I wasn't necessarily on the hunt for a new lipstick but when my sister introduced me to the Kat Von D Everlasting Liquid Lipstick, I had to get my own.
I'll admit I've never used any Kat Von D products before, so I wasn't sure what to expect nor did I have any bias. Looking into the line, I noticed it was vegan-friendly, oil-free, and free of parabens. I was intrigued and when I tested a few of their colors, I definitely became a fan.
Before I get into my wear test, I wanted to tell you my thoughts on the overall lipstick collection:
The Colors
My struggle when it comes lipsticks is inclusivity with colors and finding a shade that looks good on me and makes me feel comfortable wearing. The Everlasting Liquid Lipstick line features 42 different creamy colors for all skin tones and I find it very unlikely that you won't be able to find a few favorites in the collection. In addition to the variety of colors, each lipstick is highly pigmented and oxidizes into a beautiful color against your skin tone.
The Application
Another pro to the Kat Von D Everlasting Liquid Lipstick is the easy application. When you untwist it, it pushes up, ready for use. The applicator has an angled part that makes outlining and filling in your lips very easy. I was able to fill in my lips on the first try, however, I would recommend at two to three coats for longer, lasting wear.
The Finish
The finish is very matte, but not drying. I would apply a moderate amount of Chapstick just to make sure your lips are moisturized, but not too much that it may interfere with the color or application process. I also recommend letting your lip balm set into your lips before applying.
The Wear Test
I purchased two colors: Lolita and Nahz Fur Atoo. I did a wear test for both lipsticks to make sure there weren't any inconsistencies throughout the line. Let's start with Lolita.
Lolita
Lolita is a pinkish nude, although it is highly pigmented it gives a subtle and natural look.
I started my day at 1:30 p.m. and I loved the coverage. (first image)
It pretty much stayed in tact, until I ate at 4:00 p.m.
The color was still on, but I realized it was starting to get more wear.
I had to reapply my lipstick after I ate, by this time it was about 5:00 p.m..
After I reapplied, I didn't need to do it again, even after I ate. It lasted me until about midnight.
Nahz Fur Atoo
Nahz Fur Atoo is a very bold red, it starts out very bright but oxidizes once it dries onto your lips.
I started my day at 12 p.m. and I applied two layers on my lips.
Even after I ate Chinese food (around 2:00 p.m.), I was pleasantly surprised at how much lipstick I still had on my lips. It did have a little wear after wiping my face, but it didn't come off nearly as much as the Lolita.
I only reapplied a little on my top lip, because the bottom lip still had good coverage. Once I did that reapplication, I was good to go for the rest of the night.
Overall, I love this lipstick and I think it does have consistency across the board.
Although the colors may be bolder than others, the formula still works the same. Each lipstick in the collection retails for $20 and at first, I thought it was a bit pricey, but it's definitely worth the coins.
Featured image by Getty Images; all additional photos provided by writer Krissy Lewis.
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:Â Â
​Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
​Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
​Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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