Iman Shumpert Says He Gave Teyana Taylor A "Hit List": Should Your Man Share His Sexual History?
Teyana Taylor and Iman Shumpert have had their share of publicity involving their relationship, but that doesn't keep them from going as strong as ever. Iman recently showed up at The Breakfast Club to address rumors that arose during the Pusha T and Drake debacle about Iman's alleged relationship about with with adult star and painter Sophie Brussaux.
Little did he know, his wifey's pull-up game was strong. Teyana surprised him a few minutes into the interview to set the record straight about untrue tabloid rumors.
"Mind you half of these rumors come from his f****d up past, even with the other rumors and s***, it's all these old a** pictures, That n*** would've been dead, I got his location and everything."
They both confirmed that the infidelity rumors were false. The previous day, Iman appeared on Angela Yee's Lip Service and mentioned that he offered Teyana full disclosure. Iman said that he had provided Teyana with a "hit list" of women he had been with so that there would be no surprises if rumors arose from past relationships. He said:
"Before any of this, I been had to give Teyana this list, I had to. She can't feel embarrassed ever, I ain't gonna have her feel embarrassed."
Iman has a point.
The painful truth exists that your boo had sexual experiences before they were with you. As cringeworthy as it is to talk about, it's the naked truth that your man got naked with someone else. The underlying question is, should you and your partner disclose your sexual histories with one another? And if so, at what point in the relationship is this conversation necessary?
Although it may be pretty uncomfortable to discuss the one night stands and sometimes shameful experiences that you shared with individuals who have no relevance to your current relationship, it must be done.
In today's social climate, it seems irrational for a woman to demand such invasive information about a man's sexual history, but I'm with Teyana, you're not about to have me out here looking crazy. Social media makes relationships more accessible than ever before, especially for celebrities. This makes it easy for people to develop rumors based on unsubstantiated information. I see it as completely necessary to disclose your former partners when entering into a mutually exclusive relationship.
On the other hand, there is the issue of confidentiality. The concept of having a 'body count' is actually fairly misogynistic. By asking a man to offer me a list of his conquests, I'm violating the privacy of any of the women that he's been with. I don't feel like someone I laid down with at any point my life should discuss our sexual experiences with anyone else, especially if it's not his wife.
The idea of offering your partner a 'hit list' is a tricky subject, but is definitely an important conversation to have with your partner if things are getting serious. The last thing you or your partner want is to be blindsided about their own relationship.
What do you think? Is a hit list from your man essential to maintaining a healthy relationship? Or do you feel like what's in the past should stay there? Let us know in the comments!
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Sheila Rashid's Androgynous Approach To Unisex Clothing Is A Lesson In Embracing Individuality
The ItGirl 100 List is a celebration of 100 Black women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table.
For Sheila Rashid, it all started with some free-hand drawings and a few strokes of paint.
The Chicago-based clothing designer and creative director of Sheila Rashid Brand recalls using her spare time in high school to hand paint designs on t-shirts and distressed hoodies, distributing them to classmates as walking billboards for her art.
Rashid sought to pursue fashion design at Columbia College in Chicago but eventually took the self-taught route to build upon her knack for crafting one-of-a-kind, androgynous pieces.
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Thanks to the mentorship of local designers taking her under their wings, Rashid was able to gain valuable experience in putting together collections and creating patterns; equipping her with them with the necessary skills to pursue her own collections.
After two years of living in New York, Rashid returned home to the Chi and uncovered the unique flair she could offer the city. “I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world,” she tells xoNecole. “That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
For the Midwest native, inspiration comes from her time around creative peers and the city’s notorious winters — known to be a main character in many Chicagoans stories. “It's a different perspective and mindset when I'm making stuff because of the weather here,” she explains. “When we get summer, it’s ‘Summertime Chi’ — it's amazing. It's beautiful. Still, I find myself always making clothes that cater to the winter.”
"I moved to New York after that because I wanted to be in the fashion capital world. That's when I really got a leg up. I found myself when I moved back to Chicago after moving to New York.”
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Many designers have a signature aesthetic or theme in their creations. In Rashid’s design story, dancing between the lines of femininity and masculinity is how she’s been able to distinguish herself within the industry. Her androgynous clothing has garnered the eye of celebrities like Zendaya, Chance the Rapper, WNBA star Sydney Colson, and more — showing her range and approach to designs with inclusivity in mind.
“I think I do reflect my own style,” she says. “When I do make pieces, I'm very tomboyish, androgynous. My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes.” From denim to overalls, and color-drenched outerwear, Rashid has mastered the structure of statement pieces that tell a story.
“Each collection, I never know what's going to be the thing I'm going to focus on. I try to reflect my own style and have fun with the storytelling,” she shares. “I look at it more like it's my art in this small way of expressing myself, so it's not that calculated.”
"My work is unisex because I feel like everybody can wear it. I cater to everybody and that's how I try to approach my clothes."
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Still, if you were able to add up all the moments within Rashid’s 20-year career in design, one theme that has multiplied her into becoming an “ItGirl” is her confidence to take up space within the fashion industry as a queer, Black woman. “Being an ItGirl is about being yourself, loving what you do, finding your niche, and mastering that,” she says.
No matter where you are on your ItGirl journey, Rashid says to always remain persistent and never hesitate to share your art with the world. “Don’t give up. Even if it's something small, finish it and don't be afraid to put it out,” she says, “It's about tackling your own fear of feeling like you have to please everybody, but just please yourself, and that's good enough.”
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