Here's Why You Should Squeeze In A Quickie At The Start Of Your Day
Believe it or not, sex is one of the ways I practice self-care. I personally believe that along with our spiritual rituals, it's important to make sure our bodies are feeling uplifted and elevated too. There's something about a good orgasm that releases my stress and allows my body to fully experience every stroke and gut-tingling feeling.
I believe that the vibe of sex in the morning is completely different than at night. At night, sex gives me everything I need to unwind from a long day and puts me right to sleep, but morning sex gives me a little extra mmph. Occasionally, I would opt out of my cup of coffee or tea, and enjoy the D instead. Don't get me wrong, you can get it in at any time, but let me put you on to a few benefits of squeezing in a quickie before the start of your day:
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You Tend To Be In A Better Mood After.
Assuming your partner knows how to get you off, sex tends to put you in a way better mood. After sex, I get this smile and afterglow that would make you think I just been touched by the holy ghost. Whenever we have sex, we tend to release a variety of chemicals, like epinephrine (adrenaline) and dopamine (the feel-good chemical) for example. When dopamine is released, it causes the same type of pleasure and happiness as listening to your favorite song or receiving good news.
I believe how you start your morning impacts the rest of your day, so why not start off in the best possible mood?
It Gives You An Extra Energy Boost.
Sex can give you an even better boost energy boost in the morning. The more exercise you do, the more it increases your energy. Studies have shown you can burn up to 144 calories per half hour of sex, so I'll let you determine how many calories you have time to burn in the morning. Certain positions allow you to burn more calories than others. Cowgirl position is ideal, but a few of my favorites are the squatting cowgirl, the planted cowgirl, and missionary with my legs all the way up.
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It Boosts Confidence Levels.
When it comes to sex, we all take turns being the pleaser and it has its benefits. The feeling of completely satisfying your partner and making him/her orgasm is a huge confidence booster. I can't lie, I feel really good hearing every "damn" and "oh shit" and honestly it makes me want to get nastier and more adventurous. If done with the right person, sex can also make you forget all of your insecurities, the things that we may fuss about like being desired, wanted, valued, and catered to, and it feels good.
You deserve to wake up every day feeling like your best self and if a quickie helps then do you, girl!
We all know that the way we start our morning impacts the way the rest of our day will go so if being on top helps me feel on top, then I'm down. Even if it's not something you can see yourself doing every day, start during the weekend and explore the different ways to increase your energy to start your day on a high note.
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Freelance writer, content creator, and traveler. She enjoys the beauty of simplicity, a peaceful life, and a big curly fro. Connect with Krissy on social media @iamkrissylewis or check out her blog at www.krissylewis.com.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
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How A Stay At Switzerland's Luxurious 7132 Hotel Reminded Me To Live The Life I Deserve
Sometimes, as women—especially as single Black women—we simply need to be reminded that we are deserving of living a life we dream of. Even if that means creating it for ourselves. I recently set out on a weeklong trip to Switzerland, a trip I’ve been wanting to take for years, and near the end of my visit, I had an epiphany.
“DeAnna, this is the life you deserve,” I thought to myself as I took in the gorgeous bathroom in my suite at the famous 7132 Hotel and Thermal Spa. It was one of the most luxurious hotels (and bathrooms) I had ever stayed in—and that’s saying a lot for someone who often travels for work.
To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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