We have a sneak peek of every trend you'll need to obsess over next season.
New York Fashion Week is a fashion lover's fantasy full of trends, street style, and new obsessions. This February, we trekked from Industria to Spring Studios to Pier 59 on the island to ensure you have an efficient style guide come Fall/Winter.
And now that the week's come to an end, here's your #xoTrendReport!
Exclusive Interview with Son Jung Wan
Photography by Dani Elle Moore
We got the amazing opportunity to meet and chat with the South Korean designer, Son Jung Wan, before her fall collection was displayed for the world to see.
She told us, "This collection was inspired by romance and retro art by using different textures to convey a mood."
The spirit was enthralled by playful and feminine vibes through a soft and futuristic touch. She also shared that she loves being a designer because she enjoys creating collections every year and styling. We got a sneak peek before the show began and we were in awe!
Flip through this slideshow for more!
Left to right: Jiri Kalfar and Hakan Akkaya
It's safe to say that it's also OK to let your inner rock star shine with bold pieces. Whether it's thigh high boots or a cape, you have no choice but to slay the day.
Left to right: Chromat, Out of Order at Oxford Fashion Studio, Dian Pelangi at Indonesian Diversity
We love when brands use their platforms to portray a message. For example, Chromat is one of our faves because not only is it hella all-inclusive of all women but the designer lives to make the world a better place. Chromat designer, Becca McCharen-Tran hedged a new social topic of sustainability. During the show, models donned exotic adornments, reminiscent of Miami Beach where her inspiration derived from. Becca wants us to appreciate the raw of beauty of earth instead of continuing to overconsume it for our modern desires. Above all, Chromat wanted us to be aware of the plastic pollution because it truly effects mother Earth.
Left to right: 112 Mountainyam at Fashion Hong Kong, Anveglosa at Fashion Hong Kong, Heaven Please+ at Fashion Hong Kong, Farah Naz at Oxford Fashion Studio, Jyu Ri Ri at Oxford Fashion Studio, C'est D at Oxford Fashion Studio, Quaint at Oxford Fashion Studio, Harlienz X Ghada Al Buainain
Cues from the runway suggest that you ditch that simple black coat for an energetic overcoat. When the temperature drops, your outerwear is how you make a fashion statement so you should make sure you're saying the right thing.
Modesty is a FLY Policy
Left to right: Hogan McLaughlin, Noon by Noor, NONIE
Modesty led the runways in a simplistic way. From classic silhouettes to flowing separates, there's room to be a stylish minimalist next season. The key is to maintain a neutral color palette with tailored items.
The Color Purple
From top left: Cushnie, Sies Marjan, Tom Ford; Sally LaPointe, Christian Siriano, Kate Spade New York
...And not the classic film. Come this autumn, hues of lavender to plum will dominate the stores and you will be able to snag a popping piece of purple. You can opt for a head to toe monochromatic look or choose accessories for that perfect pop of color.
Prints, Prints and MORE PRINTS!
Left to Right: Dian Pelangi, Itang Yunasz, 2 Madison Avenue, Alleira Batik (all from Indonesian Diversity)
If you are lacking eclectic prints in your closet, it's time to step it up. Lucky for you, we still have time! We saw so many lush patterns and prints on the runway we are sure that you will have countless ways to rock this trend.
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
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What Are Intrusive Thoughts & How Do We Manage Them?
TW: some depictions of intrusive thoughts may be disturbing for readers.
Have you ever caught your mind drifting off to entertain the most disturbing scenarios imaginable? Maybe you can’t stop thinking of all the ways a loved one could pass away or worrying that you left every candle lit in your apartment to which you’d return to a home in ruins. If distressing ruminations like these have crossed your mind, you may be experiencing an intrusive thought.
What Are Intrusive Thoughts?
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted or distressing thoughts, images, or impulses that pop into your mind without your control or consent. These thoughts can be repetitive, unsettling, or even violent in nature, and can cause anxiety and frustration for those who experience them.
“Generally they're unwanted thoughts that come up in our head that interrupt what we're doing or thinking, and can feel very foreign,” says Adia Gooden, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist and host of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast. “It’s any thought that intrudes or interrupts what you are doing. They can be distressing and upsetting for us because it feels like we are not in control of them, and they're coming up out of nowhere and aren’t in line with how you normally think.”
What Causes Intrusive Thoughts?
