Earlier this year, while talking to a married couple about how their sex life was going, the wife brought up something that, believe it or not, I’ve been asked several times before: “I don’t know if it’s all in my head or not but there are times when [my husband] devours me and then there are times when he is less enthused.”
When I waited for the husband to confirm or deny, at first, it took him a second: “I’m always going in. Sometimes I’m confused because it tastes different, though. Is that weird?”
Nope. It absolutely isn’t because the reality is that the vagina goes through all kinds of changes — ones that, a sexually attentive man, is going to take notice of.
So, let’s talk about it. If there are indeed moments where either your man directly mentions that you taste a bit different down below or you sense that he feels that way, it’s (probably) not all in his head. Here is what science says could be the underlying cause(s).
Possible Reasons You Taste Different During Oral Sex
The Time of Month That It Is
GiphyA part of the reason why I wrote the article, “Vaginal Discharge. Arousal Fluid. Cervical Mucus. What's The Difference?” earlier this year is because it’s important to know that all of the fluid that comes out of your vagina isn’t automatically or necessarily the same thing. Know what else? Due to hormonal shifts, the time of the month that you are in can affect the amount, texture and even taste of these things which is something that you and your partner must always stay aware of.
For instance, just like stress can alter the regularity of your periods and even how wet or dry your vagina is, it can also impact how your arousal fluid looks, feels and even tastes. Typically, not drastically so yet enough for a very observant partner to potentially take note of.
Your pH Balance Is Off
GiphyWhen you get a chance, do me a favor and check out “Sis, This Is How To Keep Your Vagina's pH Balanced.” There are several reasons why it’s a good idea to maintain a healthy pH balance; however, as it relates to this topic, in particular, you’ve got to remember that your pH is all about how acidic or alkaline your vagina is. And so, if your pH is a bit off-balance and it’s too acidic, it can cause your vagina to taste more metallic instead of sour (sour is pretty normal).
Or, if it’s too alkaline, it can have a fishy smell and aftertaste (which usually means that you’ve got some sort of infection going on).
You’re Dehydrated
GiphyIf your partner tells you that everything smells and tastes stronger or that he notices that you are saltier than usual, you very well could be dehydrated. It’s important to keep in mind that although your vagina is self-cleaning, it needs water in order to function properly. Not only that but, the more water that you consume, the more you are able to flush out toxins and bacteria — and a healthy and well-hydrated vagina is a tastier one!
You’re Eating Sulfur-Strong Foods
GiphyIf you check out the article, “Check Out These 10 Ways To Make Your Vagina Smell So Much Better,” something that I mention is how sulfur-enriched foods have a way of impacting how your urine and vagina secretions smell and, to a certain extent, even taste. Although the scent is temporary, this is a good thing to keep in mind if you plan on getting some oral action in after a dinner date. Oh, and for the record, some foods that are full of sulfur include onions, garlic, cabbage, broccoli and asparagus.
The Medications That You’re Taking
GiphySomething else that can alter the taste, smell or texture of your vagina is certain types of medications. Antibiotics and steroids can make you more susceptible to yeast infections (which could cause your discharge to taste a bit like sour milk). Antidepressants, diuretics and antihistamines can reduce your natural lubrication (which can make whatever you have going on below seem “on concentrate”). So, before getting a prescription, ask your doctor what vaginal/sexual side effects you may have and what you can do about them, if that is indeed in the case.
Your Period Isn’t Completely Over
GiphyWhether it’s stress, hormones or you’re dealing with perimenopause — sometimes periods don’t come or leave when we want or expect them to and yes, that can result in a bit of blood popping up in the most inopportune times. And so, if your partner says that you smell or taste a little like a copper penny, that could be because of blood. Nothing to really fret about, though. Period blood isn’t dangerous or anything — although it can be an indicator of underlying health issues. You can read more about that here.
You’ve Overdoing Caffeine (Just a Bit)
GiphyIf your vagina tastes kind of bitter, it could be because you’re enjoying a bit too much java. Yep, word on the street is things like caffeine, smoking and even consuming too many highly-processed foods can make your vagina more acidic and that can leave a really bitter taste in his mouth. Pun intended…and not intended at the same time.
You Need to Consume More Greek Yogurt
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If you were to read “10 Ways To Have An 'Extra Sweet' Vagina,” something that you would notice is the big shout-out that I gave to kefir which is a fermented milk that is high in probiotics. Yeah, probiotics are essential when it comes to maintaining optimal vaginal health because it puts “good bacteria” into your vagina — and that can help to keep your pH levels right where they need to be, so that your vagina tastes as it should.
