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Kehlani Reveals The Secret To Healthy Co-Parenting With An Ex
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Kehlani Reveals The Secret To Healthy Co-Parenting With An Ex

Talented singer and songwriter Kehlani recently appeared on The Breakfast Clubwhere she discussed spiritual healing, new music, and more. But, the highlight of the conversation was definitely her updates on Mom life. She looked to be in a genuinely happy place, and it seems like her daughter is a large part of the reason for that. Which makes perfect sense, considering real fans know she has always been about the Mom life.


Three years ago Kehlani surprised everyone when she announced her pregnancy in a viral Instagram post. The since-deleted caption read:

"If you know me, you know I've dreamt about motherhood since I was very young. When asked what my goals are, it's always the idea of a big healthy happy family and whatever comes along is a plus."

Kehlani's relationship with her own family is complicated. When she was born, both of her parents were addicted to drugs. And by the time she turned one, her father had been murdered and her mother was incarcerated. Fortunately, she was later adopted by her aunt. And although this was a major blessing, life was still far from easy. However, I'd like to think that all of these things may have contributed to her desire for a happy and healthy co-parenting reality.

In 2018, Kehlani revealed her then relationship with co-parent guitarist, Javaughn Young-White via Nicki Minaj's Queen Radio show. In the interview, she shared many personal details such as the fact that the pregnancy was planned, that the couple started as friends, and that they were both bisexual. She said:

"We just really appreciate each other as human beings, and it's been really awesome to be understood."

The conversation sparked a great deal of dialogue surrounding sexuality and parenting.

Fast forward to today and they are still on the same page! Although they are no longer an item, they still have the same goal, creating the best life for their child, daughter Adeya Nomi. She tells The Breakfast Club:

"Her dad's awesome and he's super fluid when it comes to my career. So he's like, 'You want me to come with her and just we all hang out? And we'll go back and forth?' We just have a great system and we're a great co-parenting team. We'll take it as it comes."

And when Charlamagne questioned the rarity of such a positive co-parenting situation versus baby-mama drama, her response was a whole gem.

"I mean, I can't exactly apply it necessarily to my situation but I think people have a bad habit of viewing each other as 'exes' instead of viewing each other as 'co-parents.' And then they like, they apply 'ex drama' and 'ex attention' and 'ex...chaos' when really at the moment you guys become parents, you guys need to view each other as literally whoever this baby's parents [are]. That's it. All that 'ex' thing needs to go out the window."

By taking away "the dreaded ex" component, it's just all about family, and for Kehlani that removes a lot of the potential nonsense.

"You're 'Team Baby' and if you guys aren't functioning as the proper team, then the only one that really comes down on hard -- super hard -- is the baby."

You can check out Kehlani's latest single, Alter, here.

Kehlani Talks Spiritual Healing, Co-Parenting, New Music + More

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