Being A Christian Doesn't Make You Entitled
In my early and mid-twenties, I thought that if I did enough good deeds and abstained from activities that took my mind off of my faith and purpose, that I would be rewarded with everything that I desired. That is what the bible says, right?
Well, as I'm learning, not exactly.
Reading partial scripture and focusing on verses that aligned with what I wanted is what I did for years. It wasn't until I became intentional about self-searching that I found out I had an entitled mindset.
Believing in God doesn't mean that all of the pain in your life will magically dissolve, or that you will never encounter hardship. Having a spiritual relationship means that you'll have enough faith to sustain you in the storm. Here are a few common misconceptions about being a Christian that I'd like to clear up for the whole class:
Being A Christian Doesn't Mean You're Entitled to the Relationship
Sorry to break it to you, but being a Christian doesn't mean you'll always get the relationship. Oh, how I thought this as well. You can read every self-help book, abstain from sexual activity, take all the relationship advice you want, and serve on every single's ministry at your church, but it doesn't mean you'll get the relationship.
Have you ever found yourself wondering, "How did she snag a husband? And a good one at that? Here I am going to church two times a week, volunteering, turning down random men that mean me no good, yet I'm still single. I don't get it."
If we're being honest with ourselves, most of us who are over 25 and still single with no prospects in sight have said something of the sort. We're quick to want a Boas (Book of Ruth in The Bible). In other words, we're quick to want the product of a good man. Yet, we have no clue of the lifestyle of Boas prior to him being the man that Ruth desired. We only see the product of what his struggles and then victory resulted in.
We all have a past that isn't perfect. Remember the manufacturing of a product is a process, and it doesn't mean that after it is complete that it is without flaws.
No man and no woman is without flaw.
You may not struggle with sexual temptation, but you may struggle with gossiping. You may not struggle with gossiping, but you may struggle with pride. Many Christians are confused in believing that your walk with God guarantees you a relationship, job, or opportunity over anyone else.Featured image by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash
CB Nicole is a millennial whose passion to live a God-led life has inspired her to use her life lessons and messes to inspire others. Each unpredictable day makes for a new unpredictable journey that she's ready to conquer.
This New Scalp Care Line Is Exactly What Your Wash Days Need
This post is in partnership with SheaMoisture.
When it comes to healthy hair care, there are a few things that will help you achieve healthy strands: a healthy hair care regime, hydration, consistent treatments, and scalp care. While scalp care is one of the most neglected practices, it is also one of the most important. Why? Because it helps promote healthy hair growth, clear hair follicles, and remove build-up.
When it comes to creating a healthy scalp routine, it helps to know exactly what you’re up against so you know how to specifically treat it. Two of the most common concerns are dandruff and dry scalp. It can be tough to decipher which is which, but here’s a quick breakdown: dry scalp is caused by a lack of moisture in the skin, while dandruff is caused by an excess of oil and yeast buildup on the scalp. Knowing that both of these are big concerns, SheaMoisture released two separate product lines to address both issues: the Scalp Moisture collection and the Anti-Dandruff collection.
Needless to say, if you tend to experience dandruff then I’d recommend you try the Anti-Dandruff collection. However, my biggest concern has always been dry scalp. A lack of moisture on the scalp can be caused by several factors like weather, age, and hair products to name a few. I’ve noticed that when I use certain gels or skip out on a deep scalp cleanse, my roots feel itchy and dry nonstop, which is uncomfortable.
The only way to relieve the discomfort is to properly wash and moisturize my roots, so I tried the Scalp Moisture collection and this is what I thought.
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First, What’s In The Collection?
The Scalp Moisture collection is a four-product line that includes a pre-wash masque, a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner, and a moisturizing scalp cream. Each product uses moisturizing and strengthening ingredients like aloe butter and vitamin B3 as active ingredients to provide eight times the moisture. Together, aloe butter and vitamin B3 work to restore dry and brittle hair, as well as add relief to the scalp.
Now, let’s break down each product…
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Scalp Moisture Pre-Wash Masque
The SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Pre-Wash Masque may actually be the all-star of the collection. Using this deep conditioning masque is one of the best ways to target your dry scalp, restore hydration, and nourish your strands before shampooing.
I started by completely saturating my hair and scalp with water, then making small sections to apply the masque directly to the root. For my girls who have experience with relaxers and perms, it helps to apply the masque to your roots just like you would do with a relaxer. This way you can make sure you’ve covered as much of your scalp as possible while minimizing any breakage.
Pro tip: you can also use a color application brush to make this step easier.
After I completely covered my scalp, I massaged the product into my roots, used any excess on my strands, then left the masque in for 30 minutes. I was shocked by how moisturizing and clarifying my scalp and hair felt. One of the things that I love about the masque is the slip and how much softer it made my hair. While this is marketed as a scalp care product, it can completely transform your hair from dry and parched to completely hydrated.
