After what felt like the longest January ever, we've finally entered the short month of February with a bang!
We open the month still under the beams of a potent and dramatic Lunar Eclipse in Leo that lights up our leadership and creativity, while reminding us of our desire to stand out in the Aquarian crowd. February is a much calmer experience after the last two months of shifting planets, but we still have a potent Solar Eclipse (think of it like a super-charged New Moon) right after Valentine's Day that will have us thinking about the hopes and wishes we want to see grow in the future.
We may receive insight about what needs to be released so that we can stand up in our Leonine leadership and light up the collective Aquarian sky with our individual gifts. Mars in upbeat, enthusiastic Sagittarius will provide us with just enough fire to keep working through our Saturn in Capricorn projects, while the planets dance from socially active Aquarius into spiritual and dreamy Pisces. Spend time with friends and get involved in like-minded organizations during the first half of the month while we're in Aquarius. After that, take Pisces season as an opportunity to unplug from the matrix to defrag your inner workings before spring.
Find your sign's horoscope by clicking through the slideshow gallery below:
Aries
March 21 to April 19
If January felt like a battering from all the work that suddenly found its way onto your plate, Aries, February will give you a moment to catch your breath. The workload is still there, but you'll be given a chance to have some fun with friends and also get so much needed solo time.
Love/Sex:
With the Eclipses lighting up your sector of Romance, Creativity, as well as the House of Wishes & Friendships, there's some fated meetings in the cards for you this month. Pay attention to whom you meet when out enjoying yourself, as new friendships can easily lead to relationships. A word of advice would be not to try to make anything be anything other than it is. Practice the art of vulnerability and openness, Aries. Everyone knows you naturally kick ass, but do they know you have a heart worth loving up on as well?
Career:
Think about infusing more imagination and creativity into your work. Working hard doesn't have to mean working uninspired. Part of being a trendsetter is being brave enough to do something never seen before. Take the first half of the month to draw Inspiration from your friends who may share your vision. You may find yourself extra fired up about your life philosophy. if you've been itching to restart a spiritual practice, this would be an excellent time to start. You can use welcomed downtime alone to reconnect with your inner voice. Come Spring, this will pay dividends, energizing your work with the bright ideas you come up with this month..
Health:
Me Time is part of your prescription for the Month, and after the Solar Eclipse on the 15th, you may want to go inside your personal bunker until your birthday next month. Consider this the dream time that happens before one breaks out of a seedling shell. Meditation, visioning, dream journaling, or even a spiritual retreat would be super helpful. Once your soul feels sufficiently recharged and settled, you'll be ready to bust onto the scene for your Solar return!
Taurus
April 20 to May 20
What you're seeing around you is just the beginning of what's to come, Taurus. If it feels like all the major areas of your life are being turned on their head, it's because they are - and so are you! Believe it or not, change can be a good thing, and February is going to gently warm you up to the idea.
Love/Sex:
Redownload those dating apps, Taurus! Jupiter has been in your 7th House of Relationships since the Fall and all he wants to do is give you more, more, more! So if you're single, this would be a great time to swipe right more than left, or even just go out more with friends. Chances are high that you'll come across a few someones worth your time. Just try not to be too reckless. Mars in Sagittarius may urge you to leap before you look in matters of intimacy and bonding. No one is cute enough to share your ATM pin number with, let's not get carried away!
Career:
You may not see the fruit yet, Taurus, but know that fresh vibrant seeds are being planted in your House of Career and Reputation. However, before anything can grow, there's some cleaning up to be done. The Eclipses are going off in this House for you, so don't be surprised if you find yourself having to let go of a position or role because it no longer fits your life. Things may get a little funky going down the road as you figure yourself out. Just remember: it's out with the old, and in with the new you.Keep breathing, this isn't even your final form!
Health:
The majority of your health concerns stem from having too much on your plate this month, Taurus. Longer hours at work + a busier social calendar means less rest and a potentially lower immune system. That just means pay closer attention to maintaining equilibrium. Be sure you plan for unscheduled downtime to balance all your hard work.
Gemini
May 21 to June 20
Perhaps you did a bit too much bonding with others while we had that crowded House in Capricorn over most of January. In response, February may have you desiring some much needed space to gain some perspective and clarity about what actually feels comfortable when sharing your world with others. If long distance travel has been on your mind, February may bless you with an opportunity to get those wheels up
Love/Sex:
Mars, the planet of Action and Drive, is going to be kicking up a fuss in your relationship sector. Sometimes, our partners and lovers can become our enemies. Watch your mouth, Gemini, especially around the 28th where you may be speaking a bit too directly, leading to hurt feelings or straight up yelling matches.
