, and happiness, and with Venus entering this same area of your chart mid-October, there is a lot to look forward to right now, and things are looking up for you.
On October 21, we have a New Moon in a fellow air sign, and this is a good time to set your intentions for creative projects, hobbies, romance, and your overall happiness in life. There are a lot of little moments of magic unfolding for you this month, and this New Moon is one of them. Before October comes to an end, Mercury, your ruling planet, enters Sagittarius, and this brings open communication into your relationships, and you are having lively conversations and insights.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a transformative month for you, Cancer. You are moving through closure, healing, and depth as you navigate the opportunities that are coming into your life, with the stability you are seeking. With the Sun in your 4th house of home and family in October, this is the month to spend more time in your safe spaces, connect with your loved ones, and get grounded. You are also more focused on your financial world right now, and this is a good time for building new foundations for yourself and looking at the bigger picture when it comes to your career and life goals.
Mars is in your house of romance and happiness for the entire month, and this is one of the highlights of your life right now. You are passionate about your joy and all the things that light you up inside, and you are protecting your peace and giving more of your energy to your pleasure. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Libra, highlighting your home life, and some Cancers may be moving at the end of the month or getting the opportunity to turn a page here. Overall, this is your month to reflect, go within, and make sense of what has been restricting you from feeling stable.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about taking things one day at a time and being patient with what is presenting itself to you, Leo. This month, you are getting your ducks in a row and gaining the clarity needed to create a new beginning in your life. The month begins with a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign on October 6, aligning in harmony with you and fueling your need for adventure. You are going over the wisdom you have gained as of late and how it has shifted the way you navigate your life and see the world around you.
On October 13, Pluto goes direct in your 7th house of love, after being retrograde here since May. This is bringing in more balance, empowerment, and passion into your love life, and this is a positive change of energy for you after a time of some power struggles within your relationships. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and this New Moon is the best time to set intentions for clarity, communication, and connection. October is about taking your time with things and knowing that everything is working out in your favor at the end of the day.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis October is about finding your balance, Virgo. There is a lot of energy when it comes to your finances this month, but you may be overworking or overcommitting yourself in the process. Honor the opportunities and responsibilities in your life, but make sure you are equally taking care of your health and prioritizing your time and energy so that you don’t burn out. Venus, the planet of love, is in your sign until October 13; use this energy to your benefit and let things come to you.
You are a magnet for abundance, romance, and support if you allow yourself to receive it.
On October 13, Venus moves into your 2nd house of income, and your relationships are a supportive place for you to lean on right now. Your love life and partnerships are where your financial world is evolving this month, and this is a good time to ask for what you want; you never know what may happen. At the end of the month, Neptune goes retrograde in your sister sign, Pisces, and you are taking a step back and reassessing what love means for you right now. Overall, October is about remembering that you don’t have to do it all alone, Virgo.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is here, and it’s your time to shine and thrive! This Libra Season changes everything for you, and October is when you really begin to feel this shift in your life. The Sun is in your sign until October 22, and it’s time to put yourself first. With a Supermoon in Aries as we begin the month as well, you are letting go of any unhealthy attachments or relationship dynamics that take you away from yourself, and are moving into deeper clarity.
On October 13, Venus, your planetary ruler, enters your sign, where it loves to be the most. With Venus in your sign for the rest of the month, love takes on a new tone, and you are feeling more love for yourself and where life is taking you right now. To end the month, we have a New Moon in Libra, and it’s time to set your intentions for where you want life to grow for you over the next year. This is a month of embarking on a new journey of self, and allowing what is inspiring you right now to build your confidence in yourself and your relationships.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about honoring your freedom and your power to decide, Scorpio. A lot is going on for you this month, and you have the passion and energy to see things through. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves into your sign at the beginning of the month on October 6, and this is going to help you get your ideas across, making it a good month for business matters, networking, and getting inspired. With Mars also in your sign for the entire month, life moves forward for you in transformative ways in October, and you are a force to be reckoned with.
On October 13, Venus moves into your house of closure, healing, and endings, and you are ready to close one chapter of love and create space for a new one. You are in a contemplative space when it comes to matters of the heart, and you are ready to let go of any heaviness you have been feeling here. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and you are ready to begin again. This Scorpio Season is about owning your confidence in life while letting go of insecurities or self-doubts that have been getting in the way of that.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything unfolds for you in a beautiful way this month, Sagittarius. You are flowing well with the energy of October, and life opens up to you. With the Sun in your 11th house of aspirations, dreams, manifestations, and community, you are feeling in balance with your desires and your reality, and are bridging the gap here. This is a month of friendship, believing in your dreams, and creating space for love. With Juno also entering your sign at the beginning of the month until the end of the year, you are attracting soulmates into your life.
