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Russell Wilson's $140 Million Deal Is A Reminder To Stop Sleeping On "Good" Guys

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Anyone who says nice guys finish last probably hasn't met Russell Wilson, aka the highest paid football player in the NFL. If you've ever truly been in love, you know that it's never about the money. But boy, does it put an extra layer of icing on the cake knowing that you can afford to ball out with the one that you love.


Husband of R&B superstar Ciara, and Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson recently signed a four-year extension contract that is valued at $140 million and we ain't mad at that. The couple recently announced Russell's multimillion dollar deal in a late-night Instagram post that confirmed news that Seahawks fans had been anticipating since last season. Cuddled up and giving us serious rich auntie and uncle vibes, the Wilsons had this to say:

"Hey Seattle, we got a deal. Go Hawks! But, I'm gonna see y'all in the morning."

The sleep-deprived couple said that they could finally get a good night's sleep after enduring the grueling signing process and coming out on top. Ciara told Andy Cohen that it was a nerve-wrecking process and they didn't really know what to expect. She explained:

"It was a process. It really went down to the wire. You just don't know what's going to happen until that very last second."
"I'm just so proud of him. He's incredible…it's a blessing."

Nevertheless, as always, CiCi had her man's back until they got a final decision. The "Thinking 'Bout You" singer publicly exclaimed her overwhelming pride for her baller beau on Instagram and told fans she can't wait to see what the future holds, and according to her most recent interview, that may even mean baby #3... Just not today.

"I do look forward to the third one, but we got a little time right now. I'm enjoying dancing with my flat belly right now."

Now, if you're into the media and have been following the Future-Ciara-Russell Wilson love triangle, you know that Russell's good boy turned better archetype has been criticized in the past. Living in this strange twilight zone of a culture in which we value drama and chaos more than we do responsibility and stability, it's understandable that standing next to the lean-sipping bad boy that is Future, Russell Wilson can seem a bit less… edgy. Lame, I would even say. I said what I said.

What kind of guy would raise another man's son as his own? Who on earth would sacrafice their own sexual satisfaction to honor their union with their soon-to-be spouse? Imagine a man who loves you so much that he'll talk to God about you, now that's a blessing.

Ciara is a true reminder that sleeping on good guys may cause you to miss out on the man of your dreams.

Don't get me wrong, there is a clear and obvious difference between self-proclaimed nice guys, and good men, and it's important to have enough discernment to know the difference. Sometimes, the proof is in the prayer. In a recent episode of "Watch What Happens Now," Ciara finally spilled the details on her conversation with God that ultimately led her to Russell Wilson:

"I have to say I definitely prayed a prayer, and I prayed many times. All I have to say is, when you're going through the transition of love and trying to figure out life, you gotta be specific, and you have to reflect on the journey prior to kind of see why are you at that point where things are not working out the way you envisioned them."

Ciara mentioned that although the law of attraction is real and you have to be specific about what you want, you also have to learn yourself well enough to know what you don't want… But seriously, who doesn't want a millionaire bae who fixes your dress on the red carpet and looks at you the way Russell does Ciara?

Keep praying, your Russell is out there. And take it from Ciara, if you make the decision to stop sleeping on good guys, it just might pay off (word to Shellie R. Warren). So Cici, when's the shopping spree, sis?!

Featured image by Instagram/Ciara.

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When I was ten, my Sunday school teacher put on a brief performance in class that included some of the boys standing in front of the classroom while she stood in front of them holding a heart shaped box of chocolate. One by one, she tells each boy to come and bite a piece of candy and then place the remainder back into the box. After the last boy, she gave the box of now mangled chocolate over to the other Sunday school teacher — who happened to be her real husband — who made a comically puzzled face. She told us that the lesson to be gleaned from this was that if you give your heart away to too many people, once you find “the one,” that your heart would be too damaged. The lesson wasn’t explicitly about sex but the implication was clearly present.

That memory came back to me after a flier went viral last week, advertising an abstinence event titled The Close Your Legs Tour with the specific target demo of teen girls came across my Twitter timeline. The event was met with derision online. Writer, artist, and professor Ashon Crawley said: “We have to refuse shame. it is not yours to hold. legs open or not.” Writer and theologian Candice Marie Benbow said on her Twitter: “Any event where 12-17-year-old girls are being told to ‘keep their legs closed’ is a space where purity culture is being reinforced.”

“Purity culture,” as Benbow referenced, is a culture that teaches primarily girls and women that their value is to be found in their ability to stay chaste and “pure”–as in, non-sexual–for both God and their future husbands.

I grew up in an explicitly evangelical house and church, where I was taught virginity was the best gift a girl can hold on to until she got married. I fortunately never wore a purity ring or had a ceremony where I promised my father I wouldn’t have pre-marital sex. I certainly never even thought of having my hymen examined and the certificate handed over to my father on my wedding day as “proof” that I kept my promise. But the culture was always present. A few years after that chocolate-flavored indoctrination, I was introduced to the fabled car anecdote. “Boys don’t like girls who have been test-driven,” as it goes.

And I believed it for a long time. That to be loved and to be desired by men, it was only right for me to deny myself my own basic human desires, in the hopes of one day meeting a man that would fill all of my fantasies — romantically and sexually. Even if it meant denying my queerness, or even if it meant ignoring how being the only Black and fat girl in a predominantly white Christian space often had me watch all the white girls have their first boyfriends while I didn’t. Something they don’t tell you about purity culture – and that it took me years to learn and unlearn myself – is that there are bodies that are deemed inherently sinful and vulgar. That purity is about the desire to see girls and women shrink themselves, make themselves meek for men.

Purity culture isn’t unlike rape culture which tells young girls in so many ways that their worth can only be found through their bodies. Whether it be through promiscuity or chastity, young girls are instructed on what to do with their bodies before they’ve had time to figure themselves out, separate from a patriarchal lens. That their needs are secondary to that of the men and boys in their lives.

It took me a while —after leaving the church and unlearning the toxic ideals around purity culture rooted in anti-Blackness, fatphobia, heteropatriarchy, and queerphobia — to embrace my body, my sexuality, and my queerness as something that was not only not sinful or dirty, but actually in line with the vision God has over my life. Our bodies don't stop being our temples depending on who we do or who we don’t let in, and our worth isn’t dependent on the width of our legs at any given point.

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