Before it gets to that point, try channeling pent up energy into any activities you can do with a partner. Mars in Sagittarius loves a bit of travel and spontaneous adventure, so consider a trip away and saying "yes" to unexpected, unplanned day trips to stay in good spirits.
Career:
You may be given a chance to show off some of your lesser known talents this month. The Eclipses have been urging you to take a look at learning new outlooks and philosophies, so why not show off what you've gathered so far? Eventually, you may be in a position to share your acquired knowledge as an expert, so let's get some practice in now. Bring your unique imagination and insatiable curiosity to the table. Great things will follow.
Health:
Over-extending yourself to be of service to others can easily become a health issue if you're not careful, Gemini. Yes, you love people and they usually adore you as well, but too much of a good thing can quickly turn bad. It's okay to turn off your phone and set some boundaries with the people you care about. Pencil in some quiet time into your daily schedule early, it will pay off when you'll need the extra energy to pour into your work.
Cancer
June 21 to July 22
You may be seeking a vacation after the heaviness of the last month and, who knows, maybe you'll suddenly receive some extra money to take a quick break while the skies are still relatively peaceful. Dedicate this month to enthusiastically tying up loose ends that may be making your day-to-day difficult.
Love/Sex:
February could turn out to be a steamy month, if you're not too shy. Between Jupiter expanding upon your romantic possibilities and the Eclipses going off in your House of Intimacy and Bonding, you could be doing more than cuddling if you play your cards right. The trick is to be open and vulnerable, Cancer. Relationships are more than just contracted agreements, they're meant to deepen and replenish your emotional wellspring by exposing you to the good, the bad and the crazy. Go deep into the abyss, Brave Crabs!
Career:
You can probably feel the change in the air around your Career already, Cancer. After years of unexpected twists and turns, highs and lows, you're so looking forward to some stability in your work life. Get ahead of the curve by planning out some steps you'd like to take to climb up ambition staircase. You could see increased self-confidence with the Eclipse lighting up your Money and Values for the year. Take a calculated risk on some creative projects you've been tinkering with, and you may see positive results.
Health:
It's time to get up and go, Cancer. Mars is banging around your House of Heath and Daily Routine giving you a fiery dose of energy and enthusiasm to work through your to-do list. You may want to double check your progress, Mars in Sagittarius isn't known for dotting his I's or crossing his T's while he's burning through his list of things to do. In terms of activity, you may want to consider taking up a group sport with some friends to keep you feeling active.
Leo
July 23 to August 22
We're back again with more wild Eclipses to shake up your life, Leo! Exciting, right!? We open up February after a beautiful Blood Moon that will hopefully leave you feeling energized and self-confident. Dip your toe into a little bit of fun this month and see how it goes. After surviving January, Leo, you're game to show off a little.
Love/Sex:
February may promise lots of fun, Leo. Mars in Sagittarius is a real risk-taker and he's running about in your domain of Romance, Creativity and Children, demanding that you be more playful and adventurous! Spontaneity and optimism are the key to your heart this month, so try to go out and have a good time. Hit up that karaoke bar, say "yes" to blind dates or invites to hang out one-on-one with friends. If you're already in a committed relationship, this month would be an ideal time to show off your romantic side. The Solar Eclipse right after Valentine's Day will sow new seeds in your relationship sector. Perhaps, it time to remind everyone why it's such an honor to be in the company of royalty.
Career:
If you've been feeling some nagging dissatisfaction around your Career and Role in the world, Leo, that's right on schedule, but don't feel too much pressure to address it this month. Instead, fix your attention on building strong daily routines that will set you up to tackle whatever shifts may be on the way.
You may want to draw some inspiration from whatever it is you really enjoy with others this month, to give yourself clues on how you want your career and reputation to shift.
Money:
Keep your head on straight about your money this month. You may feel a bit fanciful about just how far your money can stretch, or you may be expecting money to appear that takes longer than expected. You can avoid most of this stress by just being fabulous on a budget. Show off just how much you can do with a little for now.
Virgo
August 23 to September 22
February is a fairly busy month for you, Virgo, but most of your activity will be around the home and tending to your daily needs. Remember your long-term work (thanks to Saturn in Capricorn) is about cultivating your individual creative self. Whatever you've been quietly working on will begin to feel more like second nature this month as you begin to incorporate more of your creativity into your day-to-day in clever and unusual ways. Later in the month, you may want to consider partnering with others to test drive what you've come up with so far.
Love/Sex:
February has a lovely energy for meeting people when the planets shift into Pisces. If you find yourself being courted, just say "yes." You could use a bit of fantasy (just watch out for liars and charlatans) but don't let your partners do all the work. You know how to love up on people well because you pay attention to the details most people miss. Turn romance into a fun project to see just how imaginative you can be when you put your heart and soul into it.
