Saying Jada loves Tupac is one big, fat understatement since she's as passionate about Pac as your man is about his favorite sports team.
It's been more than 20 years since his death, and the 45-year-old actress will still correct you when it comes to her friendship with fallen friend Pac, coming to tears at times.
With the release of the much anticipated Tupac biopic All Eyez on Me, she wasn't too satisfied with the way her character was portrayed in the movie.
The day the movie hit theaters on June 16th, which is also Pac's birthday, the mom-of-two took to Twitter to reveal that she saw the film and details about her relationship with Pac weren't exactly accurate. The tea is hot, so sip carefully!
&ref_url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.latimes.com%2Fentertainment%2Fla-et-entertainm...Although she critiqued the events in the movie, she did have positive words for Kat Graham and Demetrius Shipp, who played the role of Jada & Tupac in the biopic.
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Although Jada married Will Smith, she and Tupac had a very loving and indescribable friendship, with Pac calling her his "heart in human form." With powerful words like that, you would think their friendship would've evolved into something romantic, but as we know it never did.
While they regarded each other as soulmates, the sexual chemistry just wasn't there. In her lengthy interview with Howard Stern in 2015 , Jada confessed that she and Pac did try to take it there one time, but the both of them were completely grossed out when they shared a kiss. Jada's thankful it never got to that point though since she felt like they were both too passionate to romantically be together.
That passion and stubbornness are what was partly to blame for their friendship souring. Unfortunately, Jada and Tupac never really made up before he was murdered in 1996. However, the experience did make her appreciate time as she learned that life's too short for disagreements with people you love.
Here are a few other things we learned about her relationship with Tupac from that emotional interview:
1. Jada says her relationship with Tupac was strictly platonic and there was no chemistry. (They tried to kiss once and it was gross!)
Jada: "I met Tupac at Baltimore School For The Arts. We went to high school together. He was a revolutionary without a revolution if that makes any kind of sense. And that kind of energy just transferred to a whole other thing.
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It's so funny, because now being older, I have more of an understanding of what that was between us because, you know when you have two young people who have very strong feelings, but there's NO physical chemistry between us at all. And it wasn't even just for me! It was him too. There was a time when I was like, 'Just kiss me, Let's just see how this goes.' And when I tell you, it had to be the most disgusting kiss for us both.
The only way I can put it is, the higher power just did not want that. Because I feel as though, if Pac and I had any kind of sexual chemistry, we might've killed each other because we were both so passionate. And you know, we love deeply. It was hard enough just with us being friends. We had a very volatile relationship."
2. Even though Pac was poor when Jada met him, she was not shocked when he eventually became a huge star.
Jada: "It was his poetry; it was his personality. I had never in my life met a person like Pac. He had so much charisma! And he was poor! When I met Pac, he owned two pairs of pants and two sweaters. And that's it.
I absolutely was not shocked [when he reached the level of fame he did.] I knew that was going to happen.
It's crazy. And he used to tell me all the time, 'Jada, you're a superstar. You're a superstar.' He didn't say it about himself, but he used to say it about me. And he went to Oakland, up North, and things started jumping off for him. It really happened for us both at the same time.."
3. Their friendship began to change after Pac went to jail.
Jada: "There were a lot of things that transpired once he went to jail. It was really once he came out that he changed quite a bit, which is understandable. Jail was a very difficult experience for him. And, of course, we were on two sides of the spectrum. Pac and I have always had very intense conversations, arguments. And if we disagree with each other, we disagree hardcore. And we had a very hardcore disagreement.
I just wasn't in agreement with the direction he was taking. And I just told him that it was a destructive direction, a very scary direction. And he felt as though I had changed, I got Hollywood, I had gone soft. And looking back now, I totally understand where Pac was because, at that particular point in time, that mentality was part of his survival for that moment. And it was actually a mentality he started to come out of before he was murdered."
4. Jada is still feeling sadness for not telling Pac she loved him before he died.
Jada: "You know, I don't think I was guilty as much as I felt, just sadness, for not having the opportunity to tell him that I loved him. But I know he knew that because it wasn't the first time that we had had a bad argument and had stopped speaking and all that. That was kind of a constant in our relationship. So I didn't really look at it as a reason to feel guilty. But it definitely taught me a lesson, which is, life is too short. Do not let disagreements stand in between you and people that you love and care about."
