How Kesha McLeod Went from Working In Retail to Styling The Biggest Names In Sports

The truth about purpose is that sometimes you have to let it find you.
It doesn't follow a strict timeline, and the aha moment often hits you when you least expect it—maybe...
in your teens or your early twenties, just in time for you to decide which career path to pursue and what jobs to send your resume to. It may lie dormant while you move and shake within your industry, building up a Rolodex of clients that will make the average person do a double take.
Or in the case of celebrity stylist Kesha McLeod, it might not hit you until long after you've built a respectable career, and are looking for the next part of your legacy.
“I'm figuring out my purpose and my values and my core values," says McLeod. “But [in the meantime] I can speak on [it] to a younger generation that wants to do what I want to do."

We're ducked off of the streets of Melrose in a minimalistic store for high-end streetwear brand, Daniel Patrick, where McLeod is teaching me “How to Build a Bomb Wardrobe: 101." First lesson—start with the basics. White tees, colored shirts, denim jeans, these wardrobe essentials are how a good foundation is built. She skips past monocolored clothing displays and flicks through a rack of brightly colored options, pulling out a long yellow shirt that would be a dress on me but fits perfectly for one of her many athletic clients. Chris Bosh, maybe? Serena Williams? James Harden? Andre Iguodala? She's a little tight-lipped on the details, but there's a guarantee that the threads will end up on any one of those style icons.
“I usually talk to them in the beginning of the season since it's athletes predominantly," she says. “We talk about where we're going and how we're styling them, what we're going to work with, what are their inspirations, and things like that."
For McLeod, style has always been innate. The Jamaican-Trinidadian was seemingly born with the ability to piece good looks together, a skillset that faired well for her in her various retail positions where she started from the bottom, only to be promoted to supervisor within a few weeks.
“Styling, to me, is basically psychological and it's common sense within. I just bring the person that's inside out."
Around the age of 19, shortly after receiving her associate's and prior to her pursuing a fashion marketing degree, she worked a dead-end job as a telemarketer for just a month before spotting a H&M ad that led her to walk out the door on her lunch break.
“I don't mention it because it's not significant, but if you think about it, it is because if I would've never opened that paper, bored out of my mind, I would've never taken this route."
Working in the H&M showroom was enough to open her mind to the possibilities of styling as a career, and gave her a vision for her life. She didn't just want to be in the retail stores, she wanted her work to appear on the red carpets, on the backs of athletes and entertainers. Taking initiative, she researched out to companies that aligned with her goals and found work at a boutique agency before transitioning over her talents to work with notable stylist Rachel Johnson, founder and CEO of the Thomas Faison Agency.
“I wanted to be bigger and better and she was the biggest in her field, especially in sports. So I went and worked with her for seven years and then I went out on my own."

Risk.
Not something new to McLeod, and definitely something that has been a staple throughout her career. Branching out on her own was one of her best mistakes. At the time it seemed crazy, stupid even—it meant that she had no guarantee of income, no steady clientele, no big name to back her, and no comfortable cushion to catch her if she fell.
“How am I going to pay my rent? How many more roommates am I going to have? Do I move back to my grandmother's house?
Do I get a steady job, because a lot of people do that in this industry, and now you're freelancing at a retail store, or you're bartending? And there's nothing wrong with that until you it figure out, but it could be hard to balance because then you get discouraged a lot. You're the one to push through to get yourself there, and it's a lot of self-care and meditating; it's a lot of figuring it out and I've reached a lot of dead ends in the beginning, and still to this day."