Career:
There could be some reshuffling in your day-to-day work activities coming up, Virgo. The Eclipses are going to be draining out any routines that could be counter-intuitive to you creating more success. Another possibility is looking at volunteering more energy to causes you enjoy, especially if related to being of service to the well-being of others. Humanitarian endeavors are especially highlighted for you this month. The world could definitely use a helpful hand from one of the hardest workers of the zodiac.
Health:
The Solar Eclipse on the 15th of the month lands inside your Health and Daily Routine sector Virgo. Consider planting new intentions about your overall health, mind, body and spirit. What are some activities or daily routines you can let go of so that new more exciting routines can take their place? Part of staying young at heart and sharp is being willing to embrace the unorthodox.
Libra
September 23 to October 22
You should be starting to see some of the fruit of your labor coming forth this month, Libra, but it's mainly for your eyes only. All the extra time spent at home doing repairs and renovations has ignited a desire to dabble in other creative endeavours. Indulge in some playtime of the solo and group variety to see how it feels. The Eclipses are bringing you new like-minded friends to inspire you to get back into your finger paints or running scales or whatever brings you joy.
Love/Sex:
Your Romance and Creativity sector gets a flood of energy this month. On the Solar Eclipse, you'll be clearing out old worn-out patterns surrounding your ability to play, create, and indulge in unexpected crushes turned lovers. When you're invited out with friends say "yes," it's time to leave the house more as we head towards spring. Whatever you learn during your jam band sessions with new loves will create more deep-rooted security that you'll use to springboard off of in the future.
Career:
Taking care of home and hearth and what nourishes you has allowed you to look at your career and reputation from a new vantage point. If you've been feeling dissatisfied, know that change is coming in down the line but for now, focus on bringing some ingenuity and playful energy to your work to see if there's a way to make it more enjoyable. You can lead an effort to make the work environment more pleasant and social, maybe a Valentine's Day party or an afterwork social will do the trick.
Health:
Your health gets additional focus during the second half of the month, Libra, forcing you strike a happy balance between getting enough rest and staying active. Sometimes you tend to scatter your energy trying to do too much; this month, make an effort to move more fluidly and make time to checkout just to relax. You can save the world tomorrow after a good night's sleep.
Scorpio
October 23 to November 21
Heads up, Scorpio! You may get a taste of putting your ideas out there to be seen this month. The Eclipses have been rocking your Home and Public life, attempting to get you motivated to put yourself out there while also releasing old patterns that may be holding you back from shining fully. It's okay to put yourself first. Prioritize what you need to feel secure and how you want to appear on the world stage.
Love/Sex:
You may find yourself feeling more creative and fun-loving around the second half of the month. If you've been wanting more romance, wait til a few days after Valentine's day to make moves. Your House of Romance and Creativity will be crowded and wanting to you to flirt and play. Just make sure you don't get too carried away with your spending while you're out enjoying yourself.
Career:
We oftentimes fail to mention just how much our home/family life impacts our ability to succeed. This is not to say that anything could hold you back from success, Scorpio, but it's a good idea to assess whether or not you feel grounded and supported. If you find that your inner circle gets tighter or there's adjustments on the home front, consider it a blessing. Eclipses have a way of washing out stagnant energy and people from our lives. On the 15th, you'll be granted the opportunity to start a new story about what family means to you and how they support your ability to climb the ladder. You'll be fired up to aggressively go after money and resources that may fuel future creative projects later in the month. Trust in your magnetism to attract to you whatever you desire.
Health:
Making a few investments in your health wouldn't be a bad idea, Scorpio. Put aside some of the extra money made this month just for that purpose. Whether it be some new workout clothing or signing up for a new dance class, anything that keeps your energy moving, will have you feeling powered up.
Sagittarius
November 22 to December 21
January may have left you feeling a little weighed down with all the mantle of authority and responsibility you've started wearing. Being the Head Centaur in Charge can be daunting, but February gives you a moment to meditate on a few inventive and imaginative ways to get a comfortable handle on your life when the Solar Eclipse on the 15th goes off in your House of Communication and Creative Thinking.
Emerging bright ideas now may come to fruition over the coming year.
Mars in your sign will give you a blast of fiery enthusiasm to fire up your courage again. Keep building your strong foundation, Sagittarius, you're just getting started!
Love/Sex:
Having Mars in your House of Self may have you feeling a little bolder this month. If you're looking for a date or want to breathe some fire into your current relationships, just know that it all begins with you! This would be the time to act with optimism and cheerfulness when asserting yourself. It's their loss if they don't want to enjoy a whirlwind of a good time with you.
