

In the plot twist of 2023 so far, Meagan Good has sparked dating rumors thanks to being steadily papped while on the arm of new flame actor Jonathan Majors. And one thing that we got from this week's court appearance where she walked hand in hand with her man, the Harlem star is going to stick beside him.
Marvel star Jonathan Majors arrives in court holding hands with girlfriend Meagan Good. Once inside the courtroom, Good had her arm around Majors and stroked his head.
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Majors is facing assault and harassment charges for a case involving an ex-girlfriend. pic.twitter.com/jncMh4POO8
After a meteoric rise from starring roles in two major (no pun intended) Hollywood blockbusters this year, the actor's image in the court of public opinion took a nosedive following assault and harassment charges filed against him by the Manhattan District Attorney’s Office. The charges stemmed from an alleged incident with his ex-girlfriend in March.
Through his legal counsel, the Marvel star, who is still slated to appear in upcoming MCU properties, has maintained his innocence with his lawyer calling the allegations "false." His lawyer Priya Chaudhry also shared with Insider that the arrest and subsequent charges are a textbook case of racism.
A court date has since been set for August.
On the heels of a very public divorce, seeing Meagan explore love in a new relationship with Jonathan has been the center of many conversations on Twitter and the like, with opinions ranging from her big "wife" energy displayed in court this week to beliefs that the relationship smells like a PR move.
But piggybacking off what Prentice Penny said in 2021 that we think is a very on-point quote for when you find yourself judging other people's choices: "Love is a choice, and it only needs to make sense to you."
Who Is Meagan Good Dating?
One thing about Meagan is she is going to love fiercely and fearlessly. She also lives her life for herself and can easily shake off others' opinions if it isn't in alignment with what she wants for herself. None of us know the ins and outs of this new relationship. And like her ex-husband DeVon Franklin shared in a recent interview with The Breakfast Club when asked if her being with Jonathan upset him, "She's happy. That's a blessing."
Seeing Meagan happy and possibly in love again made us want to take a trip down relationship memory lane of who the actress has dated in the past.
Meagan Good's Dating History
Keep reading for Meagan Good's dating history.
Meagan Good and 50 Cent (2002-2003)
Who could forget the iconic 50 Cent visual for "21 Questions" made all the more sweeter by Meagan Good's presence in it? The Cousin Skeeter alum was long since known for her looks and career moves, like starring in 50 Cent's music video further cemented her sex symbol status. After meeting on the set of said video, Meagan and 50 dated briefly but kept it lowkey because Meagan didn't want their relationship to define her success as she was making a name for herself.
Meagan explained her decision to keep the relationship under wraps a decade later in an interview with Hollywood Unlocked:
"I kept it under the radar intentionally because at that time in my career, I'd just come off of 'Biker Boyz,' I'd just done the music video, and my career was going in a really great way, and what I didn't want was my connection to him to be the catalyst in any type of success that I had."
Meagan Good and Joseph Gordon-Levitt (2004)
Though it has never been confirmed or denied, much speculation has circulated in the media that the two co-stars dated between April and October of 2004 while they were filming the 2005 film Brick.
Meagan Good and Thomas Q. Jones (2007-2010)
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Between 2007 and 2010, Meagan was in a relationship with former Kansas City Chiefs running back Thomas Q. Jones (who is now an actor). In an interview withESSENCE, he shared how he and Meagan made their on-again-off-again relationship work:
"I look at it as something I want to do, and we take it one day at a time. I don’t look at it like it’s work. The reality is I work in New York and she works in L.A., but we are fortunate we have jobs where it’s flexible. I’m in New York for five months of the year and the other time I am wherever she is. To me, it’s what you make it. I’ve never seen myself as a celebrity, which is probably because I’m from a small town. I’m just blessed I get to do something I love to do. She’s the same way, and really humble. We may be at the mall or the movies, and people will say what are y’all doing here. We’re doing the same thing everyone else does."
Meagan Good and Soulja Boy (2008)
After a crush that seemed one-sided, Meagan did indeed briefly date rapper Soulja Boy in 2008 during one of her breaks with Thomas Q. Jones. The relationship fizzled, and according to an alleged tweet from the actress that no longer exists, things didn't end between the pair on the best terms.
Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin (2011-2021)
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After a slew of relationships ending, being cheated on would become the catalyst for Meagan's healing journey. In 2010, she decided to take a vow of celibacy. She told Paradein 2019, "I had gotten out of another relationship and started praying about what was next and what I should be doing, and I started being celibate and working on myself and healing."
In addition to wanting to change some of her "destructive" ways, she told The Post in a 2016 interview about her decision, "I no longer wanted to be a girlfriend, I wanted a husband." Two years into her celibacy journey, she found one.
In a 2020 interview with the Tamron Hall Show, a then-38-year-old Meagan shared what God told her about the man she would eventually marry.
"The first thing God told me was that it was time to get out of that relationship. The second thing that God told me was that it was time to be celibate. The third thing God told me was that DeVon was my husband."
While working on the film Jumping the Broom in 2011, Meagan connected with producer and preacher DeVon Franklin. They had known each other for years but didn't truly hit it off in a romantic sense until that year. They would have a brief courtship before getting engaged in March 2012. Following the theme of a brief courtship, their engagement would end a few short months later, in June 2012, when the couple married and said, "I do."
In addition to cultivating a strong marriage of nearly a decade, the former couple wrote a very popular book together called The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love in 2017, and their love journey was an inspiration to many.
In December 2021, in an announcement that would shock many, Meagan and DeVon announced their decision to end their marriage. In a joint statement, the former couple shared, "We celebrate almost a decade of marriage together and a love that is eternal. There's no one at fault, we believe this is the next best chapter in the evolution of our love."
Similarly to the healing journey before it, Meagan chose to be an open book about her major life shift and was very vocal about processing the divorce. "Throughout life, I’ve always approached relationships as understanding that at some point, they’ll get to the place that they’re going to, and then they would be over," she revealed in a 2022 conversation with xoNecole.
She continued, "In my situation right now, it’s a little bit different because I thought that that would be the last time that I would be doing that and that I would be doing this with that person forever.”
Meagan Good and Jonathan Majors (2023-Present)
And now, we're back to where we started at the beginning of the article. Though much isn't known about her relationship with Lovecraft Country alum Jonathan Majors, the two seem pretty serious.
Despite first being papped as recently as May 2023, Meagan, 41, and Jonathan, 33, have been photographed while shopping for home decor, having dinner with her family, and now somewhat infamously holding hands at Jonathan's recent court appearance in an undeniable display as a united front, the budding relationship seems like the real deal for both actors.
The couple hasn't confirmed relationship rumors, but they are also far from denying them. Regardless of whether or not the two are falling or growing in love, we are happy to see our girl happy.
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Luxury Hairstylist On Viral 'Hey Boo' Texts & Professionalism In The Hair Industry
As Black women, our hair is our crowning glory - whether we paid for it or not. We take pride in how we wear and take care of our hair. As with everything, hair care and hair styling have evolved over the years. Long gone are the days of Blue Magic (although I hear it’s making a comeback).
Now, we have a plethora of creams, oils, conditioners, shampoos, and stylists to choose from. Beyond wearing our natural curls, we have a range of options, from wigs and sew-ins to tape-ins, I-tips, and K-tips. So much choice! But you know what they say about too much of a good thing...
The Black hair industry has definitely blossomed in the last decade with a wave of new stylists and salons popping up all over the place. As much as I love that for us, many of these stylists have become the subjects of viral TikTok and Instagram tirades because of their alleged questionable behavior and bizarre rules.
Excessive policies, strange fees, long wait times, poor performance, and the infamous “Hey boo” texts. Beauty is pain, they say… xoNecole got to the root of these issues with luxury hair extensionist Dee Michelle, who’s been in the hair game for 20 years and runs a seven-figure business - all while being a mom of four.
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“I started my business with my career in the hair industry [at] very, very young age when I was maybe like eight...So, over the years, I've just built a very successful seven-figure business very quickly just by offering high-end services and creating great experiences for my clients, many of whom are high-profile professionals,” she said. “I'm also a mother of four, including a set of triplets, which inspires me daily to show what's possible with my hard work and focus.”
Dee’s business has gone viral on social media because of what many call outrageous prices for her invisible K-Tip installs.
