Often, the idea of conventional therapy isn't an option for us; either because we're uncomfortable with the concept of talking to a random stranger, or simply because the way our bank account is set-up, it just won't work. However, we all need some type of assistance on this journey we are taking through life. More and more millennial women are seeking nontraditional methods for healing, so color therapy shouldn't be too far off the spectrum to help assist us back to the road of being whole all by our lonesome.
Sometimes having an alternative to turn to outside of your friends, family or bae is necessary. We know through meditation that each chakra is associated with a different color and all have different healing properties. My spiritual girls and hippies agree that balancing your chakras is damn near just as important as keeping that pH balance in check, honey. They are both very necessary in order to keep the peace, literally and figuratively.
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Contrary to what most may believe, color is associated with literally everything we do. Rather you're describing the way you feel, visualizing a moment, or expressing a mood, we use color to identify a variety of different things. We are unconsciously identifying our moods with color. The color we describe correlates with how we think it matches our mood.
Color therapy, also known as chromotherapy, dates back well-beyond Western civilization's use of it, or shall I say, lack thereof. It's dated back as far as 2000 years ago with usage in places like Egypt, Greece, and China. It's a natural healing agent that can bring balance, stimulation, peace and harmony to an array of areas, including but not limited to our psychological state of mind, physical elements, home, work environments, and of course, good ol' sexual healing.
There are various ways to incorporate color therapy into our everyday lives. Try these easy techniques that you can use on a regular basis to help you on that healing journey, Queen:
- Candles: targets two of our major senses, scent and sight
- Lighting: using colored light bulbs/filters are good for changing your mood and great for meditative visualization
- Crystals: can be used as a form of protection; they can be worn, carried, or placed in a special spot to bring about alignment in certain elements of our life
- Colored Flash Cards: great for mantras, setting intentions and visualization techniques that can help with staying in check
- Bathing: colored baths are great for cleansing and balancing your chakras and aura
- Food/Water: pairing the right things to eat are great for clearing/healing our energy centers
Knowing what colors correlate with what elements in our physical, mental, and spiritual realm could really help us in the areas of our life that are often blocked, feeling stagnant, or just plain-out need to be balanced.
And don't worry, I've got you covered below on what colors work for what:
Red (Base of Spine)
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Red is the color of stimulation. Its healing properties are good for helping with the flow of things, moving blood through the body, grounding and also alleviation of depression.
Orange (Under Navel)
Orange is the color of creativity/sexuality. If you are ever feeling blocked in these areas, this is your go-to. It's an immune-boosting aid and also a great color for assisting in unblocking stomach and intestinal problems.
Yellow (Above Navel)
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Yellow is known for its detoxifying qualities. It has invigorating properties that help with clearing your mind and body control. It's associated with having power. It's a great color to incorporate when your gastrointestinal tract is out of whack.
Green (Heart)
Green is the color of balance. It holds harmonizing properties. It's also the color associated with love and the heart. Its properties are great for creating equilibrium in all areas of your life. Your health and nervous benefits from the color green.
Blue (Throat)
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Blue is the color associated with communication. It has soothing properties and is great for calming and cooling the nervous system. If your blood pressure is high, blue can help to bring you back down to a calmer state of being. When your ears, nose, and throat are a little out of touch, align yourself with something blue to help get you back on track.
Purple/Violet (Center of Forehead)
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Purple and violet are known for their reasoning qualities. This color has strong cleansing properties that align with our higher perception and decision-making. If you have a hard time trying to understand something occurring, put some purple or violet in rotation to help alleviate that feeling. This color is great for alleviating anxiety.
White (Top of Head)
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White is the equalizer of all colors. It has strengthening powers. If you are looking for peace and tranquility, white is the color in aiding you to that state of mind. It's great for stabilizing all areas of the nervous system. This color can be used to assist in the balancing of all areas of both physical and mental.
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Some women have their whole wedding planned out, from the bridal gown and venue to the bridal party and playlist. However, KJ was not one of those people. “I didn’t foresee a wedding in my future,” she reveals. “I was just gonna be the boss chick, rich auntie. I didn’t force love in my life until recently. I never had an idea of what a dream wedding would look like, it was easier for me to elope.”
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
And to many people’s surprise, that was their original plan – until Skyh brought up a valid concern. He was raised by his grandmother and thought she should be at the wedding, and naturally, that led to KJ wanting her grandmother to be there as well – then her mom – and later her sister – and, you’ve gotta invite the besties too, right? From there, the guest list continued to blossom. Much like the updo and pop of color bold red lip, she wore on her special day, which was initially on her Pinterest board as a soft glam look with her hair hanging on her shoulders, KJ is okay with changing her plan if it brings her and her loved ones happiness.
So let’s get into the wedding, which took place in Malibu, CA. The first thing you should know about the celebrity couple is that they’re non-traditional. They know, and they don’t care. So, in true unconventional fashion, they shared the morning of the wedding together.
“I woke up with Skyh, we walked our dog, had black coffee, and said good morning to the people who stayed at the venue with us,” she says.
