

Looking for ways to self-reflect? Oracle decks are a magical practice to add to your inward ritual. Upon digging deeper into self-work, we had to bring in an expert on oracle decks. Allow us to introduce you to Iya Osundara aka Bruja Banton. The Baltimore, MD resident is not only a Osun Priestess in the African Traditional Religion of Ifa/Isese but she's also a tarot and oracle reader, shadow worker, and spiritual bath maker.
"I got into oracle decks by way of tarot cards. I started teaching myself tarot in 2014/2015, and it goes with most things that I find an interest in, I stumbled down a YouTube rabbit hole. That's when I discovered another method of divination in the form of oracle cards," Iya explained.
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Without a shadow of a doubt, mama knows her stuff! xoNecole had the pleasure of chatting with this queen to talk oracle decks, why they are important, and insights on the rest of the year.
What do you love most about oracle cards?
"Oracle cards are free-spirited and can be about anything. You like affirmations? You can find an affirmation oracle deck. You into plants? There's an oracle deck for that. Crystals? A deck for that. Oracle decks also are a great example of the variety of ways Spirit communicates with us. Sky's the limit, they each have their own structure and feel and there's a freedom in that to me."
How do oracle decks differ from tarot cards?
"Tarot decks, while the artwork may vary, generally follow a structured system. There's always going to be a major and minor arcana of more or less 78 cards. Tarot is also good for getting down to the nitty-gritty of a topic; you can really get in-depth with them. As I mentioned earlier, contrastingly each individual oracle deck has its own structure and feel; this is great for folks who feel like tarot is too rigid or structured.
"Oracle decks are good for insight on a macro level, not too in-depth but just enough to get you started with broad concepts."
Why are oracle decks important?
"Using oracle decks is a form of divination, even on a basic level. To me this question is really asking, why is divination important? Using oracle decks as a tool to divine helps us to strengthen our connection to Spirit, whether that be God/Universe, benevolent ancestors, etc. These are tools that can provide us with insight and/or encouragement in our lives. Clients often ask me how they can strengthen their intuitive gifts, and using oracle decks, pulling cards for yourself is one way to do so."
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Can you give us a breakdown of some of your favorite cards?
"This varies as I work with a lot of decks and rotate through them a lot. Currently, my favorite card is "No Short Cuts" from the Chalks of Kikongo deck. It's a reminder that we can't shortcut our way to our goals. The only way is through even if it takes longer than you'd like. Another is Abe Dua from the Adinkra Ancestral Guidance Cards. Abe Dua is an Adinkra symbol that represents the Palm Tree. My government name in Hebrew means Palm Tree, so this card is special for me for that reason, and also because it symbolizes the resourcefulness and resilience that is inherent to the palm tree and also me. It's a reminder that I can create the opportunities I need without waiting on others to bring them to me."
Share any insights you have from your decks that may shine a light on the remainder of the year.
"If you're trying to become more in tune with your intuition, you can no longer ignore or turn away from what is being revealed to you. You have a choice to make a conscious decision on how to proceed.
"Take time to reflect on your choices and don't be afraid to make the choice you intuitively know is right. It may not be comfortable, it may shake the table, but the choices that are best for us cause us to feel this way. Lean into it."
What are your favorite decks?
"I own an obscene amount of decks and my favorites vary depending on the season or how I'm feeling. But some of my go-to oracle decks are: Adinkra Ancestral Guidance Cards, Work Your Light Oracle by Rebecca Campbell and Danielle Danielle Noel, Starseed Oracle by Rebecca Campbell and Danielle Noel, Okana Oracle deck by Akamarot Tarot, and the Chalks of Kikongo Deck by Sharifa of Ageno's Sweet Things."
For more of Iya Osundara, follow her on Instagram @_brujabanton.
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Quinta Brunson Gets Real About Divorce, Boundaries & Becoming
Quinta Brunson is the woman who chooses herself, even when the world is watching. And in her June 30 cover story for Bustle, she gives us a rare glimpse into the soft, centered place she's navigating her life from now. From leading one of television's most beloved series in the last decade to quietly moving through life shifts, the creator of Abbott Elementary is walking through a personal evolution and doing so with intention, grace, and a firm grip on her boundaries.
Back in March, the 35-year-old filed for divorce from Kevin Jay Anik after nearly three years of marriage, citing "irreconcilable differences." The news hit the headlines of news outlets fast, but Quinta hadn't planned to announce their dissolution to the public so quickly.
Quinta Brunson On Divorce, Public Scrutiny & Sacred Boundaries
"I remember seeing people be like, ‘She announced her divorce,’" she told Bustle. “I didn’t announce anything. I think people have this idea that people in the public eye want the public to know their every move. None of us do. I promise you. No one wants [everyone] to know when you buy a house, when you move, when a major change happens in your personal life. It’s just that that’s public record information."
In regards to her private moves becoming tabloid fodder, Quinta continued, "I hated that. I hate all of it."
"I Am An Artist First": Quinta On Cutting Her Hair & Reclaiming Herself
Still, the diminutive phenom holds her crown high in the face of change and is returning to the essence of who she is, especially as an artist. "Cutting my hair reminded me that I am an artist first. I want to feel things. I want to make choices. I want to be a person, and not just stuck in having to be a certain way for business." It's giving sacred rebirth. It's giving self-liberation. It's especially giving main character energy.
And while the headlines keep spinning their narratives, the one that Quinta is focused on is her own. For her, slowing down and nourishing herself in ways that feed her is what matters. "It’s a transitional time. I think it’s true for me and my personal life, and it’s how I feel about myself, my career, and the world," Quinta shared with Bustle. “I feel very serious about focusing on watering my own gardens, taking care of myself and the people around me who I actually interact with day-to-day."
That includes indulging in simple rituals that ground her like "making myself a meal" which has become "really, really important to me."
That spirit of agency doesn't stop at the personal. In her professional world, as the creator, executive producer, and lead actress of the critically-acclaimed Abbott Elementary, Quinta understands the weight her choices carry, both on- and off-screen. She revealed to Bustle, "People used to tell me at the beginning of this that the No. 1 on the call sheet sets the tone, and the producer sets the tone — and I’m both of those roles."
She continued, "I understand now, after doing this for four years, how important it was that I set the tone that I did when we first started."
Quinta doesn't just lead, she understands the importance of curating the energy of any space she enters. Even amid a season of shifts and shedding, her power speaks loudly. Sometimes that power looks like quiet resistance. Sometimes that power is soft leadership.
And sometimes that power looks like cutting your hair and taking back your name in rooms that have forgotten you were an artist long before you were a brand.
Read Quinta's cover story on Bustle here to witness the fullness of Quinta's becoming.
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