“When I developed my invisible K-tip extensions technique, I made sure that it wasn't just about the hair or the style, but about providing a high-end experience from start to finish. So, my clients just aren't paying for the extensions or just the style itself, but they're investing into my meticulous, seamless craft and premium hair sourced from the best suppliers…I've spent so many hours mastering my craft, creating this seamless method that gives my clients long-lasting natural results, and my pricing just reflects that - the value of my expertise and the exclusivity of the service.”
The K-tip specialist stands on business when it comes to catering to her clients and giving them an experience worth the cost.
“And it's just important for me to also say that my clients are high-profile individuals who value quality, their privacy, and their time. They want a service that fits into their lifestyle and their time. They want things that deliver perfection. And I deliver that every single time.”
I’m sure we’ve all seen the various TikTok rants about people’s nightmare experiences with stylists and uttered a silent “FELT!” We asked Dee her opinion on a few nightmare scenarios that beg the response, “please be so forreal."
On stylists charging extra to wash clients’ hair:
“I think they should just include it in the price, to be honest. Because I feel like when clients go to a stylist, they're expecting you to wash their hair. Personally, if I see that washing is extra, I just wouldn't go to the salon because it just shows a lack of professionalism, in my opinion, and a lack of experience.”
“I think they should just include it in the price, to be honest. Because I feel like when clients go to a stylist, they're expecting you to wash their hair. Personally, if I see that washing is extra, I just wouldn't go to the salon because it just shows a lack of professionalism, in my opinion, and a lack of experience.”
On ‘deposits’ that don’t go towards the cost of the service:
“I think that's kind of weird, too, for deposits to not be like a part of the service. I've seen people have booking fees and I just don't understand it, to be honest. I disagree with that kind of policy…By all means, people should do what works for them, but to me, it doesn't make sense. Why does somebody have to pay a fee just to book an appointment with you? I don't get it. It feels like exploitation.”
On stylists charging extra to style (straighten/curl) wigs, sew-ins etc., after installing:
“I don't get it. Clients come to us to get their hair done, to get it styled. So why is it extra for you to style it? If you're going to charge extra, just increase your price. I feel like it could be just a lack of confidence in those stylists, feeling like people won't pay a certain price for certain things, or just their lack of professionalism as well, because people are coming to us to get styled.”
On the infamous “Hey boo” text stylists send to clients when they need to cancel/reschedule:
“Professionalism in any industry, especially the beauty industry, is everything. So texting a client the, “Hey boo” is so unprofessional, and it's damaging to the client-stylist relationship. Clients book their appointments expecting a level of respect and care, especially when they're investing their time and money and a service. And I get it, emergencies happen, we're all humans. However, it should be done with a formal apology and a clear explanation.”
“Professionalism in any industry, especially the beauty industry, is everything. So texting a client the, “Hey boo” is so unprofessional, and it's damaging to the client-stylist relationship. Clients book their appointments expecting a level of respect and care, especially when they're investing their time and money and a service. And I get it, emergencies happen, we're all humans. However, it should be done with a formal apology and a clear explanation.”
We know all too well what kinds of things will keep us from ever gracing certain hairstylists’ chairs with our butts again. So, what should hairstylists do to provide a good service to their clients? What is good hairstylist etiquette?
“For one, being on time is an important rule for stylist etiquette. It's just not okay to require your clients to be on time, and you're not on time. Also, communication. Being able to communicate clearly, respectfully, and professionally, whether that's in person, via text, or on social media. Style is etiquette. Appearance matters. So just maintaining a clean, polished, and professional look. Clients respect you more whenever your appearance reflects your work. There's just so many things, but another thing I would say is active listening. So, being able to pay close attention to what your client wants and also clarifying any questions that they might have. Just to ensure that they feel heard and to minimize any misunderstandings.”
Dee also shared some red flags to look out for when considering a new stylist.
“Even me as a client, if I'm booking somebody and they have a long list of rules, I don't even book with them. That's, for one, just such a huge turn-off. Also, stylists who have inconsistent or unclear pricing, that's a red flag. People who change their rates too much without an explanation. Poor communication. So, if a stylist is responding very slow or responding unprofessionally, or giving vague answers to questions, that can make clients question whether or not they are respecting their time and their needs.
Another red flag - an inconsistent or low quality portfolio. And I feel like, I see this a lot with stylists stealing other people's work, and their portfolio on social media is just very inconsistent.”
We couldn’t let Dee go without getting the tea on what styles she predicts will trend in 2025.
