What It Really Means To Go With The Flow
Sometimes it seems that we live our lives on autopilot, unable to absorb the blessing in each moment. Or that we're buzzed on symbolic caffeine, and I can't stop "doing". Our world encourages us to constantly be constructive, and even when we do get some much needed R&R, we still somehow get roped up into doing something!
In truth, one of the only ways to get in tune with self, is to tune out. And to truly live in the present moment means to recognize and connect deeply with the energies around you.
Ultimately, this is a deep understanding that you are individually an incarnation of all that exists and connected to the universal oneness.
3 Reasons To Go With The Flow & Stay Present In Life
1.You'll Find Joy In Being Present
By understanding I AM Presence, God is not only a being that you acknowledge as a higher power, or a "man in the heavens," rather, you awaken to that higher power within yourself.
One way to actively be present is to become childlike. When you look at children playing, they are enjoying the world from a limitless perception. Their innocence allows them to find divine joy in their existence alone and is the reason why children find joy in just being.
The use of their imagination is connected to the I AM presence because they are more sensitive to energy, and are amazed by the most trivial things. They react to colors, movement, animals, sounds, and other people with zero ego (or separation of self), and pure wonderment.
As adults, we lose these innate senses. But undergoing Spiritual Awakening allows us to get back to the very essence of what our souls are made of. We then feel truly fulfilled by just being.
2.You Stop Sweating The Small Stuff
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If you think about how nature works, you realize that everything just happens. The sun just rises, and the moon sets. None of these entities require extra work to be to be done for this cycle to function.
This doesn't mean that you don't have to get up, make a living, make things happen, and achieve your goals. Living in flow does not mean you are a passer-byer in your own life. In fact, it's quite the opposite. When you are living in flow, you are actively creating your own reality and manifesting the desires of your heart.
Manifestation happens when you set your intentions towards your highest good, and you allow the universe to deliver your order. As you live your life day by day, you actively work towards the highest vision you have for your life, and you watch in amazement as the universe delivers all that you asked for in flow.
How many things have come about in your life so seamlessly that it didn't make any sense, or it felt too perfect?
This is ebb and flow, and just like things in nature, your life just happens.
3.You'll Become One With Your Intuition
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Another way to benefit from the vibration of being present, is to just be still. Quieting your mind helps clear the clutter of confusion, scattered emotions, thoughts, and other energetic noise. It is often through silence that you hear what your higher self is trying to transpire to your soul.
Instead of watching TV, or even reading a book sometimes, just sit with yourself. Close your eyes, or even stare at the wall. Go outside in nature, and do your best to just think about nothing. Look at the birds flying by, or the trees blowing in the wind. Feel your connection to nature. Enter into a vibration of the "wave realizing that it is also the whole ocean."
Meditate in this frequency. Tap into your internal guidance to see what it has to tell you.
Auntie O says:
"Every one of us has an internal guidance, a GPS, an intuition, a heart print, a heart song that speaks to us. Your only job is to be able to listen and discern when it's speaking versus your head and your personality speaking, and if you follow that, you will be led to the highest good for you, always."
So on that note, be present and be in flow.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
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Why We'll Probably Never Hear Lupita Nyong'o Share Her Relationship With The World
Lupita Nyong'o is sharing a transparent look into her life after a recent breakup.
In a cover story for NET-A-PORTER, the A Quiet Place: Day One star shed light on the significant heartbreak she experienced following the end of her relationship with ex-boyfriend and TV host, Selema Masekela.
As a public figure, Nyong'o, 39, sought to divulge the news of the breakup in hopes of presenting a more authentic perspective on the pain that follows a separation.
"I was living in a lot of pain and heartbreak," she told the publication. "I looked at the environment of my social media and thought I don’t want to be a part of this illusion that everything is always coming up roses. Surely there is a lesson for me to learn in this, and I just want to be real about it."
The Black Panther star went on to explain that her choice to be transparent with her fans about her breakup came from the certainty she felt after ending the relationship. “In my mind, when I shared my relationship status with the world, it was because I felt sure about it,” she said.
While she didn’t know how the news would land with her fans, she found relief in knowing she wasn’t alone in her experience.
“I knew how it could be interpreted; I knew it would have a life of its own,” she reflects. “But then I started to see the comments and people were being so loving and supportive. The ones that moved me the most were other people sharing their pain and their heartbreak.”
Nyong'o and Masekela went Instagram official in December 2022, publicly announcing their relationship in a couple's video. In October 2023, Nyong'o took to her personal Instagram account to share the news of her breakup in her caption, writing, "At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust.”
She continued the vulnerable note, "I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception. I am tempted to run into the shadows and hide, only to return to the light when I have regained my strength enough for me to say, 'Whatever, my life is better this way.' But I am reminded that the magnitude of the pain I am feeling is equal to the measure of my capacity for love."
These days, Nyong'o tells NET-A-PORTER that she is prioritizing profound self-discovery that extends beyond her career. She notes having a deliberate and unhurried approach to understanding herself.
She also alludes to keeping her relationships private moving forward after noting it was "very, very sage" of her not to talk about her private life professionally in the days before her last relationship. "I'm going back to those days by the way," Nyong'o shares of her reinstated boundaries around her personal life.
Earlier this month, Nyong'o made headlines alongside her new boyfriend actor Joshua Jackson. Nyong'o and Jackson went through public splits from their respective SOs in October 2023, with the latter splitting from his long-time partner Jodie Turner-Smith following her divorce filing from the Dawson's Creek alum.
The pair have been spotted together as early as December 2023, but nothing screamed "couple" quite as loudly as their recent getaway to Mexico for Nyong'o's 41st birthday featuring passionate displays of affection.
"Our purpose in life is to love. And so you have to get back in it," she tells the outlet, seemingly alluding to her budding new romance.
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