When you’re in the line of work that I’m in, there is absolutely no telling what topics will randomly come up or what conversations you will find yourself getting too grossly involved in. Take one of my favorite couples who decided to share with me how much they enjoy having oral sex in random locations.
When I asked them how they got around the umm, potential gook that may have crept up and in since they last took a shower (just sayin’), the husband quickly said, “Girl, that’s what you keep baby wipes in the glove compartment for!”
And well, you can thank him and his lil’ oral sex hack for why I decided that wipes — sex wipes, that is — should get more attention than they typically do. Because while baby wipes can certainly get the job done whenever you’re in a clutch, there are actually wipes that are specifically designed to make sexual intimacy cleaner, easier, and more convenient — if spontaneity is indeed your thing.,
And just what makes sex wipes (some people call them “intimacy wipes,” by the way) so awesome?
1. Sex Wipes Are Specifically Made for Your Genital Region
GiphyWhen it comes to what makes baby wipes different from sex wipes (or even feminine wipes), the first thing to keep in mind is the word that comes before each “wipe” word. What I mean is, baby wipes are specifically designed for a baby’s skin while sex wipes are for adults. That said, both have brands that are chemical-free (you can read more about certain baby wipes that fit that bill here); however, since we’re talking about sex wipes today, let’s discuss what ingredients you should look for — and avoid — when it comes to those.
Ones that contain Aloe vera, tea tree oil and hyaluronic acid are great because they help to soothe your skin and fight bacteria at the same time. Also, avoid any sex wipes that contain alcohol (which can dry out and/or irritate your labia), glycerin (it can throw your pH balance off), petroleum (bacteria thrives in it) or parabens (they can affect the natural balance of your hormones). Oh, and as far as the material that the wipes are made out of, organic cotton is always a sure shot. It’s gentle on your genital region.
2. Sex Wipes Can Help You to Feel Clean and Fresh
GiphyIf it’s not sperm or semen (from raw sex), it’s lube (check out “The Wetter, The Better: 10 Creative Ways To Use Lubricant”). If it’s not lubricant from a tube, it’s natural wetness. If it’s not that, it’s sweat. Bottom line here is, if the sex is good (and/or longer than a couple of minutes), there’s gonna be a bit of messiness going on — and if you’re not anywhere close to a shower or tub at the time, sex wipes can help to clean the “moisture” right on up! It can also help you to feel pretty clean and fresh…at least for the time being…until you can get into some water…for real.
3. Sex Wipes Make Spontaneous Sex Easier
GiphyYeah, I pretty much touched on this in the intro. LOL. However, after reading that many women thoroughly enjoy having sex in public (by the way, did you know that Alaska currently has the most sex while Colorado currently has the least in the US?!), I had to amplify the fact that if you happen to prefer anywhere but the bed (or your house, for that matter), you definitely need to have some sex wipes in tow. My friend in the intro addressed why…and I think all that’s needed is an “enough said” on this one.
4. Sex Wipes Are Great for Sex Toys
GiphyAre you ready to throw up in your mouth a little bit (probably not but…)? Did you know that, reportedly, 33 percent of people have admitted to never cleaning their sex toys? WHAT IN THE WORLD?! Just like you should wipe from front to back to keep bacteria where it belongs, you should look at washing your sex toys in a similar fashion because, if toys are moving around from different holes, that too is spreading bacteria all over the place.
So, if your “wherever sex” comes complete with a vibrator or something else, wipe that bad boy off when you’re done (and still clean it thoroughly when you get a chance as well).
Sex Wipes Can Soothe Irritated Skin
GiphyDuring intercourse, there can be a lot of friction going on and sometimes that can lead to post-coital irritation. Although the more lubricated you are, the less of an issue this tends to be (which is why a lot of foreplay prior to sex can be hella beneficial), if a romp has led to tender skin, sex wipes can immediately soothe your sensitive skin — which is always a win.
Sex Wipes Are (Pretty) Affordable and Convenient
GiphyAfter checking out some some sex wipes that come highly reviewed (like these here, here, here, here and here), I definitely need to shout-out the fact that for what you get — wipes that are great for your vaginal skin that are flushable and biodegradable too — for the price point (about 20 bucks per package), I would say that they are well worth the investment.
BONUS: Ever Heard of Premature Ejaculation Wipes?
GiphyOkay, so while I was in the process of looking up sex wipes that should be recommended, I noticed a brand for men called Last Longer — and it helps to treat premature ejaculation. That piqued my curiosity and so I did a bit of deep diving and discovered that there is something known as benzocaine wipes that help to reduce men’s (penile-related) sensitivity, so that they don’t cum as quickly.
The way it works is it temporarily numbs the penile skin which can reportedly help a man to not climax by as much as almost six minutes — and well, since most people prefer sex to last between 7-13 minutes, it might be something to pick up…if that is something that your partner is prone to.
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Aight y’all — so if having more random sex in crazy places is on your sex-themed bucket list and yet you are low-key a germaphobe, sex wipes may be just what you didn’t know that you needed.
Merry Christmas. LOL.
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And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
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In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.
In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
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The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
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On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
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