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Yvonne Orji & 4 Ways To Know When To Make It Instagram Official

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There comes a special moment in a relationship when two people that love each other decide that they can see a future in one another and decide to take their relationship to the next level. This decision is sacred to millennial lovers and comes only after careful consideration. I too, dream of a day where I'll love a man enough to post him on the 'Gram.


Our social media profiles are essentially visual biographies that allow strangers and onlookers to make instantaneous judgements about our lives after only a few seconds of scrolling, so it's important that we don't just go posting every potential suitor all willy nilly. We must be meticulous and we must be careful about what elements of our personal lives that we post about on our social media, keeping in mind that the internet never forgets and that the only thing that is consistent is change.

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Posting your significant other isn't something to take lightly. It's become symbolic of loyalty and can act as a huge gesture of commitment. It's understandable that couples usually wait until things get serious to debut their boo on social media for the world to see, and it looks like things just got real for Insecure star, Yvonne Orji.

The actress recently revealed her chocolate beau on Instagram with a caption that read:

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"Jesus out here answering prayers on a Sunday."

Amen.

Though she didn't reveal much information about her brown-skinned suitor, Madame Noire discovered that his name is Emmanuel Acho, and he's the 27-year-old Nigerian-American singing NFL linebacker that just might be her forever.

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Yvonne proves that when you know, you know. But exactly how do you know? Is there a blueprint that says how you know when it's the right time to take the next step and change your relationship status on Facebook, or to post that cute snap you took when you thought he was asleep?

I found no former research, so I've taken the time to compile a list of how you know it's real:

It's a Family Affair

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Have you ever had that family member that pops up out of the blue on social media in a long-term relationship with someone nobody's ever heard of? That is me. I am that family member. I have a really hard time introducing potential suitors to family because quite honestly, I have some commitment issues. It's usually 6 months to a year before I even tell anyone that I'm in a relationship, meanwhile forgetting that family can be your first indicator of a bad connection. If I had given my family the opportunity to meet some of my exes before I went showing them off on Instagram, maybe they could've given me some warning signs.

He Respects Your Values

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I refuse to put you on my page for you to be out here embarrassing me. When you post your man on the Gram, make sure that you have the same beliefs and values about how you operate when you aren't around each other. Loving me on the internet means nothing if you're out bopping with Becky in the streets.

Yvonne Orji has been adamant about her virginity in the media since the beginning, and she made sure she made a connection with someone who could appreciate and respect her values.

It's Mutual

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One thing we as women have to avoid doing is forcing someone into commitment just because we're ready. When you post your boo on social media, prevent any potential confusion by making sure that you both are ready to take the next step and make your romance public. Just because we don't post it on social media, doesn't mean it isn't real, but you have to allow your partner to sort out his own feelings before you impose your own.

Be Happy in Real Life First

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Flexing for the Gram is futile if your reality doesn't match. So often we get caught up in posting because it looks good, rather than just posting because we want to share our happiness. So many people smile in public and fight and private, and honestly, what good does that do anybody? Evaluate your reality and make sure you're totally fulfilled before you decide to make a commitment that solidifies your relationship to your friends and family, because no one holds grudges like a loved one.

I do believe that one day I'll find my own chocolate prince to debut on the 'Gram, but for now, I'll just keep gushing over Yvon-uel (it has a ring to it, doesn't it?).

Featured image by Yvonne Orji/Instagram

Before she was Amira Unplugged, rapper, singer, and a Becoming a Popstar contestant on MTV, she was Amira Daughtery, a twenty-five year-old Georgian, with aspirations of becoming a lawyer. “I thought my career path was going to lead me to law because that’s the way I thought I would help people,” Amira tells xoNecole. “[But] I always came back to music.”

A music lover since childhood, Amira grew up in an artistic household where passion for music was emphasized. “My dad has always been my huge inspiration for music because he’s a musician himself and is so passionate about the history of music.” Amira’s also dealt with deafness in one ear since she was a toddler, a condition which she says only makes her more “intentional” about the music she makes, to ensure that what she hears inside her head can translate the way she wants it to for audiences.

“The loss of hearing means a person can’t experience music in the conventional way,” she says. “I’ve always responded to bigger, bolder anthemic songs because I can feel them [the vibrations] in my body, and I want to be sure my music does this for deaf/HOH people and everyone.”

A Black woman wearing a black hijab and black and gold dress stands in between two men who are both wearing black pants and colorful jackets and necklaces

Amira Unplugged and other contestants on Becoming a Popstar

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In order to lift people’s spirits at the beginning of the pandemic, Amira began posting videos on TikTok of herself singing and using sign language so her music could reach her deaf fans as well. She was surprised by how quickly she was able to amass a large audience. It was through her videos that she caught the attention of a talent scout for MTV’s new music competition show for rising TikTok singers, Becoming a Popstar. After a three-month process, Amira was one of those picked to be a contestant on the show.

Becoming a Popstar, as Amira describes, is different from other music competition shows we’ve all come to know over the years. “Well, first of all, it’s all original music. There’s not a single cover,” she says. “We have to write these songs in like a day or two and then meet with our producers, meet with our directors. Every week, we are producing a full project for people to vote on and decide if they’d listen to it on the radio.”

To make sure her deaf/HOH audiences can feel her songs, she makes sure to “add more bass, guitar, and violin in unique patterns.” She also incorporates “higher pitch sounds with like chimes, bells, and piccolo,” because, she says, they’re easier to feel. “But it’s less about the kind of instrument and more about how I arrange the pattern of the song. Everything I do is to create an atmosphere, a sensation, to make my music a multi-sensory experience.”

She says that working alongside the judges–pop stars Joe Jonas and Becky G, and choreographer Sean Bankhead – has helped expand her artistry. “Joe was really more about the vocal quality and the timber and Becky was really about the passion of [the song] and being convinced this was something you believed in,” she says. “And what was really great about [our choreographer] Sean is that obviously he’s a choreographer to the stars – Lil Nas X, Normani – but he didn’t only focus on choreo, he focused on stage presence, he focused on the overall message of the song. And I think all those critiques week to week helped us hone in on what we wanted to be saying with our next song.”

As her star rises, it’s been both her Muslim faith and her friends, whom she calls “The Glasses Gang” (“because none of us can see!”), that continue to ground her. “The Muslim and the Muslima community have really gone hard [supporting me] and all these people have come together and I truly appreciate them,” Amira says. “I have just been flooded with DMs and emails and texts from [young muslim kids] people who have just been so inspired,” she says. “People who have said they have never seen anything like this, that I embody a lot of the style that they wanted to see and that the message hit them, which is really the most important thing to me.”

A Black woman wears a long, salmon pink hijab, black outfit and pink boots, smiling down at the camera with her arm outstretched to it.

Amira Unplugged

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Throughout the show’s production, she was able to continue to uphold her faith practices with the help of the crew, such as making sure her food was halal, having time to pray, dressing modestly, and working with female choreographers. “If people can accept this, can learn, and can grow, and bring more people into the fold of this industry, then I’m making a real difference,” she says.

Though she didn’t win the competition, this is only the beginning for Amira. Whether it’s on Becoming a Popstar or her videos online, Amira has made it clear she has no plans on going anywhere but up. “I’m so excited that I’ve gotten this opportunity because this is really, truly what I think I’m meant to do.”

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