How This Woman's Cancer Diagnosis Revived Her Sense Of Purpose
For any woman who has heard the dreaded c-word during a doctor's visit, becoming an inspiration for others has to be the furthest thing from her mind.
Feelings of doom, depression, and sadness can set in immediately, and insecurities about how the illness might affect appearance and the daily responsibilities of taking care of bae, family, and work start to add to the stress and trauma of it all.
Michel Sproles, wife of NFL running back Darren Sproles, hit a period where she was indeed distraught after being told she had cancer.
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"Everything, for me, [happened] so fast. I didn't even have time to process it. It was like, I was diagnosed on a Wednesday, I chose a very radical treatment--- the double mastectomy--- and I had surgery that following week," Sproles recalled during an exclusive chat with xoNecole.
"I was 28, newly married, and I had just had my youngest daughter. I had all these questions like, 'Why me?'"
After encouragement from her husband and family, Sproles decided to turn her Stage 0 diagnosis on its heels and use the experience to help women get their sexy back through her latest venture, The Pink Line. She wanted to be able to use what she'd gone through to not only satisfy her entrepreneurial bug, but to be a resource for others facing the same issue.
Sproles had previously owned a hair salon where she sold hair extensions, and she thought relaunching the line with a charitable bonus was just the perfect way she could shift focus from agonizing about her illness to sparking a movement.
Being known as an NFL wife can have its negative connotations (reality TV, anyone?), and it seems like everyone and their mama has a hair line out now. The difference here is that 10% of proceeds from The Pink Line go toward custom wigs for cancer survivors, and Sproles has been able to leverage relationships she's built to give back to her community through the business.
Many women who are told they have cancer think about both the mental and physical effects of treatment, and they often have to deal with losing parts of themselves closely associated with womanhood and beauty. In the aftermath of survival, women are seeing something in the mirror that can be more than disheartening, to say the least. Even Sproles had to come to terms with the decision she chose to make in removing both her breasts, and she could relate to the feelings others had about how their bodies changed after treatment.
"Though I didn't have to do radiation or chemo at that time, I came across so many women who had to [lose their hair]," she said. "One of the main things they were concerned about was wanting to feel beautiful while going through that process."
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The Pink Line offers a diverse range of textures--from kinky curls and waves, to sleek and straight tresses--and she recently launched the Legally Blonde collection, giving any woman, whether a cancer survivor or not, a chance to turn heads and flaunt their style on their own terms.
"We wanted to offer something that women could be able to color and manipulate without losing the quality of the hair, so that's where the blonde collection came from. We also have customers who just want to rock bold, blonde hair, so we needed to provide for that woman as well."
Her customers get the opportunity to slay and pay it forward with each purchase of the line's bundles, closures, and frontals, while Sproles uses part of the profits to get wigs custom made by talented stylists from her network. Cancer survivors who either nominate themselves or are nominated by a loved one are gifted the wigs, helping them throw out the stress of worrying about how they look. (Who wants to be stressing over an ill-fitting, unflattering, bulky wig while trying to focus on healing and getting back to their best lives?)
Her company also partners with healthcare organizations to raise awareness, share updated information, and keep open and engaging conversations about detection and treatment.
"We've done community outreach projects where we're able to give inner-city women free mammograms, and we've [launched] other special events and efforts to give back through the line, which goes beyond just selling the hair and providing wigs," Sproles said.
Not only is she using her platform to bring more awareness to breast cancer, but one glimpse at both her business and her personal Instagram accounts--which boast more than 32,000 followers combined---shows she's super-down to empower all women in embracing womanhood, self-confidence, fitness, and family, and defining for themselves what cancer survival should look like. "I think it's important to use the platform I have because I am able to reach certain people and to be authentic in my truth."
"Being an NFL wife is amazing---I'm able to pay my bills, drive beautiful cars, travel and do all these things---but none of that mattered when I got that diagnosis---when looking in the mirror and I have no breasts."