“I feel like people are going back to natural-looking styles. So, a lot of people are ditching the wigs, the lace fronts, things like that. People are still wearing them, of course, but it is becoming more of a trend to embrace your natural hair and something that's not looking too fake. That’s one thing that we're going to be seeing a lot. I would say a lot of layers are coming back, heavy layers. Those are becoming really, really trendy. And people are leaning more towards platinum-colored hair. I've been seeing lots of like blondes coming out. Also, jet black is always going to be a trend. But I would say more like natural colors, but natural colors that are still making a statement.”
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Plot Twist: How About Going 'Boysober' For Valentine's Day?
Single on Valentine’s Day — and just for the record, in this instance, what I mean is being someone who doesn’t have any date plans for the day. Let me start off by saying that if that causes you to “feel some type of way” and the way ain’t good, Pew Research says that we’re currently living in a time where almost 60 percent of singles actually aren’t looking to date.
The layers behind that, we can get into at another time. The reason why I thought that it was valid today is because I think a lot of single people struggle with Valentine’s Day because they think they are the only one without someone when that absolutely couldn’t be further from the truth. Then there’s the approach that they take on the day — basically, they just wish that it would be the fastest day of the year so that they could get on with their lives. #lesigh
If that is you, this year, I want you to consider taking a different approach. Instead of low-key loathing the day because your romantic status isn’t what you would perhaps prefer, why not use this as a time to go “boysober.”
Never heard of that before? Let me break it down so that you can perhaps end up having one of your best Valentine’s Days to date.
First, What Does It Mean to Be Sober?
It’s kind of sad that pretty much the only thing that (most) people think about whenever the word “sober” enters the chat, is someone who isn’t drunk off of alcohol because it definitely has a lot more meanings than that. To be sober is to be serious. To be sober is to be subdued. To be sober is to be self-controlled (that’s a really good one). To be sober is to be rational and even sane. Synonyms for sober include words like calm, restrained, steady, and — check it — abstinent (we’ll circle around to that in just a minute).
So, really, well beyond having one too many, when the phrase “sober up” comes up, as you can see, that can go so many different directions — and that is why, for the most part, I actually support the made-up word that’s currently getting its fair share of traction these days: BOYSOBER.
Next, What Does It Mean to Be “Boysober”?
I like to give credit where credit is due and, from what I’ve read and researched, a comedian in her late 20s by the name of Hope Woodard has coined the term “boysober.” To her, it means that it’s a time when women choose to go without all things romantically related to men: no (real) flirting, no dates, and certainly no sex. The purpose of this? To instead use the time to do some self-reflecting, healing, and figuring out what you really want (as opposed to the patterns you may just be used to).
Another benefit of being boysober is to put the effort and energy that typically would go into a relationship into cultivating more love for self — and that is something that I will always get behind (the love yourself part, I mean).
Now, when it comes to the no-sex part, I will say that there are some connotations there that have some layers to them. I’ll explain.
The Difference Between Celibate and Abstinent
According to Hope, the motivation for why she decided that not having sex applies to being boysober is based on two (main) reasons. One, she feels like the word “celibate” is a religious term which, if folks are celibate, they don’t really have much of a choice. Hmm. I guess she’s saying that the standards of religion make people feel “shamed” or “feared” into sexual purity which I don’t 100 percent agree with.
Anyway, to her, boysober sounds/feels more empowering and liberating. In fact, in an interview, she was quoted as saying:
“I hate ‘celibacy’ so much, because I don’t want to give credence to anyone saying you’re more lovable or respectable or better if you’re not having sex...Boysober is about taking time to pause, reflect, and reprioritize — not to gain male approval.”
We’ll come back to that…
Her second reason: in the same article, she said that although she consented to all of the sex that she had, she wasn’t necessarily given permission; to her, being boysober is all about her and not guys as far as her sex-related choices are concerned.
Okay, so as for the celibacy thing — although I could pen a book, for sure, about how churches, overall, could do so much better when it comes to teaching purity culture (no lie), I do find it fascinating that so much of what religion teaches, one way or another, “secular culture” seems to find its way to…or back to, one way or another. At the end of the day, being celibate does mean to abstain from sex — and yes, it’s oftentimes due to religious reasons, because some set of Scriptures (because not only Christianity practices celibacy) encourages being that way until marriage (or forever if they choose not to get married).
