The 10 Black Girl Fall Makeup Looks We're Coveting On IG
One thing about me is that I love to be dolled up: hair done, face done, everything did. Beauty is more than just makeup or hair to me, it's how I express creativity on the daily. To be honest though, my makeup game can definitely use an upgrade. I don't need anything too extravagant but I want to get better with my contour and eyeshadow skills, you feel me? I've been doing my makeup the same way for a minute now and it's time to switch things up and learn some new tricks. With entering a new season, it's the best time to try something new. There are a bunch of girls on IG giving us lewks and the tea on how to achieve the ourselves (shoutout to y'all).
So, whether you're getting ready for work, date night, or a girls night out, I encourage you to try something new or add a little extra touches of fall to your look. Don't worry, I'm going to set you up with everything you need. Thanks to apps like Instagram, all the inspiration is literally at our fingertips.
Here are 10 looks that will have you slaying this season.
1.Bronzed With A Pop of Color
I love that Makeup Shayla incorporated a lot of warm brown and nude tones to this look and to add extra pop, she added a pop of color to her inner corner highlight. SB: This is the level of contour I aspire to have.
2.Goldie
Taylor Anise killed this. It was a very simple face beat, but she made the statement with her bold red lip and her goldie eyelids. So if you're not for the contour and extra stuff, this is a nice creative alternative to spicing things up.
3.Warm Glowy Lewks
I honestly feel like Ronke is always fall-ready and tends to have natural elements in her makeup looks. The natural warm and darker hues with highlights seems to be her thing and she slays it very well.
4.Neon Green Lewks
Summer may be over, but this neon green trend is here to stay. Alissa Ashley is rockin' a neon green eyeliner with green eye gems to spice things up.
5.Glitter
I haven't perfected the cut crease yet but this is definitely a look I want to try for date night or a girls' night out. YouTuber Forever Aylssa is wearing a mix of purple eyeshadows and a subtle pop of glitter to bring this look to the next level. Glitter is an easy way to follow the trends of the season. With Christmas sneaking up on us, the shiny glitz and glam is a must this season!
6.Dark Colors
Don't be afraid to play with darker hues. I love makeup looks that incorporate dark colors like burgundy, brown, and black. This Japan-based content creator really killed this burgundy makeup look.
7.Smokey Eyes
A smokey eye is always a good idea. I love this dark green smokey with the brown underbrow detail. The colors blend really well together and is another simple way to bring a basic look into a fully glam look.
8.Keep It All The Way Natural
Aaliyah Jay looks stunning with this simple look! A completely natural look is my go-to. Just make sure your brows and lashes are on point and keep everything real simple.
9.Colorful Waterline
This is another summer favorite that's creepin' its way into fall and winter. Adding bold yet subtle details like a color into your waterline is definitely something you should try.
10. Fire Reds
This look is literally fire. The red and glitter blend is not only great for a holiday party but you'd definitely be serving some seductive looks with this eye makeup.
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Freelance writer, content creator, and traveler. She enjoys the beauty of simplicity, a peaceful life, and a big curly fro. Connect with Krissy on social media @iamkrissylewis or check out her blog at www.krissylewis.com.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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