
Don’t Quit Your Day Job: 7 Life Lessons Your Employer Is Teaching You Daily

In this new era of entrepreneurship, it's easy to jump the gun on leaping into your own venture. We've made being a boss look so sexy, that a regular 9-5 starts to seem mundane or subpar to this grand life we could otherwise have.
Although that might very well be the case, it is also quite possible that we are so busy hating our jobs that we forget to learn from them. Here's a rundown of the life lessons you might be missing from work:
Be Confident
The way my work ethic is set up, I just knew I'd have a flawless end of year review as I wrapped up year one at my job. I clearly thought wrong. There, in plain English, was a note to work on increasing my confidence. Turns out, playing it safe by verifying every little thing with my manager was getting on his last nerve.
Instead, he expected me to trust my own judgment enough to pull the trigger on deals and initiatives without crawling to him for validation.
At the very least, it was my responsibility to confidently offer up a solution and seek feedback on whether it aligned with his vision. Instead, I was operating with training wheels – too nervous to fully take charge.
From this experience, I learned the importance of trusting my decision-making. Before you can ever fully be successful, you'll be tasked with letting go of the Imposter Syndrome that often holds us back. Be determined to have a take-charge attitude in all that you do. You'll find that you are equipped with everything you need to make it happen. You just have to be confident enough to do it.
Always Add Value
Your employer is still in business because their company adds value in some way.
Their product alleviates a stress point or solves a particular problem for customers. Regardless of the industry or commodity, the company continues to function because of its proven worth. The moment the company fails at this function, it becomes expendable and will likely close its doors.
As an independent queen working for your throne, nothing is more important than showcasing the value you bring to the table. Everything we do should be reflective of this mindset. It's the stuff that thriving brands and awesome promotions are made of. Learn how you add value, and flaunt it in ways that make you indispensable to those around you.
Have a Plan
Once a quarter, my company hosts a huge meeting. In it, we discuss the progress of the company, as well as any setbacks we've faced. Next, we review a report that assesses the reason for these outcomes and covers our roadmap for the new quarter. Boring but crucial. Without a solid plan, companies will never experience true growth.
Our dreams are a lot like this. We need an ever-evolving game-plan for success. The roadmap will always change according to setbacks and accomplishments. Nevertheless, it ensures that we stay the course. It's how we stay focused on our own intended outcomes.
Whether you're looking to launch your own business, expand your skillset, or settle down in a relationship, you've gotta have a plan.
Get in the habit of evaluating where you are vs. where you hope to be by the next quarter. Afterward, be strategic about how you can get to your point. You'll be a step closer to measurable results you can see.
Do More Than Required
It turns out that most women earn promotions and raises at work by demonstrating that they are doing more than the duties spelled out under their job descriptions.
This leverage puts them in a position to speak to the value they add and thus advocate for more money. Going the extra mile will always make you stand out and set the tone for more opportunities. Make it a common practice to do more than required and you'll always come out on top in the end.
Cut the Fat
My company recently underwent a merger. The end result was a lot of overlap in company-wide responsibilities, and a ton of folks who just couldn't get with the new direction of the corporation. These two factors had the potential to affect the business's bottom line. This led to layoffs and reorganizations in an effort to ensure company stability. While unfortunate, the company chose to do what it felt was in its own best interest. Such is life.
When we get rid of the things that no longer align with our purpose, we allow ourselves to grow and evolve. When we don't, we risk negative outcomes and setbacks.
Be mindful of the things attached to you and consciously assess whether they are helpful or harmful to your focus. If it no longer serves you, cut it so that you can thrive.
It's About Who You Know
At work, nothing gets done without proper sign off from designated supervisors. Those that are in this position hold the power of the pen, and their influence is considered the determining factor on whether an initiative is funded or an interviewee gets the job.
We learn that making things happen requires us to first get in the room. From the right interactions, we are able to present ideas and initiatives, request raises, and develop rapport. When we fail to do these things, we are simply overlooked.
Getting in front of the right people works the same in our personal lives. Connections make the world go round. Make a valiant effort to connect with people who can help propel your goals. Make the sacrifice to pay for that conference or attend that social. It's the only way you'll be able to learn who the movers and shakers are and learn from them.
Be a Sales Pro
Whether you realize it or not, a major component of any job involves selling. Each week, when I submit story ideas to xoNecole, I am attempting to sell them on why readers will love my latest piece. When you are completing tasks early or providing outstanding performance results, it is all in an effort to sell the right people on your capabilities. In turn, this leads to opportunities for growth.
Without this vital component, you might never receive a raise or a bonus, or worse, you might be let go.
Whether it's to avoid negative outcomes or yield more positive results, on a day-to-day basis, we sell ourselves. Keep that same energy when it comes to your career. Look at each interaction as an opportunity to sell yourself. You never know who's watching your pitch and how it can work to your benefit in the future.