Of course, she landed on her feet.
She tapped into the relationships that she built over the course of her career, many of which came during her three-year hiatus from the agency she worked at when she went into styling for music artists such as Rick Ross, Young Jeezy and Jadakiss, and that spread through word-of-mouth to everyone from athletes to CEOs to politicians.
“For you to think and get dressed is a whole other part of your brain that you've got to use, that's why Steve Jobs always wore the same thing," she explains when I asked about the latter of her clients. “It's a part of your brain that you have to use to get dressed—it's a lot when you have to focus 100% on the game or the company that you're building or even yourself or what you're doing, it's a lot to get dressed."
For McLeod, styling is a form of storytelling. One of her biggest client's, Chris Bosh, is a carefully crafted narrative written through style. Yes, he can rock a good suit, but he's also constantly evolving—even the books that he reads hints at a shift in his mindset, and it's McLeod's job to make that reflective in his style.
“You basically start chapters with all of your clients to try and finish a book, and you tell these stories through these garments and through these different threads."
Her own style, she tells me, is a story of growth and confidence. Today, she's rocking black Topshop jeans, a cutoff Yeezus t-shirt, and a blunt bob-cut that screams, “I'm bold and I'm confident," which ironically wasn't always the case.

“It's not always one thing when you're not confident. It always stems from somewhere else," she says. “You can be unconfident about the way you look, so now you're afraid to do certain things and you think you're going to always fail. And you're going to fail because that's the mindset you're putting into it. "
"You have to always think with the right mindset, and now you dress better, you look better, your skin is glowing, you're happier, and everybody wants to be around you. Now your career is booming and you're a great person, and positive will attract positive."
As with any true master of their craft, evolvement never stops, and neither does teaching.
While McLeod crosses accomplishments off her list of 2017 goals, including getting placement in Forbes and Vogue, she now finds herself at a point where she can begin passing the baton to the next generation of stylists through workshops and panels, and use her gift and her platform for something beyond herself and her clients.
“It doesn't have to be anything super prolific. What we're doing now can change somebody else's life. I can speak to a younger generation that wants to do what I want to do, but one day I'm going to transition out, so I'm at a crossroads right now trying to figure out where I'm taking styling and where I'm taking me as a brand, my career, and where I'm going to be bigger and better in the next five years."
Perhaps that's a part of her purpose. Not just dressing celebrities in fancy threads, but also inspiring others to fearlessly go after their dreams—and to do so with strength, poise, and authenticity.
“[Styling] is my gift and my talent and it's what I want to do, but it doesn't define who I am. You don't ever want something that you do to define who you are; you always want to still be true to yourself."
Kesha McLeod's 3 Tips for Dressing Like a Celebrity
Organize Your Closet Before Spring Cleaning. “If you start purging with a messy eye, you're going to throw away something that you could've used that you could apply later on. So you've got to clean it up and go from there."
Find Your Staple Item. “I have this black tweed jacket that I got from H&M in Paris in 2005 that I would never get rid of. It's crazy looking but it's me and I can't get rid of it."
Load Up the Accessories! “Every little detail makes sense—every chain. Now it's two chains. And then it's all of these little details that make the outfit what it is."
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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While doing a podcast interview a couple of weeks ago, when I said my age, the interviewer complimented me by saying that what I said is not what they would’ve guessed. When they asked what the secret was, the first thing that came out of my mouth was, “Oh, I’m gonna take me a nap.”
I adore sleep. I’ve said before that it’s like what Six Flags is to some people. And really, it’s just a plus that there are so many health benefits from getting plenty of rest. Beauty-wise, science does reveal that getting no less than seven hours a night can slow down signs of aging. Know what else? There are some direct things that sleep — and the lack thereof — can do to your immunity as well.
And so, since this is the time of year when catching a cold (and/or the flu) is common, let’s talk about the impact that sleep (and again, a lack thereof) has on your immune system. That way, you can remain as healthy as possible during the fall and winter seasons.
1. Less Sleep Means More Colds