That said, if someone wants to do that, that is a freewill choice and they shouldn’t be “shamed” by non-religious people for choosing it. Some people believe that sex is for marriage alone; no one should be gaslit for feeling that way. Again, that is their choice. It should also go on record that celibacy is sometimes a lifetime decision (priests and nuns come to mind).
Whereas being abstinent? That is a temporary season of going without sex — and yes, it has always bothered me that folks use those two words interchangeably because while the act may ultimately be the same, the motives and timing are quite different. And actually, what it seems that Hope is referring to, is abstinence. Boysober is a season of abstinence, not celibacy.
Which brings me to her second boysober reason. I’ll just say that it’s always important to take personal accountability for the decisions that we make (you won’t really grow any other way) and one way to do that is to really understand WHY you are having sex before you have it. We live in a time when so many folks are so casual about sex that they tend to forget (if they ever really knew) what casual means and one definition is “without definite or serious intention; careless or offhand; passing” which pretty much means that something lacks any real purpose…or meaning.
Again, how wild is it that our culture likes to push sex as nothing more than a fun activity down our throats — oh, but when it’s time to do some evolving and maturing, going without sex is one of the top practices that comes up? Fascinating indeed.
All this to say, if you are thinking about chilling out on the sex tip for a while, ask yourself: 1) Is it for religious or other reasons; 2) is the plan until marriage (celibate) or just for a season (abstinent), and 3) are you going to take the time to do some inner work that goes beyond simply…leaving guys alone (sex journaling can help with this one, by the way)? Because the saying, “Everywhere you go, there you are”?
Well, in this instance, it makes no sense to not have romantic involvements if you’re not going to be self-introspective, so that once you’re done with your break, you are able to choose wiser and better — and that requires you shifting some things within yourself, not just taking some days, weeks or months to not engage with the fellas.
Why Valentine’s Day Is a Great Day to Try Being Boysober
There’s a reason why I think that, for the most part, the concept of going boysober isn’t just an intelligent thing to do from time to time but Valentine’s Day could be an awesome moment in your life to give it a shot. It’s because, unfortunately, Valentine’s Day is considered to be one of the most stress-filled holidays of the year.
Couples are expected to go over-the-top when it comes to their expressions of love while singles oftentimes feel bad if they don’t have anyone, romantically, to celebrate the day with. I’m not exaggerating either. I actually read that the dating site Plenty of Fish once conducted a survey citing that 43 percent of singles stated that no day of the year gives them more anxiety than Valentine’s Day. A day honoring love…totally stressing you out. Goodness.
Is it crazy to see couples all over the place and wish that you were in one on February 14? No. It isn’t. Know what is…not sober (you know, sane), though? Being so caught up in not having someone that you overlook what a happily married wife over a couple of decades once said to me; something that, after 20 years of working with married folks, I absolutely agree with: “The loneliest night alone beats being in a bad marriage any day.”
Listen, self-love includes coming to the conclusion that you don’t just want SOMEONE; you desire THE RIGHT ONE…and then celebrating yourself for not just saying it but meaning it — and being boysober can play a role in that because, by choosing to exert self-control, by choosing to take your love for self over everything else (right now) serious, by choosing to remain calm while others may be freaking out on Valentine’s Day…that can transform you in a myriad of different ways. All beneficial too.
And so, while some folks are out here acting like Valentine’s Day is a cuss word (LOL), you can get and then remain excited about what it means to choose to have a sober-minded approach to men, relationships, and sex. You can be genuinely happy about the fact that, no, you don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day and it’s all because you choose to focus on you — via a self-pamper day, deals on drinks at Applebee’s, a discount on an ice cream cake at Baskin Robbins or some of these other deals (that I found for this year) here. And how absolutely bomb is that?
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Actor Lucille Ball once said, “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." Author Katrina Mayer once said, “Loving yourself isn't vanity. It's sanity." Author Kamal Ravikant once said, “The truth is to love yourself with the same intensity you would use to pull yourself up if you were hanging off a cliff with your fingers.” Singer Whitney Houston once sang, “Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all.” Author Paulo Coelho once said, “When you say ‘yes’ to others make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.”
Going boysober is one way to amplify all of this in some truly significant ways.
Going sober certainly has its benefits. Try it.
You just might like it. No, LOVE it.
Just in time for Valentine’s Day. #wink
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