Howard Stern: I can tell you're really emotional about him, I mean, you're crying. When you think of him, you have tears in your eyes.
Jada: "Yeah, you know, I love him."
Not making amends and not getting any closure must be why she still gets teary-eyed two decades later. Sure, she knows Pac knew she loved him, but when you and your friend are fighting, that's not always at the forefront of your/their brain. And 20 years later, that lack of closure is still painful.
Watch a clip from the film below:
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Listen, any time something sexual works like a charm, I’m going to shout it out — (late) trend or not. And so, if you’ve never heard of the whole coconut thing, you tried it and forgot all about it, or you just want to try something new/different/else tonight — here’s a reminder, in article form, that coconut-ting is still alive and well, y’all. And the men are all about it!
But First, The Grapefruit Technique
Video Credit: Myem/YouTube (Funny part starts at 2:40)
If this woman is not familiar to you on sight, you ain’t a real one. LOL. Although I know that a lot of people think that the concept of grapefruiting came from the movie Girls Trip (you can see the clip from the film here) that absolutely is not the case. Auntie Angel (whose real name is reportedly Denise Walker) is the creator of the Grapefruit Technique and although I thought that this video came out way earlier, apparently it made its way onto the YouTube streets sometime back in 2014.
If for some reason, you’re not familiar with grapefruiting on any level, I will tell you right now that I had to download this video because it is absolutely NSFW — so you should probably watch it on your lunch break (on your phone with the volume as low as possible) or at home…because chile, the sound effects? Whew, the sound effects. LOL. However, when I sat down to pen this piece, I thought it was hilarious that this video is what immediately came to mind because it seems like, when it comes to “blow his mind sex hacks,” fruit is constantly on the menu.
When it comes to oral sex, it’s grapefruit.
When it comes to ride ‘em cowgirl, it’s a coconut.
What Is the “Coconut” Sex Trend?
@windy_moraba #duet with @mysteri0us.gir1 spell coconut with your waist 😂😂😂
Okay, so what in the world does a coconut have to do with intercourse? Well, for starters, if you and your partner are looking for an all-natural lubricant, coconut oil works well. HOWEVER, do keep in mind that the disclaimer on this is you shouldn’t use it if condoms are in the mix because they can actually cause rubbers to be less effective (silicone lube is a solid bet for condoms, by the way).
There is another way that coconuts are kinda-sorta incorporated when it comes to making sex more pleasurable — and it actually became pretty popular right after COVID lockdown (2021): spelling C-O-C-O-N-U-T with your hips while you’re on top of your partner.
It’s wild how I forgot all about this until a client of mine was telling me how much her husband liked her on top while it wasn’t her favorite thing to do because it felt awkward to her. When I said, “Have you ever heard of spelling ‘coconut’ with your hips before?” — at first, she looked at me like I was crazy and then she busted out laughing: “Girl, no” was her reply.
Hmph. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it because, as wild as it might sound on the surface, the word isn’t the point so much as the movements that come with spelling it out are.
When you’re moving your pelvis around to make a “c,” “o” or U-turn, not only does it intensify the level of sensation that both you and your partner feel during intercourse, it can also increase the level of blood circulation to both of your genitalia which can make your orgasms more satisfying too.
At the end of the day, spelling “coconut” is simply reminding you that there are more options to riding than simply sitting there while your partner pumps for all he’s worth or you humping up and down like you’re on a pogo stick.
Spelling “coconut” is an easy hack to bring some variety into cowgirling. However…
Honestly, the “Fruit” Isn’t the Point. THIS IS.
GiphyFrom grapefruiting and spelling “coconut” to reading articles that I’ve penned for the platform like “How To Improve The Taste Of Sperm” — fruit and sex are always going to be a winning combination, one way or another. However, the main point of this article isn’t about making sure that you are a master speller so much as providing you with tips that will make the cowgirl position something that you are confident about and you find a ton of fulfillment in doing.