Career:
You could feel the urge to shake up your work this month. The Eclipses have been steadily lighting up your mind with ways to reform and radicalize the way you perceive the world and, in turn, making you question what you want to be known for. Vision it first, write about it, if you could restructure your role in the world what would it look like? Spend some time reflecting at home before making any sudden moves.
Health:
As a child of Jupiter, your biggest issue is always going to be excess. Too much of a good thing, too much of a bad thing, so long as you get to be extra you're happy. This is a relaxed enough month for you to learn some restraint. Perhaps less take-out and more cooking at home instead. Less staying up reading in bed and more going to sleep at a decent time each night. Work on the basics and you should be alright.
Capricorn
December 22 to January 19
You're the Captain now, Seagoat. This is your ship and this month will have you assessing the bones of your vessel to see if it's fit to sail. Chances are high that there will be tinkering and adjustments to make as well as some much needed downtime to cool your jets. Work hard, play hard, and rest even harder.
Love/Sex:
You've been working on how to be more intimate with people around you. If it seems a little quiet on the romance front, that's okay, consider it a timeout before the potential wildness of the Spring and Summer seasons. Work on expressing your appreciation for those people who have been with you for the long haul. Let them know how valuable they are to you. An attitude of gratitude will only pull in more love and passion for you to be grateful for.
Career:
There could be opportunities for a positive boost in your self-esteem and income this month, Capricorn. The Eclipses are lighting up your Money sectors this month and can show opportunities to create new innovative streams of income or looking at new ways to make your money go farther. And if anyone wants to gift you with some of their abundance, don't fight it. Just smile and say, "thank you."
Health:
You tend toward over-thinking as is, Capricorn, and it's usually about your to-do list of all the things you'd like to get done before you kick the bucket. This month is no different as your mind fixates on finances and creative thinking. Siphon off some of the mental tension by discussing what's on your mind with your close friends or siblings. Bouncing ideas or venting off pent up emotions will keep you balanced, so when the call to get to work comes, you'll be good to go.
Aquarius
January 20 to February 18
Happy Birthday Aquarius! And what a birthday season it's been so far! The Heavens have supercharged your sign with another cosmic blast of energy. Your world may feel unsettled as the puzzle pieces of your life get rearranged. Allow the dust to settle, Water Bearer, the change that's occurring takes time to fully make itself known. But that's okay, you're used to sudden unexpected change and reform, so don't let these celestial events stop you from celebrating your brilliantly quirky humanitarian spirit.
Love/Sex:
Meeting new potential partners isn't going to be a problem this year, Aquarius. The people coming into your world this month are fiery and passionate, wanting to get you into the spirit of lighting up a room instead of being just another face in the crowd. Watch who invites you to play loud and colorfully, they're the ones who will support the new you you're currently downloading.
Career:
With Jupiter granting you luck in your career and reputation sector until November, don't be afraid to make moves that suit your needs. You're changing, and therefore everything, including the role you play on the grand stage, is up for renovations. Be on the lookout for mentors and others who may bless you with wisdom to inform your next moves.
Health:
Believe it or not, Aquarius, your health is tied to your emotions. Your mood and feelings can really do a number on your physical health if you're not attentive to them. If you find yourself feeling burnt out, especially around the Solar Eclipse on the 15th, take a break. Such powerful surges of energy would fry anyone's wires, including yours. Double up on the self-care and invest in activities that keep you feeling taken care of. Activists need decadent spa days too.
Pisces
February 19 to March 20
Happy Solar Return Pisces! On February 18th, the Sun returns to your sign to radiate bright light on your new year of life. Solar Returns are usually a wonderful time to give yourself a fresh look or set intentions about what you would like to experience over the next 12 months. Make a wish and prepare to grace us with your special blend of otherworldly compassionate magic.
Love/Sex:
Consider putting yourself out there more and more as the month progresses. Venus enters Pisces on the 10th, granting you an extra sprinkle of beauty and grace. By the 17th and 18th, you'll be ready to step out to show off your brilliantly iridescent fish scales. If you're looking to meet people or have a good time with a significant other, try going out to an event that shows off what a boss you are.
Career:
Mars, the planet of Action and War, is going to be up in your Career and Reputation house this month, Pisces, so prepare to do battle! Hopefully, you won't have to face any Night Kings riding Ice Dragons but you may feel inspired to take up a worthy cause to rally up enthusiasm! Think of all the creative ways you can uplift through your ability to take charge and get things done. Just try not to be too pushy or fall through on your promises. It's easy to get carried away on an idealistic dream, but dreams only come true with concrete action. Here's your chance to walk your talk.
