

If you ever walk into my house, it’s going to be rare that you don’t smell some sort of scent that’s coming from a soy candle, a diffuser, or an Air Wick plug-in (if not all three). For me, the sense of smell is so important — and science certainly backs me on that. Not only does smell do practical things like alerting you to potential danger, helping you to taste your food better, and even making you aware of certain health-related issues, but smell is also tied to memory, emotion, and relational bonding.
Since this is the time of the year when the cooler weather probably has you spending a lot more time indoors than usual, I wanted to share with you 10 scents that are signature ones for fall — ones that, by just breathing them in (whether it’s via a room in your house or applying it in essential oil form on your body), they can do wonderful things for your mind, body and spirit too (by the way, although all of these have proven health benefits, we’re just gonna simply focus on the power and purpose of their scent today).
1. Cranberry
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Something that I like about the smell of cranberries is that they are fruity while also being really crisp — if that makes sense. It’s the kind of scent that is clean and invigorating while also being festive at the same time since cranberries are a fruit that is pretty much in abundance during the holiday season. What makes it a great smell to incorporate into your home is the fact that cranberry can be invigorating and yet, if you are looking for something that will reduce your stress levels, cranberry can do that for you too.
2. Vanilla
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Vanilla smells very sweet and even…warm — warm in the sense of being very comforting and yet intimate at the same time. And when you look at it from this perspective, it probably makes sense that vanilla has a reputation for providing an aphrodisiac effect. Even if you’re not looking to “set the mood,” though, vanilla is still a perfect fall scent because it helps to reduce stress, and induce calm and it can help you to have a more positive attitude as well. Also, if you’re looking to get a good night’s rest, vanilla can help you in that department too.
3. Cedarwood
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If you want your living room to smell like a marriage between being out in the woods and citrus fruit, believe it or not, cedarwood can make that happen for you. And, fascinatingly enough, that combination will not only help to deodorize the rooms of your house but reduce tension and even help to bring you clarity.
Something else that’s pretty awesome about the smell of cedarwood is if you’re working on a project and you need to focus a bit better, taking the smell in is highly beneficial. Or if you’ve had a really long day and want nothing more than to sleep soundly throughout the night, cedarwood also works perfectly in that way.
4. Cinnamon
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To me, cinnamon smells spicy, sweet, and also pretty warm — kind of like vanilla with a strong “kick” to it. And when it comes to its aromatherapy benefits, baby, it’s definitely one that you should try. Studies have proven that the scent of cinnamon not only helps to boost your creativity levels, cinnamon is good for your brain, aids in decreasing depression-related symptoms, can decrease feelings of fatigue and irritability — and, since it also falls into the aphrodisiac demographic, make sure that you at least light one cinnamon soy candle before the fall (or winter) season ends.
5. Pine
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What is it that the old Pine-Sol commercials used to say? Something along the lines that pine creates a fresh and clean scent? Their marketing team is actually right about that because there are studies to support that pine helps to purify the air and is a great ingredient (in essential oil form) to clean your house. Not only that but the scent of pine can help to decrease anxiety levels, relax your system and, if you need something that will quickly put you in a better mood, pine will make that happen also.
Plus, since Christmas trees are oftentimes pine ones, the smell of pine can put you in the holiday spirit, if that happens to be your favorite time of the year.
6. Apple
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Is it just me or is it hard to explain what apples smell like? I mean, don’t they basically smell like…apples? LOL. Anyway, if you like the sweetness that comes from sniffing one or if nothing makes you feel cozier than the aroma of homemade apple crisp, this is the fall scent for you. That said, if all of the hustle and bustle of the fall season has you feeling a bit tense or anxious, apples can help you to feel more relaxed.
Another thing that’s worth noting is since apples (and pears) are technically a part of the rose family, that may also explain why they are so fragrant. Finally, something that is really cool about this particular scent is if you follow recipes like this one here, you can make your own apple essential oil with the help of it and a carrier oil like grapeseed or plum.
7. Cloves
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The scent of cloves is something else that’s a mixture of spicy and sweetness. I like it a lot because, any time I use the fragrance in my own house, it immediately makes me think of things like cool weather, falling leaves, and apple cider. Believe it or not, a lot of people like to use the smell of cloves in their bathroom while soaking in a warm bath because it creates a calming effect.
Then, once you get out of the tub, if you and your bae would like to do something like…maybe some orgasmic meditation (check out “What Exactly Is 'Orgasmic Meditation'?”), the sensual undertones of cloves can help you both to concentrate on each other better. Perfect.
