

Sigh. So you're on day 182 of the quarantine and you decide to get on Bumble, Hinge or whatever dating app that allows you to chat without commitment and swipe all your heart desires. You exchange numbers with a guy or two, the first couple of phone conversations go amazingly, and eventually they ask the dreaded question: When can we FaceTime? It's only dreaded a la self-quarantine and most of us walk around looking like zombies on our worst day and blah on our best.
If that sounds familiar, here's how to go from "Eh I'm not sure (let me see how long it will take me to do my hair)" to "Sure, of course I'd love to tonight at 7" for your first virtual date night!
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First, get your essentials together, also known as, a cute dress or top and some simple jewelry. The key is to shoot for cute but simple because, ahem, we are going to our laptops or phones to chat, not Ruth Chris. Get a simple dress that shows off your décolleté and fits you just right but is also comfortable to lounge in your ergonomic chair in. Then, pair it with a pair of gold hoops (because they make any outfit go drab to fab in .5 seconds) and a simple bangle: I chose my Alex & Ani phases of the moon bracelet since it represents femininity.
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Next, is makeup. After not wearing any for umpteen days, my skin is popping so I like to keep it simple because ladies, we all know any makeup looks BOMB if your skin is acting right. Want to beat your face? Go for it! But as for me and my house, if my makeup doesn't come off easily (especially after not wearing any for so long), I will definitely be annoyed so less is more. So I do a simple, "no makeup, makeup" look with dewy skin, a little color on my cheeks, some mascara to make my eyes pop and a nude but supple lip. Easy, peasy.
From (L to R) Glossier Cloud Paint Seamless Cheek Color in Dusk, Glossier Perfecting Skin Tint, Glossier Lash Slick Mascara, Fenty Beauty, Glossier Stretch Concealer
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Lastly, but most importantly (to me), is hair. Since I've been keeping my hair in twists after two weeks, I'm ready to take them out and wear my hair big and curly if I know there's a chance I might be on FaceTime more often than not. For a virtual date, I like to wear a cute updo so I put my hair up in a puff, fluff it out and go. Curls poppin', skin glowing and keeping it sexy yet classy.
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No frills. Just keep it simple and to the point. We have no idea what will become of this pandemic so keeping your look light will help keep the conversation light...hopefully. Trust me. Your skin (AND TIME if the date is a bust) will thank you later. Happy [virtual] dating, ya'll!
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Black girl joy is a powerful force, lighting up the world in unforgettable moments of triumph, love, and celebration. Throughout the decades, we have witnessed countless moments from Black women in entertainment, sports, and more. These moments, filled with grace, resilience, and unfiltered happiness, continue to uplift and inspire generations. Below are 10 remarkable Black girl joy moments from the last couple of decades.
Whitney Houston singing "Star Spangled Banner (National Anthem)" (1991)
Whitney Houston's rendition of the "Star Spangled Banner" has gone down in history as one of the best performances of the National Anthem.
Lauryn Hill winning 5 Grammys for ‘The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill’ (1999)
Lauryn Hill became the first Black woman to win five Grammys in one night.
Brandy becoming the FIRST Black Cinderella (1997)
This was the moment little Black girls everywhere saw themselves in a fairy tale for the first time. Not to mention,Brandy’s iconic Cinderella performance with Whitney Houston as her Fairy Godmother? PURE MAGIC.
Halle Berry becoming the FIRST Black woman to win an Oscar for Best Actress (2002)
Halle Berry’s emotional, joyful acceptance speech was herstoric: “This moment is for every nameless, faceless woman of color,” she said.
Serena Williams winning her first Grand Slam (1999)
A young, beaded-braid-wearing Serena Williams winning her first U.S. Open in 1999 was only the beginning of her GOAT status!
Oprah giving everyone a car (2004)
“You get a car! You get a car! Everybody gets a car!” Did Oprah know her joy and excitement would still be so memeworthy decades later?
Michelle Obama’s carpool karaoke with Missy Elliott (2016)
Michelle Obama rapping “Get Ur Freak On” with Missy Elliott on James Corden’s show? Just one of the reasons she will always be our FLOTUS!
Issa Rae’s ‘I’m rooting for everybody Black’ moment (2017)
Issa Rae’s unapologetic joy at the Emmys went VIRAL. The energy? The truth? The confidence? Chef’s kiss. Her viral became an anthem.
Mary J. Blige performing at the Super Bowl (2022)
Mary J. Blige SERVEDDD at the Super Bowl halftime show. With her iconic thigh high boots, fur coat, and legendary vocals, she showed us why she's the queen.
Beyoncé & Blue Ivy performing together at the Renaissance World Tour (2023)
Beyoncé bringing Blue Ivy out to perform with her during the Renaissance tour was such a sweet moment. Watching Blue Ivy carry on her mother’s legacy while living her best life was the definition of pure Black girl joy.
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