Health:
With so much percolating inside your unconscious mind due to the Eclipses, take this month to find balance with a physical routine. You absorb your environment like a sponge, Pisces, and there are times when the best way to clear your energy is to cleanse your psychic water, sweat it out. Dancing wildly in your bedroom definitely counts, as do long strolls on your lunch break. If physical movement isn't in the cards, then unleashing your thoughts onto paper or meditating daily will do. The point is to clear out your internal clutter so you can start your new year fresh with your Intuition on high and ready to guide you forward.
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Mercury enters Aries from April 16 until May 10, and what you were trying to see through or understand better while Mercury was retrograde here last month, you are experiencing a breakthrough now. Mercury in Aries is insightful and courageous, and people are more likely to speak their minds and initiate conversation with this energy. Mars then enters Leo from April 18 until June 17, reminding us that sometimes it’s okay to be a little more selfish and to focus on what you need right now. Mars in Leo brings forth confidence, creativity, and passion, and brings an exciting energy to charge of your life and advocate for yourself.
Taurus Season officially begins on April 19, bringing some earth sign energy into the mix, grounding and nurturing what you are creating in your life right now. On April 27, we have a New Moon in Taurus, and this is an abundant and fruitful New Moon. This is one of the best New Moons of the year for you to set your intentions for your financial world and a time for seeing new opportunities for abundance. On the last day of the month, Venus moves into Aries until June 6th, and love requires a little more passion, independence, and excitement during this time.
Overall, April is a month of feeling things through, taking more intuitive risks, investing in yourself, and balancing your needs with the needs of your relationships.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what April has in store for you.
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleARIES
April is your month to shine, Aries. With the chaos of March now over, you are starting to see the progress of where life is and how everything has turned out even better than you were expecting. The month begins with the Sun in your 1st house of self, and you are feeling more confident, courageous, and in tune with yourself. With a Full Moon in your sister sign on April 12, relationships are also coming full circle for you now, and you are claiming your peace this month.
Mercury finally goes direct on April 7 and then enters your sign from April 16 to May 10, and this is going to clear up any miscommunications that you have been through. With Mercury now in your sign, your conversations are lively, your mind is inspiring, and you are thinking one step ahead. Before the month ends, Venus enters your sign from April 30 to June 6, and love is also moving forward for you now. Overall, this is a month where you are experiencing some happy outcomes and loyal support.
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleTAURUS
April is a month of passion and purpose, Taurus. You are living in your abundance, and are focused on valuing yourself and the things you are bringing to fruition right now. Venus, your ruling planet, goes direct on March 12 after being retrograde in your financial house since March 1, and you are moving into the month experiencing more opportunities and also feeling more respected in what you are accumulating for yourself and standing your ground on.
Taurus Season officially begins on April 19, and it’s all about you right now. This Taurus Season is smoothing things out for you in love, with new relationship developments unfolding and life flourishing for you. The New Moon this month is in your sign on April 27, it’s time for a new beginning. You are truly embracing your strength in April, making things happen for yourself, and no longer doubting your future and what is possible for you.
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleGEMINI
This month is all about the options becoming available to you now, Gemini. With your ruling planet Mercury going direct at the beginning of the month on April 7, you no longer feel as held back or out of place as you may have in the past weeks. With Mercury now direct, your thinking is clearer, and you are seeing the opportunities in your career and professional world that you may have missed before.
The more you can embrace your authenticity, the less time you will spend doubting how others perceive you, remember that this month.
On April 12, there is a Full Moon in Libra, highlighting the romance in your life and bringing forth understanding and compassion within your close relationships. You are letting go of old attachments or self-doubts that haven’t been serving your love life, and are growing closer to your own heart in the process. Before April comes to an end, Mars enters your 3rd house of communication, and you are overall leaving the month focused on your progress, your vision, and taking up space because you deserve to.
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleCANCER
This month is all about balancing your time and energy wisely, Cancer. You are being reminded not to overwork or overwhelm yourself in April, and to focus on doing the things that are within your control right now. The Sun is in your 10th house of career for most of the month so you are feeling really passionate about the things you are developing in your life right now, but it’s all about finding the right balance between your personal goals and your needs in your relationships as well.
The Full Moon in Libra on April 12 will be a time to devote your energy to self-care, close loved ones, and overall getting some time to decompress. You are ready to let go of the things that don’t make you feel safe or nurtured and are receiving an emotional renewal right now. The New Moon in Taurus at the end of the month is a time to focus on your intentions on your community, friendships, and aspirations in life, and to pay attention to where you can create more abundance here.
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleLEO
Things are turning around for you for the better, Leo. April is a dynamic month, and you are owning your inner alchemist. With a Full Moon in your 3rd house of communication on April 12, you are getting the messages you have been looking for and the mental clarity you have found is bringing closure to some of your close relationships. This month is about being flexible and trusting the changes that are happening for you right now.