Put your best foot forward at all times and blessings will keep falling in your lap.
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Roscoe Dash joined xoMan host Kiara Walker to share the journey of his personal and spiritual evolution—from the party anthems that made him famous to a deeper life rooted in faith, family, and purpose. This episode offers an honest look at how the artist has grown beyond early fame, addressing fatherhood, masculinity, creativity, and healing.
Dash opened up about the internal transformation that has guided him away from chasing the spotlight and toward seeking peace. “Faith and fear can’t occupy the same space,” he said, underscoring his shift toward a more spiritually grounded life. Throughout the interview, he emphasized the importance of self-reflection:
“The most important conversations to me, honestly, outside of the ones you have with God, is the ones you have with yourself in the mirror.”
Dash is focused on the man he’s become. “I’m not the accolades I’ve achieved—I’m the person who achieved them,” he added, pointing to a broader understanding of identity and worth. A large part of that growth has come through fatherhood, especially raising daughters, which he said has deepened his understanding of love. “Love is unconditional and love loves to love no matter what,” he shared.
He also spoke candidly about the pressures of fame and its impact on creativity. “Chasing fame can kill your creativity as a musician,” he warns. Instead, his advice to other artists is simple but clear: “Keep your focus on your art form, whatever that may be, and stay passionate.”
The conversation also touches on gender dynamics and emotional safety in relationships. “Safe men make soft women. If she feels safe, she’ll melt like butter,” he said, challenging traditional notions of masculinity. Roscoe also offers wisdom on discernment and spiritual testing: “Sometimes the devil will give you what looks better than your blessing.”
Ultimately, Dash has learned to embrace peace over chaos. “All I can do is control what I can control. And that's how I respond to things and what I'm giving out,” he said. It’s a thoughtful, soulful side of Roscoe Dash that many may not expect—but one that leaves a lasting impression.
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I Tried It: 3 Low-Maintenance Wigs That Will Elevate Your Look This Season
There's nothing like the feeling you get when your hair is done. It can instantly boost your confidence and put you in a great mood. I've never been a stranger to hair trends and I often experiment with the latest braided styles and colors.
But there are moments when I just don't feel like doing my hair. I'm natural and a lot of times I will braid or twist my hair up and cover it with a scarf or turban. However, when I crave a different look without the hassle of styling, I reach for a wig.
I've always had a love-hate relationship with wigs. Sometimes, I struggle to get them to lay flat and don't get me started with the bonding glue process. So when it comes to wearing wigs, I like to keep it nice and breezy around this b--- (word to Katt Williams), especially in the summertime.
That's why I jumped at the chance to try these three versatile wigs from Luvme Hair. Each one offers a unique look and is surprisingly low maintenance, which aligns perfectly with my philosophy that wearing wigs should make life easier. Let’s dive into the three styles below.
Headband Wig
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This was the first wig I tried on, and I instantly fell in love with it. So much so that it took me weeks to even consider trying the other two. I’m partial to colored hair, especially blonds, browns, and reds, so I was skeptical about the jet black hair. However, I think the color, combined with the curl pattern, worked surprisingly well for me.
One of the things I really liked about this wig was that I didn’t have to braid my hair down first. I could simply throw it over a low ponytail, which is the epitome of a low-maintenance style. The headband has combs inside and velcro on the ends, ensuring a secure fit.
Half Wig
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I had never worn a half wig before, so I faced some challenges. I cornrowed the bottom half of my hair where the wig would sit, but I believe this made it more difficult to use the combs. It might just be me though. I straightened the top part of my hair to blend it with the wig, which looked cute for about five minutes.
Firstly, I have a brown/blonde color mix on the ends of my hair, and the half wig is black. So, I had to hide some of the color (I didn’t have time to dye the wig). Secondly, straightening my hair myself is always a hassle because it never lasts long. Add to that the summer humidity, and you get a hot mess. Despite all this, I managed to get some cute pictures before things got out of control, and that’s all that matters, right?
Would I consider this a low-maintenance hair style? Yes and no. I think it’s unrealistic for me during the summer, especially since I enjoy summer activities. However, when the weather cools down, I’ll definitely rock it, dyed, of course.
Bob
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Now, this is the wig I was nervous about. I never had a bob and I didn't think I would like it. But once I put bobiana on, my mind instantly changed. I finally understood why the gworls rave about the bob so much. It was giving boss. It was giving grown woman. It was giving the bob means business. Iykyk. It was the ultimate statement.
I will say when I first put it on, one side of my wig just would not lay flat. It took some trial and error, but I finally managed to get it to look good. With the bob, I highly recommend braiding your hair down first as small as you can so it can lay as flat as possible. I really liked the ash blonde color, which is perfect for summer. The length also makes it a great low-maintenance style for the season, so you don't have to worry about the hair making your neck sweaty.
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