In my opinion, the downside of this masque is that the quantity is too small for my liking. Truth be told, naturals go through deep conditioners faster than any other product (especially when it’s this good.) So SheaMoisture, if you’re reading this, we’d love a bigger jar.
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Scalp Moisture Shampoo
The SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Shampoo is a gentle cleanser packed with the same moisture as the masque. The pearl-colored shampoo is lightweight with a serum-like consistency and a light and clean scent. The smell is pleasant, subtle, and not overbearing. When I applied the shampoo, I noticed immediately that it foams and lathers up very quickly, so less is more.
After applying the shampoo, I parted my hair and started at the roots to target as much of my scalp as possible. I recommend really taking the time to work the product and massage your scalp as much as possible.
Pro tip: using a scalp massager makes it easier and it feels amazing.
Once you start to massage your hair you’ll feel the product start to work. There’s a tingling sensation that might catch you off guard if you’re not used to it, but it’s not nearly as strong as other scalp products I’ve tried. I know some may not appreciate the sensation, but I loved it! My scalp felt clean, light, and breathable.
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Scalp Moisture Conditioner
Like the shampoo, the SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Conditioner shares that pearly color and serum-like feel. It applies very easily while softening and moisturizing your hair. When I applied it to my hand, it gave my hands a lotion-like feel, which speaks volumes about its hydration capabilities. I also loved that the conditioner comes with a pump, instead of having to squeeze the product out – to me, it makes application easier.
I typically apply my conditioner to the ends first but because this is a scalp care product I started at the root and worked my way down to my ends. I did leave the conditioner in for ten minutes, although the bottle recommends leaving it in for three. The conditioner also provides that same breathable feel to your scalp. I honestly loved the relief.
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Scalp Moisture Cream
The SheaMoisture Scalp Moisture Cream is more of a daily relief product for your roots rather than your overall hair. It’s great for providing moisture and immediate relief to a dry and itchy scalp. Just like most of the collection, it gives a light and breathable feel – without the tingle. The applicator bottle targets specific parts of your scalp and makes applying easier.
Pro tip: I typically just squeeze the bottle to wherever I need the relief and use the tip to massage it into my scalp so it doesn’t mess up the hairstyle.
Overall, SheaMoisture’s scalp care line lives up to its claims – it moisturizes, strengthens, and provides immediate scalp relief. I definitely recommend trying the Scalp Moisture collection for an affordable way to treat itchy and dry scalp.
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GloRilla Shares The Struggles She Encountered Before Making It Big And How She Knew She Was Destined To Rap
Gloria "GloRilla" Woods is candidly opening up about the struggles she faced before becoming one of hip-hop's brightest stars, all while remaining steadfast in her unwavering faith.
The 23-year-old --who is one of ten children--had been actively pursuing a music career since she was a teenager by releasing various mixtapes, including 2019's Most Likely Up Next and P Status in 2020. Despite Woods' efforts, the Memphis native brush with fame occurred in April 2022 when her Grammy-nominated single "F.N.F (Let's Go)" went viral on social media.
Over time the song's popularity led to a #FNFChallenge on TikTok, which ultimately caught the eye of label execs. A few months later, in July 2022, Woods signed Yo Gotti's CMG/Interscope Records label. Later that year, Woods released her first studio album titled Anyways, Life's Great.
Anyways, Life's Great sold 28,000 copies in its first week and charted at number 11 on Billboard 200. Since then, Woods has released a deluxe edition of her album, which includes four additional tracks. During an interview with Rolling Stone magazine, Woods recounts the challenges she endured, including being temporarily homeless prior to the success of "F.N.F (Let's Go)."
GloRilla On Her Past Struggles
In the April discussion, the "Tomorrow 2" emcee revealed that less than a week before she went viral on social media, she was kicked out of her apartment, and her car was repossessed because she couldn't afford it at the time.
"Literally, less than a week before I blew up, my car got repoed," she said. "I was living with my friend because I had got put out my apartment. I was going through a lot. I have always been the friend that everybody count on and depend on, but I was going through it real bad."
Despite the hardships she faced, Woods never gave up on her dreams of becoming a rapper, so much so that she decided to upload a snippet of "F.N.F (Let's Go)" on the social media platform Triller. Shortly after it started to go viral, Woods officially dropped the single on April 29, 2022, and the rest is history.
When asked if Woods knew she would have achieved success so quickly, the lyricist disclosed she was confident in her skills and knew her career would take off eventually.
"I didn't know it was going to happen so soon," she said, "but I knew one day it was going to happen."
GloRilla On Her Faith
As the topic shifted to Woods's faith and some of her inspirational lyrics, especially in "Tomorrow 2" featuring Cardi B, the rapper shared that growing up in the church has instilled valuable lessons in her life, including the power of manifestation.
Woods explained that the various reasons she is successful stem from her faith, the belief that she could accomplish her goals and hard work.
"I'm big on faith, and I'm big on manifestation. Faith without work is dead. You have to actually work towards it and believe it," she stated.
Woods' debut album Anyways, Life's Great, is out now.
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