You can make both of these things happen by incorporating the following things:
Stretch beforehand. A charley horse during sex is the worst thing ever — and chile, don’t let it be right before you’re about to climax. SMDH. Yeah, if you want to feel more comfortable when you’re on top, make sure that you stretch beforehand and that you are well-hydrated. That will reduce the chances of experiencing a totally-out-of-nowhere muscle spasm — whether you decide to “spell” during sex or…not.
Bring pillows into the mix. Sometimes riding is a challenge because your partner feels farther away from your body than you would like. Putting a pillow underneath him can help to elevate his pelvis, so that you don’t feel like you’re stretching and straining. Speaking of pillows, a longer one can really come in handy because it can give your knees some additional support as well.
Also, ask him to put his knees up. Speaking of making the “grind” easier for you, ask your partner to put his knees up. That way, your back can recline on his legs as you’re moving your hips around. You’d be amazed how much this one hack can do for you. Straight up.
Add lube. When you get a chance, check out “The Wetter, The Better: 10 Creative Ways To Use Lubricant” and you will automatically see why bringing lubrication into a cowgirl session is an absolute must. It reduces friction. It makes your movements glide with ease. And it’s just more fun. Promise you that.
Lean in. If your partner happens to be on the larger side of life, one way that you can control his depth is by leaning forward into him. That way, your hips can better control how much or little he is inside of you, so that you can get into a position that gives you the sensation that you are looking for.
Get him to multitask. Again, whether you are spelling “coconut” or not and whether you are riding cowgirl or reverse cowgirl — something that is awesome about being on top is it frees your partner’s hands to do, umm, other things. And since it is so much easier to have an orgasm while your clitoris is being stimulated, get your partner to put some of the lube that we discussed earlier on his fingertips, so that he can gently rub on your clitoris while you are riding him. It doesn’t get much better than that!
Don’t wanna spell? Hula Hoop then. What if you try the whole coconut thing and it’s not a favorite for you (or him)? No problem — when’s the last time that you hula hooped? Pretend that you have one of those around your hips and move around that way. I’d be shocked if you ended up feeling “meh” about that option.
5 Guys Tell Me What They Love When Their Partner Is on Top
GiphyA part of the reason why I am “team cowgirl” is because it provides a lot of benefits to the woman: she has more control, it tends to be more comfortable for her, it’s a great position for a quickie and the orgasms tend to be that much more — wonderful. However, as I was thinking about spelling coconut, in general, I couldn’t help but wonder what guys thought about it and the cowgirl position overall.
If you’re curious, here’s what five of ‘em said.
1. Braxford. Engaged. 35. “Y’all be spelling up there? Who knew? My favorite thing about when my fiancée is on top is what I think every man likes: the view. It’s a chance to see her entire body and experience it at the same time. Not even doggy style accomplishes that. Damn, where’s my lady at?”
2. Denez. Single. 42. “Do you know how many ‘spots’ you have access to when y’all are on top? Breasts are in my mouth. Hickeys are on her neck. Prop my head up on a pillow and her tummy is getting licked. When a woman is riding you, it’s sensory overload! It’s crazy how each one looks amazing in that position too.”
3. Omar. In a Serious Relationship. 29. “[He said her name yet I’m not going to share it] isn’t a very vocal lover. Her body and technique are insane, so even though I love dirty talk, I’ve learned to compromise — except when she’s on top. She’s not saying much but those moans? And yeah, we tried the coconut thing. ‘Cs’ and ‘Os,’ hell yeah. ‘Ns’ and “Ts’? Nah.”
4. Nolen. Single. 45. “45 isn’t old but it’s old enough for your back to show out on you when you least expect it. My experience has been that women don’t want a lot of thrusting when they are on top, so it’s like having some of the best sex without having to do much at all. Well, aside from trying not to bust too quickly. I take that back: riding is easy on the body; it’s work on the brain.”
5. Ivan. Married. 37. “I like the spelling sh-t because it switches things up. We make a game out of it by her picking a word and spelling out while I try and guess what it is. We also try to see how many words that we can get to before one of us cums. 12 words is pushing it unless it’s like ‘dog’ or ‘cat’ or something. I’ve guessed ‘coconut’ a few times and I get what the excitement is all about. Spelling bee sex: try it.”
Yep. I concur.
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