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Apryl Jones & Fizz Are Officially A Thing, But Are We Judging Too Harshly?

Apryl Jones & Fizz Are Officially A Thing, But Are We Judging Too Harshly?

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Loyalty is a millennial buzzword that we've taken and done the damn dash with. With the change of a Facebook relationship status, we pledge our allegiance to our partners to remain faithful for the duration of our relationships and even afterward. No matter how far south things may have gone, you promise to never be romantically involved with anyone they've ever known; especially their homeboy, but Apryl Jones doesn't quite agree with this way of thinking.


The bro code is solid and simple: you don't get involved with your homeboy's ex; but as the great African-American poet and songstress Aaliyah (and BlogionistaTV) once said: if at first, you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try his friend (or something like that), and Apryl did exactly that. Recently, it's been confirmed that Omarion's ex, Apryl Jones and his former B2K groupmate, Fizz, are officially an item and the Internet is shook.

Apryl and her ex Omarion made their relationship official in 2013 and later had two children. The couple ended their relationship on a (somewhat) amicable note in 2016, only four months after having their second child, and although they both confirm that no one cheated, Apryl also revealed that she and Omari were never anyone's relationship goals on an Instagram live video:

"You don't ever know what's going on behind closed doors. It was a lot that was happening. I wasn't completely happy."

Two years later, social media users got a whole cup of tea when Love and Hip Hop: Hollywood star, and Fizz's ex, Moniece Slaughter shared that her child's father would be spending the holidays in Chicago with her former friend and castmate Apryl and their children, effectively sending the internet into a tizzy.

While Apryl claimed that the relationship was strictly platonic, Moniece said that it didn't matter who her ex dated, as long as her kids were safe, but the pot was stirred with some serious spice via Instagram live when the ex-friends tried to reconcile their differences (emphasis on "tried"). Apryl accused Moniece of making "something out of nothing" but judging by the latest images and videos released online of the couple, there's been a whole lot of "something" going on between these boo'd up besties.

After denying their relationship for months, it seems like the two have made it official!

BUT, before you point your boney little finger at Apryl, is it possible that we're judging her situation too harshly? Even her ex, father of her two children and professional pop-locker, Omarion says that she's "a grown woman" and can do (who and) whatever she pleases, even if it's his R&B singing ex-groupmate.

Don't get me wrong, this sh*t is messy, messy. But sometimes love is messy, and you can't always choose who you fall for. Besides, friends fall in love every day, b.

There are tons of fish in the sea, but who are we to have a say in who Apryl and Fizz choose to swim with?

Featured image by Instagram/@AprylsJones.

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