On April 18, Mars enters your sign until June 17, and this is huge for you. You began the year with Mars retrograde in your sign, so you are getting the opportunity now, to rewrite some of the things that weren’t working for you at the beginning of the year. You are overcoming previous obstacles, and experiencing a breakthrough in your life this month. Before April ends, there is a New Moon in Taurus, highlighting your career, reputation, and professional life. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for what goals you want to come to fruition for you now.
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleVIRGO
This month is all about building new foundations in your life, Virgo. You are feeling more supported and in tune with your own inner needs and interests, and it’s bringing you closer to people and systems that resonate. Your ruling planet Mercury goes direct this month on April 7 after being retrograde for the past few weeks; bringing more clarity, understanding, and compassion to your partnerships in life. You are focused on love this month and are working together with others to make your dreams come true.
Mid-month, Mars moves into your 12th house of closure and endings, and there is a journey of healing that you experience until June 17. You are motivated to understand yourself better and are looking at the past more right now in order to do so. This is a month of recovering and healing from what has been, for new foundations to be built upon. The New Moon on April 27 is a beautiful way to end the month, as you are getting glimpses of a new, abundant, adventure that is ahead of you.
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLIBRA
This is a big month of closure for you, Libra. The Sun is in your 7th house of love for most of April, and your heart is in the right place. With Venus, your ruling planet, going direct on April 12 after being retrograde since March 1, you are finally able to take a breath. You are not experiencing as many obstacles when it comes to communication matters and you are feeling like you have the tools you need to move forward right now.
The Full Moon of the month is in your sign on April 12, and you are ready to let go of what isn’t working for you. You have been through a lot recently and have gained the clarity you need to let go of old attachments. Venus moves into your house of love before the month ends, and you are leaving the month feeling more in tune with where things are moving forward for you, rather than what you are leaving behind. Your heart moves through a journey in April, and your emotions are showing you a lot.
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleSCORPIO
April is a month of success, progress, and dreams coming to fruition, Scorpio. You are focused on your health, your priorities, and creating space for the new beginnings that you are creating in your life right now. The Full Moon mid-month is a big closure moment for you, and you are owning the fact that you have healed and you are no longer the same person you were in the past. This is a month of stepping into your power and feeling supported in doing so.
Mid-month, Mars enters your 10th house of career and public life and you are shining within your purpose. Over the next month and a half, you are going to be gaining some new opportunities that will be serving your professional life and goals. This is the month to show up and to let your skills, talents, and authenticity shine. On April 17, there is a New Moon in your opposite sign, Taurus, and you are leaving the month with some pleasant surprises in store for you in love as well.
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleSAGITTARIUS
April is a new beginning for you, Sagittarius. You are focused on putting the action and effort behind your goals, and you are being proactive within the opportunities that you are looking for right now. With a Full Moon in your 11th house of aspirations mid-month, you are letting go of the way you thought things would play out for you and are owning a more abundant version of things.
On April 27, there is a New Moon in Taurus, which will be highlighting your health and what your body needs more of right now. This is a New Moon to set your intentions for your everyday life and to create a new, beneficial routine that will make things easier for you at the end of the day. Before the month ends, Venus enters your 9th house of adventure, and you are leaving the month with your sights set high. Travel plans are likely, and this is a good time to create some new plans for yourself.
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleCAPRICORN
April is about putting one step in front of the other with patience and dedication and trusting the decisions you are making for yourself right now, Capricorn. The Sun is in your 4th house for most of the month, and you are yearning for your safe spaces, comfort foods, and loyal people. Giving yourself more time to decompress, take care of yourself, and ground your energy is essential this month.
Mars enters your 8th house of transformation mid-month and will be fueling your need for some change, excitement, and emotional rejuvenation over the next month and a half. You are entering an impactful moment of the year for you, and you are motivated toward change right now. The New Moon at the end of the month is in a fellow earth sign, highlighting the romantic new beginnings you are entering now. Overall, this month is a process, and you are opening new doors while finding gratitude in what is here for you now.
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleAQUARIUS
April is about giving yourself time to process, accept, and gain a new perspective, Aquarius. You are being guided towards friendship, connection, and community, and are understanding what may be creating the discord in your life that has been distancing you from that. The Full Moon this month is happening in Libra on April 12, and you are ready to let go of feeling like you have to do it all at once or all alone. This month is a reminder to take your time with all the experiences you want to have, trusting that they will come to fruition for you.
