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I'm Not A Fan Of My BFF's Man -​ This Is How I Make Our Friendship Work
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I'm Not A Fan Of My BFF's Man -​ This Is How I Make Our Friendship Work


When you're in your 40s and single, it's not uncommon to be the only one in your circle who isn't in a serious relationship or married. With that being the case, it's almost inevitable that at least one of your friends is going to have a spouse that you're not particularly thrilled about.

In walks one of my girlfriend's husband. Just in case she or he happens to read this, I'm going to be vague on the details. Let's just say that he's smart and pretty cool upon first meeting him. But as you get to know him, he can be super-opinionated, a little controlling, with a dash of insecure. #ugh

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Since he's that way, it makes moments of his marriage with my friend challenging to say the least (especially that insecure part). Also, because she and I are close, I hear the brunt of a lot of their issues. And that? That results in me giving him major side-eye; especially since over the years, progress has been S-L-O-W. Not to mention that he's patronizing and condescending—with her, me, the mailman…it doesn't matter—which are two of my BIGGEST pet peeves.

That said, people who know me know that I am pretty direct and that another one of my pet peeves is lying. Put those all of those things together and yep, my friend knows that her husband isn't my favorite person in the world. Still, we find a way to make our friendship work. Not just work, THRIVE.

If you've got a friend who has a spouse you're not super fond of and you either feel guilty about it, or you're not sure if your friendship can survive your slick-disgust towards them, I just wanted to take out a moment to share some insight on how my friend and I…cope.

1.I Respect The "Rank"

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Listen, some of my friends will tell you that I've come to their weddings and cried more than anyone else there. Not because I'm jealous; it's because I get that when one of your besties jumps the broom, like it or not, the relationship dynamic is bound to change. Calling all hours of the night is inappropriate. Randomly hanging out is unrealistic. So is putting them in the position of choosing between you and their spouse because, guess what? THE SPOUSE COMES FIRST. Since my friend knows that I know that, she feels like I respect the relationship even if I'm not thrilled about him as a person.

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