Now, it was time for hair and makeup. While she was getting glammed up, she had Black-owned McBride Sisters wine and champagne (which ties into The Black Experience theme) on deck with her mom and friends, had her besties help rework her vows, retried on every outfit (sis is very Type-A), took photos, and ended the early-celebration with prayer and meditation. It seems very non-Bridezilla, I said.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company,” she explains. “The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
Things moved quickly, and before she knew it, it was time to line up to walk down the aisle.
“Yeah, I was the most unbothered bride ever. Everyone was just so supportive. As entertainers, we go on red carpets all the time. We actually have a production company. The get-ready process was like a day at work, but with people we love the most. Being entertainers, we didn’t feel stressed at all, but my excitement was so high.”
KJ Smith and her bridal party
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
Since everything started with their grandmothers, the couple wanted to ensure they honored them and planned to keep an element of their wedding traditional. Although we’ve all seen the reception videos and photos online, you may have noticed visuals from the wedding itself are harder to find.
“We planned for it to be traditional, but we’re not like that, so we tried to create those moments. We jumped the broom and had a salt ceremony (where the bride and groom individually pour salt into a glass container, symbolizing their lives becoming one.) But honestly, still, nothing was traditional about it.”
She goes on to explain that her mom caught the holy ghost coming down the aisle, her glam team was on deck, and she became so nervous with excitement that she had an anxiety attack – something she struggled with for years, she explains tearfully. Her friends had to literally cheer her down the aisle because of how overwhelmed she felt until she eventually calmed down.
“Skyh was standing there with his hand on his heart; we have our own little language, and I could feel the support,” she shares.
It was surprising to hear all these emotional moments happened before the party we saw online. That is until she once again got into the backstory.
“As a Black woman actress, for so long, it was popular to be mysterious and secretive, but that’s not who I am or what I like. Plus, we both wanted to create an experience for everyone there. We are the people who always host family and friends,” she says. “Like for me, the first order of business was getting sandals for the women so they can dance all night long. We had oxtail, D'ussé, and a coffee and sativa lounge – which is part of Skyh and I’s lifestyle and routine. We wanted to bring them into our world.”
Skyh Black (L) and KJ Smith (R)
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
She went on to discuss the dance routine she did for her husband at the reception, which has taken over the internet. Apparently, that’s another thing that didn’t go according to plan. According to KJ, she had promised a performance at their joint bachelor/ bachelorette party, but her outfit got stolen from her car. So, Skyh ended up performing for her – complete with a strip tease. Still, she never forgot her promise to dance for him.
So, she hired her friend as a choreographer, learned the routine, made friends and family watch it endless times, and attended Beyoncé’s Renaissance show a few days before for a confidence boost. It ended up being a show to remember. But that wasn’t all the night offered. Lil Mo performed, and the guests received special goody bags featuring their favorite Black-owned products like journals, hair care, and more.
“We made sure everyone was taken care of all night. That kind of stuff makes us happy. I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives,” she says.
But naturally, the internet is going to internet, and while there were countless people praising the event and applauding the newlyweds, some thought it was too over the top. I was curious to know her thoughts on some of the criticism.
“It’s cool. We did what we wanted to do. I’ve decided to share my world with people. Just how I went on social media platforms and found inspiration, I want people to do the same,” she explains. “I don’t think it's fair to my supporters not to give that out. There’s so much I wanna share with brides, specifically Black brides. I love that people are adding it to their Pinterest boards."
"I wanted everyone there to experience the joy and love I have for myself, my partner, and for them. I wanted them to feel full and whole, and they had the time of their lives."
KJ Smith
Photo by Stanley Babb/ Stanlo Photography
“I’m happy with it because we did what we wanted to do. They can do what they wanna do. Don’t be cruel, though, because you will get blocked,” she said, laughing.
The more I spoke with her, the more her sense of freedom shined through. People are always going to have their opinions, but at the end of the day, it’s you who has to live your life, and it seems like the couple realizes that and embraces that power. She also stressed the importance of not living for others and the lessons life has taught her.
“I’ve been to countless weddings, and I’ve been in countless weddings. I’m a generally older bride. So when women in my demographic get married, and you and your husband are busy working people like us, you deserve to have the one you want to have,” she shares.
“This is what we wanted to do. Our loved ones love and support us. We did so much to honor them, but we also wanted to start our own tradition, legacy, and creation. I'm not going to be pulled back into ideas of the past when I’m trying to create a future with my partner. “
If you’d like to see more of the couple, you probably won’t have to wait long. Although no content is planned yet, she admits to being an oversharer. “Me being open and transparent about my experiences lets people know it’s okay to have flaws; it makes you human, and for many years, I didn’t believe that was okay. I had pressure to be perfect, and I’d crumble every time,” she explains to xoNecole.
Now, she owns her flaws and uses them as a superpower to connect with her community and feel and express her love.
“Some people give us [Skyh and KJ] a hard time because they say we just seem too perfect. I’m like, why is that a bad thing? I love the people I love. From my man to my mama, to my friends - unabashedly. We move through time and space how we want to move. If we did it another way, we’d let ourselves and our union down.”
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