8. Sandalwood
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I like sandalwood a lot because it’s got an earthy-meets-sensual-meets-almost milky smell to it. Because of this, in essential oil form, it tends to smell pretty amazing on both men and women. Aside from the fact that this is another scent that can de-stress you, sandalwood is very seductive which also makes it an effective aphrodisiac. Some other perks of sandalwood are it can help to improve your level of focus, sharpen your memory, and get you to sleep soundly at the end of every night.
9. Plum
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Oh, the sugar plum fairy. It’s a topic that comes up a lot around now because, for one reason, it’s the words that are used in the title of a song that is featured in The Nutcracker. And so, that alone makes the smell of fresh plums a befitting fall scent. If you like something that is very sweet and fruity with a hint of floral, that is what plum will bring into your life. It’s actually so pleasant that it’s a “base ingredient” in many perfumes. That’s because it has a way of being alluring and relaxing at the same time.
10. Peppermint
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And finally, there’s peppermint. Minty smells are super exhilarating which is one of the best things about having peppermint in your space because, if you want a traditional holiday scent that is able to energize you, increase productivity, and even control your appetite, you definitely need to put some peppermint oil into one of your diffusers.
Since it’s also able to boost your workout performances, clear out your sinuses, and give you energy all from just taking a whiff of it, please don’t let this fall season come to an end without having a peppermint candle somewhere in your house. No holiday season should go by without it!
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Hopefully, this was a quick reminder that your sense of smell is as relevant as the other four (sight, touch, taste, and hearing). So, why not pamper that part of your being with at least one of these scents over the next few weeks? They don’t just smell amazing — as you just saw, they can do wonders for you in a myriad of different ways too. Enjoy!
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Pack A Travel Case With These 12 Items For Amazing 'Summer Vacation Sex'
It’s kind of funny that while I’m literally in the process of writing this article, the Los Angeles Times published “How to get lucky on your family vacation” hours prior. LOL. Although this year marks a bit of a dip in the amount of Americans who plan on taking a summer vacation (because this administration ain’t making coin-keeping easy, y’all) — it’s still being reported that around 53 percent will do so in the name of rest, relaxation and spending quality time with their loved ones.
And for many, the loved ones category absolutely includes their bae. And if that is the case, that probably means that sex is somewhere on the menu.
Yep. I actually read one survey (that consisted of 2,000 people) that said folks tend to have twice as much sex while they are on vacation than they do when they’re at home. It makes sense too when you factor in that you have less to do (unless you’re traveling with those folks who act like you need an itinerary for every damn thing — and we all know one…SMDH), which makes you less stressed out, which makes it easier to feel sexy and to want to get sexual.
And so, in the spirit of that indeed being the case, I want to make sure that you carve out a corner of your suitcase or carry-on to include at least half of the following 12 things that are on this list — things that can help to make “summer vacation sex”…that much hotter, y’all.
1. Edible-Grade Sunscreen
It can’t be said enough that, no matter how melanated you may be, your skin needs sunscreen. Not only to protect yourself from the risk of skin cancer (which 1 in 5 Americans will get in their lifetime) but from premature aging that can come from sun damage too. That said, if the urge arises to have sex outside somewhere, I did find some edible-grade sunscreen, in case you’re either worried about what sex in the sun will do to your skin or how all of the chemicals in sunscreen will affect your (digestive) system. The company is called Sky & Sol and you can read up on them here.
2. Flavored Lip Balm
If you’ve ever wondered why your lips are so susceptible to being chapped, it’s because they don’t contain any oil glans to keep them moisturized. This is especially important to keep in mind when the weather is extremely cold or hot because that can do a real number on the sensitive skin that your lips are made out of. That’s why it’s essential to stay well-hydrated and to also keep some lip balm in tow. Lip balm is especially designed to moisturize your lips, reduce chapping, exfoliate, soothe irritation and protect your lips from UV damage. As a bonus, lip balm will also help to keep your lips super soft and kissable; especially if you get the flavored kind. #wink
3. Condoms
I’m still out here, literally shaking my damn head, that reportedly, only one-third of men and one-fourth of women use condoms (and even many of those folks don’t do it consistently). It can’t be said enough that if you’re not in a monogamous (married) or exclusive (dating) relationship where you both are getting regularly tested and are on some other form of birth control (unless you want to get pregnant) — you absolutely should be using condoms and, as a woman, you should not solely rely on your partner to have some that are ready and available.