Mars enters your house of love and partnership on April 18, and you enter a passionate and steamy time. Romance is in the air for you as you move through the month, and you are spending more of your time with those who you want to move forward with. Venus also moves into a relationship area of your chart before April ends, and you are surrounded by love and community. Overall, this month is showing you that you are not alone and you don’t have to go through the heavy stuff alone either.
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This is a month where your heart is shining, and you are feeling in tune with the progress you have made in your life and within your relationships, Pisces. You are owning your value, your worth, and the beauty of who you are, and are ready to leave the past behind. With Mercury and Venus both going direct in Pisces this month after being retrograde in your sign for the past few weeks, you are in a better space than you have been, and there are fewer obstacles and miscommunications in your life.
You have been through a journey of understanding yourself better through your goals, perspectives, and interests, and have been committing yourself to your authenticity. On April 27, there is a New Moon in Taurus happening, and this New Moon is a good time for communication matters, getting your message across, and for your creative pursuits. With the clarity you feel within your mind and heart right now, you are making a lot of progress in April and feeling pleased with where life is headed.
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For instance, people who have only had sex with their spouse reportedly have a 45 percent greater chance of having a really stable marriage. Another study says that 71 percent of men who have only had one partner are very happy in their marriage as opposed to 65 percent of men who’ve had two or more partners. And still, another report has stated that women with 10 or more partners are most likely to divorce while women with only one partner are the least likely to.
It's another article for another time about why this all may be the case. For now, I just thought it was important to remind cyberspace that virgins are not obsolete (check out Newsweek’s “Number of Virgins in America Hits Record High” that came out just this past January) and there are some former virgins in this world who not only waited until their wedding night — but, for their own special reasons, are oh so very glad that they did.
Giphy1. Lynn. 28. Married for Three Years.
“I come from a generation of virgins and I’m proud of that. My mom was a virgin when she got married. So was my grandmother. I was raised that my body is a wedding present and so I’ve always seen myself that way. I’m officially out of my newlywed years and while it took about a year for me to really get the hang of things, I like that my husband is the only man that I’ve known. I don’t have anyone to compare him to. I’m not wondering if I’m missing out. He was a virgin too, so we’re not worried about mystery babies or incubated diseases. Sex is peaceful in my home. I’m glad that I waited.”
2. Adina. 35. Married for Eight Years.
“I’ll be real — I was a virgin on a technicality. I think a lot of virgins are because I didn’t have intercourse until marriage — but there was some oral action going on up in here for years. That’s just the truth! It’s not that I don’t think that oral sex is sex — I just liked that I could have the pleasure without worrying about pregnancy…and yes, not wanting to get pregnant is the main reason why I waited until marriage. I will say that giving my husband something that no other man had before did make the wedding night special — awkward, kind of uncomfortable and funny as hell at times but really special. I don’t regret it.”
Giphy3. Marie. 29. Married for Two Years.
“I didn’t plan on being a virgin until marriage. My goal was just to not give it up unless I loved someone — and that didn’t happen until my husband. When he found out that I was a virgin, he didn’t want to risk us dating, having sex, and breaking up. He said that it would have been on his conscience for the rest of his life. So…we waited. I didn’t expect that to make me love and trust him more but it did. If he could guard my heart while dating me, I’m sure he can protect me well now that we’re married. Waiting made me feel safer in my relationship. That is probably the best thing about it.”
4. Eliana. 30. Married for Six Years.
“People like to act like sex isn’t a big deal and that’s a damn lie. Anything that can give you a child or a disease that could end your life isn’t something that you should not care about. It’s not that I wasn’t curious or tempted or that there weren’t times when I didn’t come close, but so many of my friends had regrets about…not really the sex but who they chose to have sex with that I didn’t think it was worth the stress. I do think that if you are going to wait until your wedding night that you should find some wives to talk to because, baby, I was not prepared. I think that is a part of what marriage is about, though — having some things that you learn about, only with your spouse, knowing that it’s not a performance but an experience and since you’re married, you have all of the time in the world. There was a learning curve but we’ve got it down now, ma’am. Thank you very much.”
Giphy5. Krystal. 27. Married for Four Years.
“I’ve always thought it was weird that people think that virginity is only tied to religion. I’m agnostic and I was a virgin until I was 23 because I watched how the college years went for most of my friends and I decided to pass on STIs, unwanted pregnancies, and being caught up in guys who I didn’t see a future with. Life was easier for me not having sex and now I can enjoy my husband without the drama that my friends went through. You don’t need religion to use discernment.”
