Chlöe Bailey Addresses The Backlash She Received For Her Sex Scene On ‘Swarm’
Chlöe Bailey is the epitome of unbothered after the actress addressed the massive backlash she received on social media for her infamous sex scene with co-star Damson Idris on Amazon Prime's Swarm.
In the hit limited series about how a fan's obsession with her favorite pop star drives her to kill, the 24-year-old played Marissa, Idris' love interest. Although Bailey's role in the show was brief, the "Have Mercy" vocalist seemed to get viewers all flustered when a scene from the first episode, which showcased her and Idris being intimate, went viral.
The reason behind the scrutiny stemmed from many people placing judgment on Bailey, who many tend to forget is a grown woman, for oversexualizing herself online by posting provocative photos and videos.
Chloe Bailey Talks Swarm Sex Scene
In a recent interview with Big Boy TV, Bailey opened up about the uproar surrounding the sex scene and how her male counterpart didn't receive any flack for it.
During the discussion, host Big Boy tried to understand all the commotion in Bailey's scene, which only showed a reflection of her nude body in the mirror, by saying he watched the show's clip at least three times to figure out what was wrong. The Grown-ish star shared that the only reason people were upset about that scene was not due to Swarm's plot but because it was her portraying the character.
"I'm an actress, you know, and I feel like it's about art. When I first received the script, I was just like (gasp). It was just insane and gorgeous. I think people are actually forgetting the plot of that scene,” Bailey said. “It's not about seeing me in the mirror of that scene, but because I think it's me doing it, that's what blows it out of proportion. But I'm barely seen for two seconds in that."
Chlöe Bailey comments on if Damson Idris received any backlash from 'Swarm' sex scene
As the conversation shifted to Idris, whose fully nude body was on display in the scene, and if he received any backlash, Bailey stated that because he is a man, no one passed any judgment.
"I don't think so. Because he's a man," she quipped. Although Idris has yet to comment on this, this revelation shows a double standard within the entertainment industry because, as Big Boy would point out, following Bailey's statement that the actor was being condemned for the same scene.
Later, Bailey would reiterate that she was simply doing her job despite what others may think or feel regarding the scene.
"But I'm an actress. I was doing my job, and I think people just have to kind of remember that I'm an adult and I'm an artist. Nothing was seen that they haven't seen from me."
(L-R) Damson Idris, Dominque Fishback, and Chlöe Bailey.
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Chloe Bailey addresses how she felt reading the script and seeing the Swarm sex scene:
Bailey further proved her point that many individuals that negatively commented on the clip seemed to overlook the show's premise as she described her feelings toward initially reading the script and acknowledging that she had to participate in a sex scene.
While praising Idris and Dominique Fishback's performances in Swarm, Bailey said, "Well, because I'm an actress, I'm not reading it as Chlöe is going to a sex scene. I'm reading it as Marissa is in a scene, and her sister is watching."
"That's what people are forgetting. It's about the tension between Damson and Dom [Fishback], who did incredible acting in this show, and I was just seen in the reflection for two seconds," she added.
Big Boy would agree with Bailey's remarks and replied that the only people who would find fault with that scene were those who didn't watch the entire series and only saw the circulating clip.
This isn't the first time Bailey has discussed Swarm's sex scene. Earlier this month, during an interview with Deadline at South by South West (SXSW), she expressed that despite her persona on social media as a sexually liberated woman, she isn't that experienced and has only had a few partners.
Bailey went on to say that her co-star Idris helped her get comfortable with the sex scene by cracking jokes in between takes and having limited people on set.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Another season of Love Is Blind has come to a close, and almost two months later we’re still unpacking the drama that is Clay and AD. The finale, reunion, and post-interviews with Clay and AD after season six of Love Is Blind left millions of people wondering - why couldn’t AD see the signs? Clay told her he had a fear of marriage, his parents experienced infidelity, and he seemed to have many doubts about saying, "I do."
After changing his mind at the altar and hearing AD question why she feels like she’s never enough, I was finished watching. I didn’t need to hear anything else because, at that moment, I realized this wasn’t about Clay; this was about AD feeling inadequate before she ever met Clay.
If I’m honest, I don’t watch much dating television. TikTok keeps me updated with the clips that I need to see in order to be kept in the loop, but it’s difficult for me to watch an entire season of dating TV because seeing Black women settle for less and questioning their beauty is a trigger for me. In many ways, there were points in my life where I was AD, settling and ignoring red flags because I wanted to be loved.
Now, on the other side, it doesn’t feel good to see Black women lower their standards on national television. There have been many hot takes on this couple and who was in the wrong. Did Clay play in AD’s face or did she not listen to the truth of what he told her from day one? Was his reason for joining the show to promote his business and not to find the one?
We’ll never know the truth, but what we can do is learn tactics to better our self-worth. Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Denise Francis shared her expertise with xoNecole on what tangible steps to take to improve feelings of worthiness. “Self-love blooms in a garden where self-worth is planted, nourished, and whole. However, when your self-worth is challenged, displaced, or broken, it could be difficult to rebuild," Denise explains.
How To Rebuild Self-Worth
During her self-love coaching sessions, Denise likes to walk her clients through the cornerstones of rebuilding self-worth: grace and self-compassion. To her, self-worth is never lost, it's only displaced, so practicing self-compassion and giving yourself grace is a must. "We tend to place our self-worth in entities and people of ourselves such as relationship status, physical appearance, material possessions, social media followings, what others think of us, and more. Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth.
"Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth."
"When we place our value into people or things, we tend to feel that we are not enough, worth it, special, or important when relationship status, job titles, friendships, and physical appearances are lost or changed. We then tend to feel lost within ourselves because we’ve placed our value outside of ourselves. Using grace and compassion, you can rebuild your self-worth by returning home to who you are at your core," she concludes.
How To Return Home To Yourself
Denise advises taking a step back and using self-reflection through journaling by answering the following journaling prompts:
First, ask yourself, "What do you tend to attach your self-worth to and why?"
Is it your relationships, your job title, your finances, your appearance, etc.? Why do you think you place so much emphasis on external status? How does it make you feel when you are defining yourself through these entities and/or people outside of yourself?
Then, ask yourself, "Without these things, who am I?"
Once you have your answers, show yourself kindness, remove the shame, and, as Denise says, "Redefine yourself by detaching your value from the things and people you have no control over and no longer serve you. Challenge yourself to define yourself outside of titles and societal values."
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person. You begin to find value in the way you love instead of your relationship status, your compassion instead of your popularity, your drive instead of your income/job title, and your heart instead of your physical appearance," she adds.
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person."
"Be intentional with healing your self-worth by leaning into the people and things that nourish your core values. Surround yourself with the people who love and cherish you, they will always remind you just how valuable you truly are."
It all goes back to self-compassion and grace. As Denise explains, leading with those two things as you heal and rebuild your self-worth allows you to reduce negative self-talk that might come up for you. "This weakens thoughts like, 'I am not enough... why am I never enough?'" she shares, "And 'I don't deserve this while strengthening thoughts like 'I deserve better,' 'I am enough,' and 'I am worth it.'"
Denise continues, "Once you return home and remember the irreplaceable person you are, you can rebuild your self-worth by placing it back where it belongs. It belongs to you."
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