Certain trauma or stress can contribute to the development of intrusive thoughts, so having a challenging experience from the past or current life situations may trigger them to form. “An intrusive thought could come in the form of a flashback, image, or a thought about something that's happened to you,” Dr. Gooden tells xoNecole. “When it gets to the point where you feel like you can't function or make clear decisions, that's when intrusive thoughts become really challenging.”
While some of the 1 billion videos found under the #intrusivethoughts hashtag on TikTok would lead you to believe that these thoughts are nothing more than casual displays of our imagination going untamed. Intrusive thoughts are more than sticking your hand in a soap dispenser, wanting to cut all your hair off at 3 a.m., or having a random impulse to eat fake bread in public.
The Anxiety & Depression Association of America reports that approximately six million individuals, equating to roughly two percent of the American population, encounter intrusive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are often linked with obsessive-compulsive disorders, but they can also manifest in individuals with post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, or anxiety.
Examples of Common Intrusive Thoughts
Because of the explicit nature of intrusive thoughts, they tend to cause shame and internal conflict in those who experience them. Although these thoughts can differ from person to person, these ideation can consist of:
- Violent or aggressive thoughts towards oneself or others, such as harming or killing someone;
- Sexual thoughts that are unwanted or inappropriate;
- Repetitive thoughts, such as a song or a phrase that keeps repeating in your mind;
- Contamination or germ-related thoughts or the fear of contamination and getting sick;
- Religious or blasphemous thoughts, such as questioning one's faith or having thoughts that go against religious beliefs;
- Doubts or uncertainty about one's own actions or decisions, such as fear of making a mistake or fear of not doing something right.
Intrusive Thoughts and OCD
That’s why Dr. Gooden encourages everyone to understand the difference between our fleeting thoughts and impulses and true, intrusive thoughts. “What level of distress does it cause and is it something you would never consider,” she says. “If you're finding that these thoughts are getting in the way of you living your life and that you're controlled by the thoughts, those are some signs that it would be good to get some support in navigating it.”
She also emphasizes the importance of understanding that while we may not always have control over our thoughts, we can control our behavior. “On TikTok, people are sort of blaming intrusive thoughts on their behavior, and our behavior is always a choice,” she says. “If we are in our right mind and we're not having a psychotic episode, our behavior is our choice — we are not obligated to follow any given thought that we have.”
Are Intrusive Thoughts Normal?
With intrusive thoughts, it’s natural to question whether these thoughts are “normal” to have. However, these thoughts are not meant to define who you are as a person but simply indicate that you have a functioning human mind with automated thoughts that you, or any of us, can’t control. These thoughts may come, but they don’t have to be acted upon, nor do they define who you are.
“I've worked with clients in the past who say, ‘Why am I thinking these things? What's wrong with me?’ But if you're not acting on the thought, then it's probably not a huge issue,” Dr. Gooden says. “If you are thinking a harmful thought towards yourself or someone else and you are making plans to act on that thought, then yes, we need to do something about it.”
How To Manage Intrusive Thoughts
If you are struggling with managing unwanted thoughts, Dr. Aida suggests taking these tips to help manage your mindset when they occur:
- "Recognize that it's a thought and thoughts are just thoughts. We often put a little bit too much weight on our thoughts, and that can create a lot of distress. But remember that thoughts are not facts."
- "Having a thought that's disturbing or upsetting doesn't make you a bad person, and it doesn't mean that you are suffering from a mental illness."
- "Sometimes the best thing you can do is say, 'Huh, that was an interesting thought. I'm going to let that go. That thought is not helpful for me right now."
- "Ask yourself: is this helpful? Is it helpful for me to buy into this thought and believe this thought? Asking that question can be really helpful because we are not at the mercy of our thoughts. If it's not helpful, you can let it go."
Intrusive thoughts can feel bizarre and foreign when they come up, but they aren't inherently "bad." Our minds can sometimes be filled with random and inappropriate thoughts, but that's what our stream of consciousness does: it thinks. Fortunately, we can release those thoughts at any moment; you don't have to follow through with them.
And ultimately, not every TikTok diagnosis is one that we should label ourselves with.
"It's important for people to acknowledge what they're experiencing but not run too quickly to diagnose themselves with some mental illness or disorder," Dr. Gooden advises. "It ends with confusion, and we miss the opportunity to understand the people who really do have that mental health challenge."
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