10 Sizzling Tips For Getting The Most Out Of Sex This Summer Season

1. Rent a Vacation House (for the Weekend)

Whether you are planning to go out of town before the summer ends or you are going to stick close to home and would like a change of scenery, why not rent a vacation house for the weekend? You can choose a fantasy house, there is plenty of room and privacy and sometimes, the cost is even cheaper than a really nice hotel room. For a list of vacation rentals to choose from, it’s probably best to go to your favorite search engine and put “vacation homes for rent” in the search field (although Trip Advisor, Cozycozy and VacationRenter are some good places to start).

2. Experiment with Lubricant Gel

Say that you do decide to go with the whole vacation house idea. If it happens to have a pool and you want to get a lil’ frisky in it, make sure to bring some lubricant gel along. Gel lube, specifically, because it’s designed to not drip and last for a longer period of time. Matter of fact, Astroglide has a silicone gel that is waterproof (here). Hmph. Even better!

3. Purchase a Galaxy Projector

If you decide to go the staycation route this year, make it a sexcation by giving your bedroom a bit of a starry night feel. One way to do that is by investing in a galaxy projector (like this one here). It can have you feeling like you’re experiencing the Northern Lights from the comfort and convenience of your own home — not to mention that a beautiful night sky can be uber romantic (and you can “take it all in” without having to deal with any bugs or humidity!).

4. Get Some Glow-in-the Dark Lingerie and Body Paint

While the stars are glowing, why not take things up a notch by making yourself glow as well? You can do this by either wearing some lingerie that happens to glow in the dark or purchasing some body paint that does. Personally, this takes me back to the opening scene of the movie, Belly (Nas, DMX) where they walk into the strip club (if you know, you know). Even though everyone was pretty clothed (even the strippers were dialed down), there was something very sensuous about melanated folks…glowing.

Now just imagine how you would look in a neon teddy (like this one here) or how sexy it would be to paint the favorite parts of your man’s body in colors that you can only see with the lights off. A highly-reviewed body paint brand is located here — and I’ll even throw in some glow-in-the-dark sex-themed dice for foreplay’s sake. You can find those here.

5. Freeze Your Sheets

If you’re someone who’s a bit on the adventurous side and you like to do things like pitch a tent in your backyard, so that you can have sex inside of it — if the summer heat is holding you back, you can always freeze your sheets beforehand. Yep, you heard me right. If you put your clean sheets in a plastic bag and place them in your freezer for about an hour, they will be super cool and comfortable to roll around in while you’re dealing with the hot temperatures of the summer season.

6. Prepare a Sex-Themed Picnic

Summertime picnics are always nice. In the spirit of what we’re talking about, make sure that yours is romantic, sexy and features foods that are aphrodisiacs. Watermelon. Oysters. Strawberries. Artichokes. Chocolate. And definitely don’t forget to top everything off with a nice bottle of red wine or some champagne. My recommendation is to use that same tent that I just mentioned (indoors or outdoors) and decorate the inside of it with some blankets, throw pillows and battery-operated candles (no fire and no heat). If you wait until right around sunset, it really can be the perfect date.

7. Have a Sexy Water Balloon Fight

It’s interesting. Sometimes I will do my own social experiment with my clients. Recently, that meant asking them what they wanted more from their sex life. I found it fascinating that, although none of the couples I polled knew each other (at least, as far as I know), at least one person in each dynamic said that they wished that their sex life had some more fun in it. And that got me to thinking about games that can be played with a sensual twist to them. For instance, a water balloon fight. Go outside, in your backyard, with some sexy swimwear on and play a game of 20 questions.

Make sure that they all have something to do with sex with your partner and put a time limit on it. If you say — for instance — that they have 30 seconds to respond and they don’t…BOOM! Aim a water balloon in their direction. They have the right to run or get out of dodge; however, if you hit them, there is a sexual request that they have to meet that night. Now watch how quickly this becomes your favorite summer pastime. #wink

8. Incorporate Some Flavored Ice Cubes

10 points if I say “Mookie!” and “ice” and you know exactly what I’m talking about (if you don’t, click here and you’ll get the gist…for the most part). Although when the topic of temperature play comes up, heat is what usually comes to mind (check out “Hot Sex: 10 Super Sultry Reasons To Bring Wax Play Into Your Bedroom"), in the summer, swap it over to ice cubes — then make it all the more sexy by pouring some juice into some ice cube trays and freezing them.

When they become ice, rub them on some of your partner’s erogenous zones and then lick the water off; then have them return the favor. Girrrrrl.

9. Massage One Another with Some DIY Mango Body Butter

I honestly can’t believe that it’s been a whopping five years since I wrote the article, “12 Different Massage Types. How To Know Which Is Right For You.” for the platform. In it, it shares how you can select the type of massage that benefits you most based on your particular needs (at any given time). And although I do shout-out couple’s massages at the end, it is important to mention here that erotic/sensual massages are specifically designed to not only de-stress you but sexually stimulate you too. 

Oh, and while you’re in the process of rubbing your partner in all of the right places, consider applying some homemade mango body butter. A very simple recipe is here — and if you add some mango essential oil to it? It will smell amazingly tropical up in your seduction space.​

10. Toast Each Other with Some Berry Sorbet Champagne

There are so many articles that I’ve written where I recommend toasting yourself and/or your partner. That’s because, something that pretty much all humans have in common, is the need to be affirmed and appreciated. As I close this out, before gettin’ it in, encourage your partner to join in with you both saying what some of your favorite things are about each other…sexually. What you enjoy doing, what your favorite body parts are, the things that you look forward to most, etc. Then toast each other when you are finished.

My recommendation is with some champagne because it is a proven aphrodisiac. And since it’s warm outside, add some berry (another aphrodisiac) sorbet to it (a recipe is located here). It’s a delicious way to start or end a summer-themed sex event. Enjoy. Fully.

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