Landing a dream or high-paying job can be a huge, humbling, and celebratory moment. I vividly remember the feeling of excitement I had getting my first high-paying job. In the course of a year, I was able to get my first apartment, pay off some card debt, and do a little shopping. I reveled in all I was able to do outside of work, and enjoyed the new things I was learning in the office too. But my second year into the job, I realized I may not be as into my role as I thought. The thought slowly gnawed at my mind, and as time progressed, I became agitated at the direction my job was heading. My silent frustration grew loud, and when it did, all I wanted to do was hit the exit for any job that would hire me quick.
A Gallup Poll reported that 70% of employees in the US are disengaged at work. Often, we stay at a job too long out of company loyalty, financial stability and comfortability. By the time we realize we no longer want to be there, we're miserable, frustrated with how we're spending our days and scrambling for any way to get out. While other surveys show that frequent job hopping can be a big obstacle for unemployed candidates looking for work, staying too long at the job also show a lack of interest in career growth. Yes, there's something so comforting about waking up to a stable job, income, hearty benefits and of course, a direct deposit. But could it be time for you to move on from your job?
Quitting Your Job: Signs It's Time To Move On
You No Longer Feel Your Work Is Growing In The Direction Of The Company
Companies go through transitions all the time, but do you really see yourself heading in the direction your company is? Do your career goals align with what they're trying to do, or do new tasks stray further from what you believe your true purpose is? If you are mindful of where your personal life mission stands, your employers can help you assess if there's a future in your current job or not.
Seeing Cyclic Business Practice Nuances
Last year, your company was in a crisis mode over an operational issue. It's a new year, and your company is in crisis mode again over the same or a similar situation. There was never a procedure or plan put in place the first go-around, and now you're at square one of how to put out the fire. Take heed to these flags that point at what may be standard business malfunctions. While it may have seemed like a one time incident, it may just be the company's culture of handling (or not handling) issues. Try suggesting new, long-lasting ways to handle crises. If it seems like no one's interested in implementing a resolution, then it may be time to accept the work culture for what it is and move on.
You Find Yourself Struggling To Get To Work On Time
Are you dragging yourself out of bed every morning feeling unmotivated to go to work? When you arrive at work, are your thoughts more negative than positive? If every morning feels like "just another day" and you're counting down to the weekend, it's clear that you're just not interested - and honestly that you might've stopped caring about your job altogether. Before you land in trouble over tardiness or unexcused sick days, actively take steps towards planning your next job move to give yourself something to look forward to each day.
There Is Little To No Chance Of Growth
Sometimes you can finagle creating your dream role or at least sneak in a few tasks you enjoy doing. And sometimes, you just can't. If promotions are slim at your job and your job duties are pretty mundane, it's not going to change unless executive staff does. And if executive staff doesn't plan on leaving for another 10 years, well, you know the rest.
You’re No Longer Interested In Hanging Out With Co-workers After Work
You used to love meeting people at work mixers and happy hour events. Now, you don't care to see or talk to anyone new. You have one coworker who you complain with about everything that's wrong at work. Save the both of you that negative energy, and instead focus on how to get back in the game of job hunting.
If any of these sound like you, then it's definitely time for you to begin taking steps towards the next steps in your career!
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Exclusive: Gabrielle Union On Radical Transparency, Being Diagnosed With Perimenopause And Embracing What’s Next
Whenever Gabrielle Union graces the movie screen, she immediately commands attention. From her unforgettable scenes in films like Bring It On and Two Can Play That Game to her most recent film, in which she stars and produces Netflix’s The Perfect Find, there’s no denying that she is that girl.
Off-screen, she uses that power for good by sharing her trials and tribulations with other women in hopes of helping those who may be going through the same things or preventing them from experiencing them altogether. Recently, the Flawless by Gabrielle Union founder partnered with Clearblue to speak at the launch of their Menopause Stage Indicator, where she also shared her experience with being perimenopausal.
In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
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"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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It’s safe to say that we all have a “wellness girl” in our close circle. She’s the matcha-sipping, Pilates lover, who always makes time for her morning meditation and affirmations. Whether she’s a yoga enthusiast or self-care aficionado, she’s there to be your personal reminder to slow down and take some “me time,” and that alone deserves a token of our appreciation.
As the holiday season continues, we find ourselves immersed in the spirit of giving, and what better way to express your love and care than by gifting your body-, mind-, and soul-focused friends and family some wellness goodies?
Amid the hustle and bustle of daily life, these thoughtful wellness gifts can serve as a gentle reminder to pause, breathe, and prioritize their self-care. From habit-tracking journals to fitness essentials and mindfulness tools, our guide covers a wide range of options to cater to the homebody homegirl who are true to their wellness practice or need the extra nudge to get in touch with themselves.
To help you start “adding to cart,” we've curated a collection of gifts that go beyond the ordinary, designed to foster a sense of peace and balance in the lives of your loved ones.
These reusable eye masks are perfect for their "me-time" moments, again and again.
They’ll love slathering themselves with this nourishing body cream right after those “everything showers.”
For those “turn your brain off and unplug” kinds of days.
If she’s a cozy girl who enjoys lounging around the house, she’ll love this matching set.
What’s better than eating a cinnamon roll? Smelling like one.
The solution to keeping your gym-rat friend’s edges preserved is here.
Nothing sets the mood like a lit candle that smells as good as it looks.
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Matcha is the silly little beverage we can’t live without, so trust us when we say your matcha-loving sister will thank you for this stocking stuffer.
Help gua sha their stress away with this viral beauty tool.
They love staying in the house, so why not make it more comfortable with these puffy slippers?
Detox the air and your mind with this personal humidifier.
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