As a sports lover and track coach, Sproles has always found strength in girl power, teamwork, perseverance, and discipline---all qualities she has to embody as a mother of Devyn, 9, and Rhyan, 6. She and her husband also recently welcomed their third daughter, 17-year-old Brianna---who she has mentored and coached since age 12---to their family via adoption.
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"It's important for my kids to see their mom working hard. It's great to have a supportive husband who is a provider, but I also want them to understand the importance of hard work and knowing as a woman, they can provide for themselves. I want them to be equipped to be great providers for themselves, be educated, and do all the things they aspire to do as young black women."
Sproles encourages other women to essentially turn lemons into Beyonce-level lemonade, using their stories of challenges, survival, and triumph as catalysts to fulfill a sense of purpose and make a difference.
"I went through a period where I was ashamed or embarrassed that that happened to me. There are so many other people who suffered silently that go through things, and just to be able to share who we are authentically is important. There's always someone who has experienced something similar. Whatever it is that you're passionate about, create a plan. I think sometimes we have these great ideas but we don't have a clear vision as to how you're going to accomplish. And then, just do it. Life is short and we're not promised any day, so just do it."
For more about Michel, follow her on Instagram.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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You've Never Seen Luke James In A Role Quite Like This
Over the years, we've watched Luke James play countless characters we'd deem sex symbols, movie stars, and even his complicated character in Lena Waithe's The Chi. For the first time in his career, the New Orleans-born actor has taken on a role where his signature good looks take a backseat as he transforms into Edmund in Them: The Scare—a mentally deranged character in the second installment of the horror anthology series that you won't be able to take your eyes off.
Trust us, Edmund will literally make you do a double take.
xoNecole sat down with Luke James to talk about his latest series and all the complexity surrounding it—from the challenges taking on this out-of-the-box role to the show's depiction of the perplexing history of the relationship between Black Americans and police. When describing the opportunity to bring Edmund's character to life, Luke was overjoyed to show the audience yet another level of his masterful acting talents.
"It was like bathing in the sun," he said. "I was like, thank you! Another opportunity for me to be great—for me to expand my territory. I'm just elated to be a part of it and to see myself in a different light, something I didn't think I could do." He continued, "There are parts of you that says, 'Go for it because this is what you do.' But then also that's why it's a challenge because you're like, 'um, I don't know if I'm as free as I need to be to be able to do this.' Little Marvin just created such a safe space for me to be able to do this, and I'm grateful for everything I've been able to do to lead to this."
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Them: The Scare, like the first season, shines a light on the plight of Black Americans in the United States. This time, the story is taking place in the 1990s, at the height of the Rodney King riots in Los Angeles. While the series presents many underlying themes, one that stands out is Black people and the complicated relationship with the police. "For the audience, I think it sets the tone for the era that we're in and the amount of chaos that's in the air in Los Angeles and around the country from this heinous incident. And I say it just sets the tone of the anxiety and anxiousness that everybody is feeling in their own households."
James has been a longtime advocate against police brutality himself. He has even featured Elijah McClain, the 23-year-old Colorado man who died after being forcibly detained by officers, as his Instagram avatar for the past five years. So, as you can imagine, this script was close to his heart. "Elijah was a soft-loving oddball. Different than anyone but loving and a musical genius. He was just open and wanted to be loved and seen."
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Luke continued, "His life was taken from him. I resonate with his spirit and his words...through all the struggle and the pain he still found it in him to say, 'I love you and I forgive you.' And that's who we are as people—to our own detriment sometimes. He's someone I don't want people to forget. I have yet to remove his face from my world because I have yet to let go of his voice, let go of that being [because] there's so many people we have lost in our history that so often get forgotten."
He concluded, "I think that's the importance of such artwork that moves us to think and talk about it. Yes, it's entertaining. We get to come together and be spooked together. But then we come together and we think, 'Damn, Edmund needed someone to talk to. Edmund needed help... a lot [of] things could have been different. Edmund could have been saved.'
Check out the full interview below.
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