On October 6, we have a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign, allowing you some closure in love and a chance at healing. Your heart is feeling renewed, and you are owning your power in creating happiness in your life. Before the month ends, Mercury moves into Sagittarius, where it will be until mid-November, and inspiration is heightened. Pay attention to the guidance you are receiving this month, the conversations you are having, and the light bulb moments that are going off for you right now.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about going within and connecting with the guidance of your soul, Capricorn. You are taking more time for yourself this month, and rightly so, as you need time to fully process what has happened so far this year. Pluto goes direct in your 2nd house of income, and this moves things forward when it comes to your earning potential, abundance, and values.
The key this month is in valuing yourself, your perspective, and what you are building in your life right now.
On October 21, we have a New Moon happening in your career zone, and this is a good time to manifest your goals within your professional world. Put yourself out there, show up, and know that you are worthy of success and that your dreams aren’t too big for you. As we close out the month, Mercury moves into your house of closure, even further facilitating your desire for contemplation and alone time this month. Overall, October is about taking care of your mental health, owning your successes, and finding your peace.
AQUARIUS
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a new beginning for you in love and in life, Aquarius. Your heart is feeling inspired, and there is a lot to look forward to right now. The Supermoon at the beginning of the month will be occurring in your 3rd house of communication, giving you the answers you have been looking for and helping you close the door on a chapter in your life that left you feeling misunderstood or misdirected. You are ready for a change of pace this month, and you are receiving that as we begin October.
Mid-October, Pluto goes direct in your sign after being retrograde since May, and this is a huge breath of fresh air for you and your path ahead. You may have been a little harder on yourself while Pluto was retrograde this year, and now you feel ready to forgive, move on, and own your power. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and you are embarking on a new adventure. The end of the month is a good time for traveling, exploring, and gaining a new perspective.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is giving you the guidance, perspective, and passion to see yourself with clear, loving eyes, Pisces. There is a sense of feeling more overwhelmed with life lately, and October is allowing you to gain the insight needed to move on from this energy, or at least see more of the gifts of what has occurred. On October 6, we have a Supermoon in an area of your chart having to do with self-worth, values, and income, and it’s time to see the gifts of what you have been investing in and valuing in your life, including yourself.
Let go of the need to play it small or count yourself out of important conversations, and know that you deserve a seat at the table.
With Pluto going direct in your 12th house of healing as we end the month, you are finally getting the answers you have been looking for emotionally, and it’s changing your perspective on your commitments in life and making you feel empowered. Before the month ends, Neptune goes retrograde in Pisces, and you are going to be moving through a personal revolution as we close out the year. You are inspired by change right now, and this month is what kicks starts this metamorphosis within you.
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Yeah, I get that I am probably not in the majority when it comes to that specific part of the fall and winter seasons, though. In fact, The Guardian recently published an article entitled, “Daylight savings haters rejoice: scientists confirm it’s bad for health,” and Popular Mechanics published, “Americans Still Obey a Time System From 1916. Scientists Say It’s Breaking Our Bodies,” to confirm this very point.
As I was checking them both out, it inspired me to write this piece for those of you who may dread the one-hour time change (especially when you are “losing” an hour) while secretly wondering if you are blowing things totally out of proportion about it or…not.
Hmm…let’s see.
“Falling Back” Leads to an Increase of Health Risks
GiphyIf you’ve ever wondered if daylight savings time can have a direct impact on your health, the answer is “yes.” Some studies reveal that getting even one hour less of sleep than you are used to receiving can negatively impact your motor skills; weaken your immunity; increase inflammation; make it harder to concentrate; elevate mental and physical stress levels; result in (brief) memory loss, and even cause a bit of overall cognitive decline — and this brings me to the next point.
“Falling Back” Can Mess with Your Sleep Patterns
GiphyI’m not sure if an official end of daylight savings will ever happen (as far as the government is concerned); however, the American Academy of Sleep Medicine is certainly doing its part to bring it to a close. According to them, one of the biggest issues with time springing forward/falling back every year is it throws off your circadian rhythm which can throw off your sleep cycle.
