Oprah Lets Us Know She Is Not Lucky, She's Blessed In 'Elle India' Feature

Elle India was so sure that readers would be able to recognize our queen Oprah in one instant that they decided to choose one of their two magazine covers with mogul facing her back to the camera.
She is on the cover of this month's 22nd-anniversary issue to the surprise of many of us, decked out in beautiful Indian garments that she wears like a second skin.
With the million reasons why to look up to Oprah, the top on my list is how she owns the camera and knows it, so much that she covers her personal magazine every month (I strive to meet the level of self-deserved extraness!).
With all that she's accomplished in a short time here on Earth, it's easy to understand that she's a straight-up boss. However, for those of us trying to get our "Oprah" on during this lifetime, we wonder where this star got the guts to live her truth and walk within her authenticity straight to the top.
Oprah reveals that this realness comes from an understanding of her journey in the not-so-pretty places of the world and life. Here are three takeaways that could help any of us elevate to a higher sense of self and to manifest the life we desire walking into the new year.
Sit Down, Be Humble.
Oprah has every reason to brag, coming from where she came from and going through what she went through. However, the major key is being able to navigate through her charmed life with a lens of gratitude. Oprah reminds us that each piece of your puzzle plays a big part in a beautiful masterpiece. She told Elle:
"If you look at where I was born, where I was raised in rural Mississippi at a time when it was an apartheid state – the chances of me being who I am, where I am…nobody would have believed it was possible. So yes, the lesson is amazing grace does exist."
Growth Is Uncomfortable.
For those of us finding ourselves in defining moments in our lives, whether it be pertaining to our career, love lives, or self-development, Oprah suggests that we lean into the feeling of fear instead of running away from it. We have a tendency to run at the sit of any negative feeling and emotion that arises in us, however, they are vital to observe and work through. She explains:
"Fear is there for a reason, and I don't believe that if you're afraid it means you should do it. Fear means think about it. It means caution, it means to pay attention to what you're feeling until you have the clarity to move forward."
Be Present And Express Yourself.
For some of us feeling stuck in between "I'm doing great" and "I need to go harder," Oprah says to embrace where you are at this moment, but to also find your voice in order to share yourself to the world in the best way you know how. We forget that as Black women we share similarities, but we all have our own uniqueness to share with the world through our passions:
"I feel like we are exactly where we are supposed to be in this moment in time, and all of us who can raise our voices should use them in such a way that we can make part of progress; you will do that in your lifetime, and then the next generation will do that in their lifetime."
The Future Is Female.
The 64-year-old decided to drop some gems on us youngins as per usual, and as for the future, she wants us to continue to boss up, and worry about the boys later! So when you wonder if you are too strong, too ambitious, or too strong-willed remember you are here to take over the world. Who is Oprah without Stedman? Oprah! She shares with Elle:
"The new generation of boys should be raised to believe that girls are their equals, and sometimes, their superiors."
Wherever you are on your journey trust you are on the right course. You are exactly where you ought to be at this moment in time. Strive to be a bigger and better version of yourself and you'll never know. Perhaps people will not need your name, or your face to recognize you on a magazine cover. They'll know you by your voice and your passion.
Make sure to check out Elle India's site and Instagram for more beautiful pictures and the full interview soon! In true Oprah fashion: "You get your life, You get your life, and You get your life!"
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Sleek & Heat-Proof: Straightened Hair, The Summer It List Way
This article is in partnership with SheaMoisture.
The world may try to convince you that straight hair is a no-go for the summer heat, but if you’re an It Girl, defying the odds is embedded in your DNA.
When it comes to achieving sleek strands for the summer, xoNecole and SheaMoisture have your blueprint for smooth, frizz-free, humidity and heat-damage-resistant hair throughout this season!
From hair styling oils to bond repairing products, and strengthening shampoo and conditioner, SheaMoisture offers a range of products that help you achieve the perfect silk press without worrying about the heat damage, thanks to formulas that moisturize, reduce breakage, and more.
We want your silk press to stay pressed, not stressed, so here’s our quick, three-step guide featuring SheaMoisture products from our xoNecole Summer It List for straightened hair all summer long.
Step 1: Keep Your Hair Strong
Like everything in life, if the foundation is rocky, things won’t last, and the sentiment remains when it comes to your hair.
SheaMoisture’s Hair Styling Oils are a must-have when preparing and protecting your strands before getting them pressed. The Bond Repair Oil is perfect reinforcement that your hair needs from within to prevent breakage and dryness when using heat-forward tools to achieve your look.
Protecting the hair before adding heat with SheaMoisture’s Bond Repair Leave-In helps guard against styling damage. The product also ensures hair bonds are repaired and essential proteins are replenished, resulting in less breakage. It also provides a boost of hydration and 24-hour control against frizz.

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Step 2: Seal The Deal With Some Shine
Whether you’re preparing to attend a summer wedding or hitting a rooftop with your girlfriends, finishing the look with SheaMoisture’s Manuka Honey & Yogurt Lightweight Oil serves you and your hair right by adding luster, locking in moisture, and taming flyaways.
Step 3: Repair Your Hair Following The Heat
Before jumping into your next style, a moisturizing cleanse is a great repair duo to put the life back into your hair after a silk press.
The SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Shampoo and Conditioner offers damage-repairing benefits that will have your hair thanking you. It restores, nourishes, and strengthens hair, eases detangling, and brings damaged hair back to life with shine and movement, while most importantly, restoring moisture.
Who said that straight hair was off the table during the summer heat wave? With SheaMoisture and a plan, you’ll hit the scene like the It Girl you are for every summer festivity.
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Jay Hill On Self-Control, Modern Dating, & Co-Parenting
Podcaster and media personality Jay Hill opened up about the lessons learned growing up in Baltimore and navigating the complexities of manhood, relationships, and emotional growth in a reflective conversation with xoMAN host Kiara Walker.
He explained that his environment taught him early lessons about survival and reputation:
“You learn that if you don’t play by the rules, you end up being a person they tell stories about.”
Central to his message is the importance of self-control, which Jay believes is an important aspect of true manhood. “I think that’s the biggest area of manhood that most of us lack and that we all need to grasp early. Even when I was younger, thinking I was a man, like fighting and stuff… Imagine if I was fighting to stay in school. Imagine if I was fighting to graduate.” He shared that he recognized that understanding what you fight for matters.
Jay also got into his experiences with marriage, infidelity, and co-parenting, emphasizing the role of therapy and accountability in healing. He discussed modern dating and what he values in a partner.
For Jay, it’s someone who commands respect and holds her man to high standards—“being a great mom, respecting your own boundaries, being a source of admiration, and requiring him to meet your standards.”
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