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Jidenna Describes Being Polyamorous As One Of The "Worst Pains" In His Life
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Jidenna Describes Being Polyamorous As One Of The "Worst Pains" In His Life


Jidenna finally took off them damn church clothes and although we loved seeing him being a classic man, these days he's giving us the big African king energy we didn't know we needed in our lives. Recently, he announced on Twitter that he is "looking for wifey" and I would personally like for him to know that my DMs are ready and waiting.

The 34-year-old Wisconsin native explained that while he does believe in spending the rest of his life with one woman, to him, the absolute most important component in a relationship is transparency. Jidenna, who says he's had trust issues in the past, is at a point in his life where he's looking to develop a solid foundation with a woman who truly values honesty:

"I believe in monogamy. I believe in polyamory. I believe in marriage. I believe in non-traditional union. There are agreements and compromises to be made in every relationship. Most of all, I believe in Love & Honesty as the foundation. I'm looking for wifey…"

Last week, Jidenna slid through The Breakfast Club and opened up even more about his views on all things love and relationships and his perspective on dating might surprise you. Lately, a number of celebrities have opened up about their belief in polyamory, and Jidenna says that it's not a concept he's explored theoretically, he's actually done it. Like any relationship, it was riddled with compromises, but Jidenna says that the hardest part of being in a polyamorous relationship was knowing that he wasn't the only one.

"I've been in that relationship. I've done that. It was one of the most difficult things I've ever [done]. This tattoo took 26 hours, I did it in one sitting, essentially. The pain that I felt knowing that she was with another man was one of the worst pains in my life. But I had to do that. What kind of man am I to tell a woman that you can't be with somebody else when I'm out here being with somebody else?"

While it was a tough road, Jidenna says that a polyamorous relationship is a route he would take over and over again for the sake of his partner. The singer, a descendant of a Nigerian origin, says that his grandfather had seven wives, and their lack of freedom affirmed his belief that polygamy would never be an option for him.

"I never met him. He's from a village in Southeast Nigeria. I saw a picture of him and he was sitting there like on his little stool and it was three of the seven wives, one of which was my father's mother and I remember the look on their faces and they [were] not happy. I looked deep in their eyes, they [were] not happy. So I was like you know what? I can't do the polygamy thing. I have to go where no man has gone before, I have to take that step."

Out of being shot and getting a 26-hour tattoo, Jidenna says that being in a polyamorous relationship still takes the cake as the worst pain he's ever experienced, but to him, it's a small step on the path to having a truly open and honest foundation:

"I'm not perfect but these are the steps I think we have to take as men. It's not easy, it's not for the weak, but women have been doing that for thousands of years and we still here in 2019 and we can't deal with it if they do one little thing that we've done."

Although I'm not sure if I'd ever be in a polyamorous relationship, but if Jidenna is involved, I'm willing to take any type of -amory he has on the menu, honestly. Truly.

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