My pastor preached a word last Sunday. Although I've heard the phrase before, we all know church hit a lil' different when you're going through something. He said: "We have to be spiritually mature enough to know that sometimes rejection is really just God's redirection."
What if I told you that job you wanted so badly but didn't get was unable to elevate you to the next level? What if I said the man who you thought you would spend the rest of your life with, but instead broke your heart was really just one stop on the road to your final destination?
Sometimes we get so caught up in what we think we want that we miss out on what God has waiting for us if we just have a little bit of faith. Sometimes that breakup is key for your breakthrough, but don't take my word for it. Newly single Yvonne Orji says she knows that the best is yet to come.
The actress recently announced her split with former baller bae and Eagles linebacker, Emmanuel Acho, on her podcast Jesus and Jollof. The couple made their relationship Instagram-official last May and had the internet swooning, but sometimes good things fall apart so that better things can fall together. Yvonne explained to her co-host and author of I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual, Luvvie Ajayi:
"But before you start saying 'O, oh ayaaaa. Nooooo!' Guys, hey. You see me? I'm happy. I'm actually so happy. Luvvie I remember when you called me. Luvvie called me and was like, 'It's okay, you can be mad!' I was like, 'no I'm OK.' 'No, you'll feel it tomorrow.' 'Luvvie, I'm ok!'"
Instead of being curled up on a couch, eating Snickers after their split, the 35-year-old bachelorette had another agenda: Furniture shopping.
"I was like, 'no it really is alright and I'm about to go furniture shopping.' I came back and I was like, 'I got a couch.'"
Yvonne explained that it's much easier to stay grounded during adversity you're anchored in faith. I have to constantly remind myself not to lose sight of God's plan trying to formulate my own. Sometimes separation can mean elevation.
For the record, Yvonne is still a virgin. She explained that not sharing a spiritual ties is part of what made it that much easier to have an amicable split. Although it's clear she still has love for her ex boo, Yvonne knows that all things work together for her good.
"I just have to say, the reason why I am so good and so happy is because I know how God works. I have seen God's MO so many times, that like in the way that you can be like, 'Aw man, but I thought this was it! I thought this was the one!' God be like, 'Oh that's what you thought? I got the goods for you.'"
Lauren Margit Jones
This advice can be true for any area of your life you may be anticipating a breakup. Whether it be a job, a friendship, or even an old lifestyle, saying "goodbye" doesn't have to be a sad thing. It means that one day, that ex-boo, ex-job, ex-friend, whoever it is, will find somebody one day that's a perfect fit, and so will you.
Understanding that principle didn't only help Yvonne in her dating life, but it also helped her find her dream home.
Last year, when house hunting, Yvonne came across what she thought was the house of her dreams. After the owner accepted another offer, she was heartbroken. Although she was devastated, she kept her faith, but the Nigerian actress was quickly reminded that sometimes, a mustard seed is all you have. Months went by where the search was unsuccessful before Yvonne and her realtor stumbled upon a home that was even better than the previous, complete with an indoor oasis, pond, and adult swing near the Hollywood Hills.
Are you forfeiting your oasis in the Hollywood Hills because you can't let go of what God already said "no" to? The next time it's time to leave a job, relationship, or situation that no longer serves you, know when it's time to break. And remember that no matter how devastating, that break up won't break YOU. The best is yet to come, sis.
Featured image by Lauren Margit Jones.