GiphyLike I stated in the intro, I’m pretty sure you’ve heard somewhere that the fall and winter are the seasons when people are most susceptible to catching a cold or coming down with the flu. And that’s exactly why I thought I would start this all off by sharing the fact that some studies reveal that if you get less than six hours of sleep, on a consistent basis, you end up making yourself more vulnerable to coming down with both. In fact, some research says that only 18 percent of people who get six-plus hours of rest caught a cold while almost 40 percent who got less than that did.
The logic behind it all is sleep gives your body time to build up the proteins and cells (like cytokines and T-cells) that you need to fight off certain viruses. So, if nothing bothers you more than having a stuffy nose or stubborn cough when it’s cold outside, getting more sleep is one way to prevent that from happening to you.
2. Less Sleep Means More Allergy Symptoms
GiphyAt the end of the day, an allergy is basically what transpires whenever your immune system “overreacts” to something that other people’s systems do not. And since sleep is what helps to keep your immune system nice and strong — well, I’m sure you get how less allergy-related symptoms and more sleep go hand in hand. Also, since sleep helps to decrease bodily inflammation (more on that in a bit) and inflammation can also intensify allergy symptoms, that’s just one more reason to get as much shut-eye as possible.
3. Less Sleep Means Potential Diabetes and Heart Disease
GiphyDid you know that in 2024, Black women were diagnosed with diabetes 24 percent more than any other adult demographic. Also, it continues to be a reality that heart disease is the leading cause of death for Black women. These two sobering statistics alone should be enough of an incentive to do whatever you can to keep the risk of diabetes and heart disease way down.
One way to do that is by getting more sleep. Aside from the fact that sleep strengthens your immune system to where it is easier for you to fight off illness and diseases, sleep can keep your blood sugar levels in a healthy space; plus, when it comes to your heart, it gives it, along with your arteries and blood vessels a break.
4. Less Sleep Means Less Time for Your Body to Push “Reset”
GiphyIf you really stopped to consider all that your body goes through during the day (you can read some about that here), you definitely would respect it enough to do your best to thank it by giving it no less than six hours of sleep, each and every night. Sleep is what helps to slow your brain and body down so they are able to “refuel” for the next day. After all, how can your body prevent you from getting sick if your immune system is too worn out to fight ailments off? Exactly.
5. More Sleep Helps You to Fight Off Infections
GiphySpeaking of, in order for your body to fight off infections, there are certain cells and antibodies within you that need to be healthy and strong — one way that they get and stay that way is by you getting a good amount of sleep. For instance, remember when I touched on cytokines earlier? Well, the same way that they help to prevent colds, they also help to prevent infections too. And since sleep lowers your cortisol (stress) levels, rest gives your body the time and space to build up an army that can fight off free radicals and other health-related challenges while you are awake.
6. More Sleep Lowers Bodily Inflammation
GiphyWhenever a health-related issue is mentioned on this platform, inflammation is something that is mentioned quite a bit. Probably the easiest way to explain inflammation is it’s how your body responds/reacts whenever something is happening to your body that shouldn’t be, whether it’s an illness, an injury, a germ or something that you may be allergic to.
If you happen to have chronic inflammation, some symptoms that are associated with that include fatigue, stiff joints, skin rashes, weight gain and moodiness.
The interesting thing about all of this is if you aren’t getting enough rest, you could be triggering inflammation in your body. That’s because studies reveal that a lack of sleep can elevate molecules that are associated with inflammation. So, if you don’t want inflammation to increase within your system, you should definitely catch more zzz’s.
7. More Sleep Regulates Hormones
GiphyWhen it comes to hormones like serotonin, estrogen and cortisol, believe it or not, they play a role in how your immune system acts and overreacts. That’s because, if your hormones are out of balance, that can cause your immune system to work harder than it actually should and that can make you more vulnerable to sickness. One way to keep your hormones leveled out? SLEEP.
That’s because sleep gives your body the opportunity to rest, repair and restore your hormone levels. On the other hand, when you are sleep deprived, that can put/keep your hormones on the ultimate roller coaster ride. #notgood
8. More Sleep Strengthens Vaccines
flu shot GIF - Find & Share on GIPHYGiphyIf you’re someone who is good for getting some sort of vaccine around this time of the year, make sure that you rest up before and after getting your shots. Not only does adequate rest before a vaccination help your immune system to be better receptive to your shots but sleep also helps your body to build up enough antibodies to make your vaccinations effective after getting them. Because if you’re gonna get pricked, shouldn’t it be worth it? My thoughts exactly.
Get some freakin’ sleep! Your immune system depends on it.
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