And when you’re not getting enough rest, it can lead to depression; anxiety; an increased risk of type 2 diabetes and heart disease; more accidents; three times the chances of catching a cold, and even shortened longevity (which reminds me: check out “The Self-Care Bedtime Routine Every Single Woman Needs” when you get a chance).
“Falling Back” May Make You More Irritable in the Morning
GiphySpeaking of sleep, have you ever wondered why, if you’re not getting enough rest, you may end up feeling really irritable in the morning? There is actually a scientific explanation for that because sleep disruption can throw your hormones off — and when your system is on an emotional roller coaster ride, that can have you not feeling (or operating at) your best best. You might feel anxious. Your patience might be short. Mentally drained and even all-out frustrated may come with your hormonal yo-yo’ing too.
“Falling Back” Could Mean a Change in Your Appetite
GiphyDoes it seem like right around the time change, you crave more junk food or you’re eating more than you typically do? There are two hormones in your body that could play a role in that — ghrelin and leptin. Ghrelin is also known as “the hunger hormone” because it helps to regulate your appetite. Meanwhile, leptin helps to balance your appetite and weight. Well, if you find yourself eating an hour later (due to the “fall back”), that could cause your system to feel hungrier; not only that but it could also throw your hormones off a bit which could make you crave more carbs and sugar.
“Falling Back” Means Needing to Move with More Alertness
GiphyIf you lose an hour in the fall, there’s a pretty good chance that if you work outside of the home, you’re going to be caught in traffic while on the way to your house — and since it will be darker once 5 or 6 p.m. rolls around, that can increase your chances of experiencing a car accident; some studies say by as much as six percent.
And although household burglaries tend to drop, just a bit, during the fall season (I guess because thieves don’t want to take that big of a risk in colder weather), robberies overall tend to escalate right around “falling back” too. One study said that it’s because approximately 27 percent of robberies transpire right as the sun is setting and right after it actually does. Y’all be careful out here.
“Falling Back” Oftentimes Leads to More Alcohol and Caffeine Consumption
GiphyIf you want to learn more about what official alcohol consumption entails (as far as health professionals are concerned), feel free to go here. For the sake of today’s focus, it’s a good idea to keep in mind that two glasses a day for men and one glass a day for women are the (health) standard recommendation. That said, something else to keep in mind about falling back is it “tempts” some people to drink more than they usually do.
One reason could be that the colder the weather is, the more folks tend to spend time alone and the isolation may cause them to pass the time by drinking. Another may be due to the fact that consuming alcohol could make you feel (temporarily) warmer (which is more about it speeding up your heart rate and opening up your blood vessels more than anything else). Also, some folks find alcohol to feel comforting.
Whatever the reason, the cold and dark weather cultivates an atmosphere for alcohol consumption to significantly increase during the fall and winter seasons.
And then there’s coffee. I once read that coffee consumption drops somewhere around 12 percent during the summertime. Makes sense because people usually drink it hot and while it’s cold outside. However, did you also know that people like to have more java in the fall and winter because our taste buds shift to a richer palate in colder weather? Not to mention the fact that if you do need a bit of a pick-me-up, coffee can provide that (at least temporarily).
“Falling Back” Can Trigger Something Known As Social Jet Lag
GiphyIf you’ve never heard of social jet lag before, the long story short of it is it’s what happens whenever a person’s natural biological clock finds itself falling out of sync with their social calendar. In other words, when time changes influence how you sleep, that can also impact your health and even you having enough energy and interest to do other things like exercise, shop and hang out with your friends (which is sometimes referred to as the “winter blues”).
Still…a Bit of “Falling Back” Is Definitely in Your Head
GiphySo yes, as you can clearly see — if things feel a bit “off” whenever time changes, there is some scientific data to support that you probably aren’t gaslighting yourself…well, not completely. I frame it that way because, what research also reveals is, most of these mental and physical “issues” tend to only last for a couple of weeks as your system adjusts.
And what this means is, if you are still talking about you can’t get into the groove of things, after an hour time shift, well into February — well, you might be exaggerating or dramatizing things just a bit (except for when it comes to seasonal depression; you might want to speak with your doctor if you sense that is what’s going on).
Anyway, you know what they say: If you stay ready, you never have to get ready, right? Now that you know more about what “falling back” truly entails — you’ve still got a few weeks to get yourself ready for it.
For the sake of the transition going as smoothly as possible — sis, please make sure that you absolutely do.
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