Not just because you should be responsible for your body and health but because not all condoms are made equal, so you should bring along some that you prefer/enjoy. If you’d like a lil’ help picking those out, check out “These Are The Kinds Of Condoms Your Vagina Would Actually Prefer.”
4. Crotchless Swimsuit
Packing some sexy lingerie? I certainly hope that goes without saying. If you’ve got a hot tub around, though and you want to “get it in” without getting totally naked (so that nosey people won’t see every damn thing), you do know that there are some crotchless swimsuits out in these streets, right? An example of one is here. Of course, you can always do what Beyoncé said in “Drunk in Love” and just move ish over to the side but…I’m just giving you another creative option…if you wanted one.
5. Blindfolds
If you’d like to cultivate an atmosphere of mystery or anticipation, a simple blindfold will do the trick. There is another reason why I think they are great for summer vacation (sex) trips, though — if your hotel room doesn’t come with blackout curtains and you want to have a quickie or two without the room being so bright, putting on a blindfold can solve that “problem” too.
6. Waterproof Sex Toys
Who said that you have to wait until you get to your hotel room to engage in some foreplay? If you bring a couple of sex toys around, you can tease each other practically anywhere — and if they are waterproof, that includes in the ocean or pool. Some, you can pair up with your smartphone in order to stimulate your partner from just about anywhere. Whew, chile.
7. Homemade Sex Toys Too
Speaking of sex toys, you’d probably be amazed at how many things in your house can double up as one. A spatula or wooden spoon is great for spanking. A necktie, some tights and a pair of clothespins work well for BDSM (use your imagination, sis). An electronic toothbrush is its own vibrator. A string of (lubricated) pearls in between your thighs? Girrrl…GIRL. Oh, and cop a silicone ice tray that comes in different shapes.
When you are rubbing ice in the shape of fruit, flowers or even animals over each other’s bodies, you’ll be surprised by how the combination of the cold with the texture of the space of the ice will stimulate you (make the ice out of juice instead of water for an extra sweet treat!).
8. Portable Charger
I don’t know what took me so long to get a damn portable charger but it’s one of the best things that ever happened to me. What I personally purchased is the ANKER Zolo Power Bank, 20,000mAh 30W High-Speed Portable Charger. I can throw it in my purse, it charges fast, I can use more than once before needing to recharge it; plus, it complements most devices. A great thing to keep in mind, so that your sex toys don’t end up going out on you while you’re…wherever you are.
9. Massage Oil Candle
Going through security at the airport can be a HEADACHE. And while, how long it can take, oftentimes varies on the airport you’re at and the time you are traveling (you can read more about that here), the process is going to be especially annoying if they have to go through your bags. Since you can currently only pack a quarter-sized bag of liquid products on your carry-on, my two cents would be to leave the massage oil at home and pack a massage oil candle instead.
That way, you can still engage in some temperature play (check out “Hot Sex: 10 Super Sultry Reasons To Bring Wax Play Into Your Bedroom”) while you’re on the road without going through any security hassle hang-ups. Some edible massage oil candles are located right here.
10. Wine Cooler Sleeve
Say that you end up going on a wine tasting tour while you’re on vacation and you end up purchasing a bottle or you simply want to toast with some champagne but you’re not sure how to store the bottle. Did you know that there are wine cooler sleeves that are lightweight, portable and will help to keep your bottles cold without condensation for hours on end? A brand that comes highly recommended is here.
11. Rose Petals
I think there are a few reasons why rose petals are oftentimes used to create a sexy mood. Red symbolizes love and passion. Rose petals are soft to the touch. The scent of them is considered to be an aphrodisiac as well. For all of these reasons, bring along some fresh rose petals for your hotel bed. If you put a damp paper towel in something like a small Tupperware container and then place the rose petals inside of that, they won’t dry out quickly which will make them feel great once you’re ready to start rolling around in them (you can also keep them in your hotel room’s fridge to further extend their shelf life).
12. Mints
Morning sex. Outdoor sex. Whatever kind of sex — it’s always going to be better when your breath and his smell good. And just so you don’t have to lug around a big bottle of mouthwash, pack some mints. Altoids are always going to be my number one draft pick — yet go with whatever are your personal faves. They’re the perfect hack for unbelievable summer vacation sex. Wouldn’t you agree? Enjoy!
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