No, not like a hot fudge sundae (even cups of pineapples a day won’t achieve that) but again, a combination of somewhat sour, slightly sweet with a touch of bitter is more than natural and okay.
Bon Appetit! Tell him that I said it. #wink
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Are you ready to check some of them out, so that, whether it’s via a candle, a diffuser, some essential oil, or some DIY body cream (check out “How To Incorporate All Five Senses To Have The Best Sex Ever”), you can bring some extra festive ambiance into your own boudoir? Excellent.
1. Vanilla
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When it comes to holiday desserts, you’re going to be hard-pressed to find recipes that don’t include vanilla — and that alone explains why it is considered to be a traditional holiday scent. As far as your libido goes, vanilla is absolutely considered to be an aphrodisiac — partly because its sweet scent is considered to be very sensual. Some studies even reveal that vanillin (the active ingredient in vanilla) is able to increase sexual arousal and improve erectile dysfunction in men. So, if you adore the smell, here is more incentive to use it.
2. Frankincense
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Although, typically, when people think about frankincense (and myrrh), it’s in the context of the gifts that the wise men brought Christ after he was born; it’s a part of the biblical Christmas story. However, frankincense goes much deeper than that. Sexually, since it has an earthy and spicy scent, some people like to use it to meditate (check out “What Exactly Is 'Orgasmic Meditation'?”). Also, since it has the ability to put you in a better mood, soothe and soften your skin and maintain your oral health — with the help of frankincense, every touch and kiss can be that much…sexier.
3. Cinnamon
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I already gave cinnamon a shout-out in the intro. Personally, I’ve been a fan of it, in the sex department, for a long time now (check out “12 ‘Sex Condiments’ That Can Make Coitus Even More...Delicious”). When it’s in oil form, it can be very sweet to the taste while sending a warm sensation throughout the body — which is why the giver and receiver of oral sex can benefit from its usage. Beyond that, cinnamon helps to increase blood flow to your genital region, elevate sexual desire and, some studies say that it can even help improve fertility. Beautiful.
4. Peppermint
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If there’s a signature candy for the holiday season, it’s probably a candy cane — which automatically puts peppermint in the running for being an official holiday scent. Pretty much, in any form, it’s got your sex life’s back because it’s hailed as being a sexual stimulant; in part, because its smell is so invigorating. Plus, it helps to (eh hem) ease headaches, it gives you more energy and it can definitely help to freshen your breath. Also, that minty sensation? The same thing that I said about cinnamon can apply to peppermint too (if you catch my drift).
5. Ginger
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Whether it’s in a meal or in your bedroom, ginger is going to produce results that are hella spicy. On the sex tip, science has praised ginger for being able to increase sexual arousal, improve blood circulation (which intensifies orgasms) and strengthen fertility for many years. Scent-wise, I find it to be one that both men and women enjoy because it is both woodsy and sweet. So, if you’ve got some massage oil in mind, adding some ginger is a way to please you both.
6. Pomegranate
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September through December is the time of year when pomegranates are considered to be in season. And, as someone who is a Rosh Hashanah observer, I have a personal adoration for them because I am aware of the various things that they symbolize in Hebrew culture including the fact that they are a fruit that represents love and fertility. So yeah, they would absolutely be an aphrodisiac — one that is perfect for this time of the year. While consuming it helps to boost testosterone levels in both men and women, the floral bittersweet smell that it produces can help to reduce stress while promoting relaxation (like most floral scents do) — and the more relaxed you are, the easier it is to climax.
7. Nutmeg
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Another signature seasoning during the holiday season is nutmeg. It’s perfect in Thanksgiving sweet potato (or pumpkin) pie and Christmas morning French toast. And yes, it can also make your sex life better. If you consume it, it can intensify your libido and, overall, its warm-meets-spicy-meets-sweet smell is so inviting that it is considered to be a pretty seductive scent.
8. Cloves
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I ain’t got not one lie to tell you — if you’ve got a toothache, put some clove oil on that bad boy and send me a Christmas present for putting you on game. Aside from that, as I round all of this out, cloves are another holiday scent that can do wonders for your sex life. For men, it has the ability to significantly increase sexual arousal and improve stamina and endurance. For men and women alike, it also has a reputation for strengthening sexual desire. And for women solely? Well, if you want an all-natural way to increase natural lubrication down below — the scent and and feel (in DILUTED oil form) can make that happen. It can make the holidays especially special…if you know what I mean.
Ah yes — the atmosphere of the holidays and what it can do.
Take it all in! Scent ‘n whatever stimulating that comes with it! #wink
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