5 Ways To Stop Self-Sabotaging Yourself

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Have you ever found yourself at happy hour knowing you should be home cooking since you are on your last dollar before you get paid, but whisper "treat yo' self" anyway?


How about knowing damn well you have to be up early the next day for work or an important engagement, but you stay up all night doing God knows what, and are scrambling the next morning to get where you have to go?

You want a Russell Wilson, but you just can't seem to stop texting Mr. Right Now who views you proposing to see a movie coming out next month as "moving too fast"?

Well, I have some news for you. You are self-sabotaging.

Self-sabotage are self-defeating behaviors that result in us interfering with our goals. Whether it's about work or a relationship, we convince ourselves that we are somehow undeserving of the very thing that we may have or want, and create instances where we can lose those things. It can stem from Impostor Syndrome, fear of failure, or a lack of faith in our own capabilities or sense of self-worth.

If you have a tendency to self-sabotage, what you might fail to realize is that you are blocking your own blessings and preventing yourself from reaching your full potential. However, just as you are blocking yourself, you can push yourself to create a life you love. At the end of the day, the only thing that is stopping you is you. Here are 5 ways to stop sabotaging your own happiness and take back control of your life.

1. Stop Running

Ask yourself: What am I afraid of? Often times, because of our fears and uncertainties, we find ourselves clinging to the very things that will hold us back in the long run. But you could identify exactly what is scaring you, or what emotion you are running from, by making a shift you will be able to overcome that obstacle.

Sometimes we are afraid to let go of Mr. Unavailable, Mr. Abusive, or plain old Mr. Not The One because we are afraid Mr. Right will not show up. Okay, what if he doesn't right away? Is your life that unbearable without a relationship? Face those fears of abandonment or dying alone head on in therapy instead of acting them out in toxic relationships.

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