6. Michelle. 24. Married for One Year.
“I don’t know why people think that being a virgin means that you don’t think a lot about sex or have valid things to say about sex. For me, staying a virgin was hard but the reason was simple: I have a vivid imagination and I didn’t feel like having to think about what I should try or hold back from when it came time to do it. I know women who are like, ‘I’ll have sex with you but won’t suck your d-ck’ or ‘I’ll have sex with you but not in these positions.’ Girl, that man is in your body. What are all of these rules about? If your first time is something that you will never forget, I wanted mine to be no rules, no boundaries — we in this bitch! And that’s just how my wedding night was. I love him. He loves me. We’re gonna do whatever, whenever, however, for the rest of our lives. To me, that’s how sex should be.”
Giphy7. Francine. 33. Married for Four Years.
“I was too busy for sex. Call it strange but I just had too much on my plate. I think some people go to college and lose it because they didn’t have a real plan. College is something you do and so you go — and then you get distracted. That wasn’t me. I knew what I wanted to do, so, as fine as some of the men were, I wasn’t going to waste my time or my scholarship. Then, once I got my master’s, I was focused on getting a job and buying a house, so I didn’t do a lot of dating then either. I guess the universe didn’t want me out in these streets for too long because once I was ready to have a dating life, after three flop dates, thanks to a set-up, I met my husband, we dated for six months, and got married. It’s weird because I didn’t put much thought into being a virgin until my wedding night while I was living my life but now that you ask, I’m glad that I waited because, since I am such a planner, it’s nice that I don’t see sex as something that wrecked, ruined or even delayed all of the other things that I wanted to do. I never want to see sex as problematic. I think that waiting kept that from happening.”
8. Nya. 31. Married for Six Years.
“I’ll never forget you telling me about that husband who said that the thing that he loved the most about his wife’s body is he believed that when God made her, he had her in mind. When you told me that she wasn’t a Coke bottle shape, that made me feel like I didn’t need to change who I was while waiting for the right man. In all honesty, a part of the reason why I was a virgin for so long is because I had body image issues that I was dealing with. In college, I learned that men talk just as much as women when it comes to stuff like that and I didn’t want different guys ‘sizing me up.’ When I met my husband, he always made me feel not just like I was attractive but that my body was stunning to him — and that made me want to share myself with him. Honestly, the only reason why we waited until our wedding was because we were in a long-distance relationship and didn’t date for long, but it did feel good to know that he didn’t want to ‘test anything out’ before to make sure that he would be happy in that way. He was satisfied with me without sex and that made the wedding night pretty incredible."
Giphy9. Berry. 38. Married for 20 Years.
“It might be weird to hear that, although I was a virgin on my wedding night, I was also ‘abstinent’ when I dated my husband. What I’m saying is that no man had penetrated me before him, but I did mess around quite a bit with guys and it always made things messy — one way or another. When my husband came along, he wasn’t a virgin by any stretch, but he had been abstinent too for a few months. When we saw that this was going somewhere, we made the decision to not do anything sexual until we got engaged and then to not have actual sex until our wedding night. It gave us time to learn intimacy in other ways. It also helped out our relationship because we both travel for work. People think that you don’t need self-control sometimes after marriage and that’s just not true. Anyway, something that I respect about waiting is it ‘programmed’ me to see sex as something that is only for marriage — not due to religion but because I don’t know what intercourse is like without having a husband. I kinda like it.”
10. Chadae. 43. Married for 18 Years.
“It might sound crazy but one of my favorite celebrities has always been Lisa Bonet. I thought she was so pretty on The Cosby Show and I remembered watching a rerun of when Cliff asked her husband if they had sex before marriage and he said that Denise was a virgin on their wedding day. Even though a lot of my friends were having sex, something about that stood out to me — that you can be a beautiful woman, go on dates, have a full life and there doesn’t have to be sex on the table. I also liked how proud Cliff was as a father because, when my husband asked for permission to marry me, my dad didn’t ask if I was still a virgin, but I told him and my mom that I was and he teared up. He said it was because he wanted a man to value me enough to vow himself to me before I gave him my body — and he trusted my husband because he did. It might sound old-fashioned but some things that are ‘old-school’ prevent you from learning things the hard way.”
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Two of my favorite married couples have been together for over 20 years and the thing that they have in common is both the husbands and wives were virgins on their wedding day. Something that one of the wives has told me is she likes that all she knows is her husband and something that one of the husbands has said is he’s never wondered if he’s missing out on anything because he’s never had anyone to compare his wife to. How sweet is that?
If you are a virgin who is reading this, all of these resolves can definitely provide you with some food for thought before making any decisions about what to do about your own sex life. Because while the power of your sexuality is certainly your choice, should you want to wait — not only should you not feel bad, embarrassed, or even hesitant about that, there are benefits that can come with making such a sober-minded decision.
Virgins still exist. And, like most things in life, virginity has its own rewards. Salute.
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