5 Things To Know About ‘Selling Sunset’’s Chelsea Lazkani
Chelsea Lazkani is the latest addition to the popular Netflix reality series Selling Sunset. The British-Nigerian boss made her debut on season five of the show which is about the luxury real estate market in Los Angeles and the people who sell it. She quickly became a fan favorite due to her captivating fashions and bubbly personality, but Selling Sunset’s newest star also wants to open doors for other Black women.
In an interview with Tudum, the 29-year-old realtor said, “My main goal in all of this is to inspire other women, give access to other women, support and help other Black women — who were me — get into living their best life. It’s not just in real estate, it’s in anything they choose to do.”
“Representation is so important. When I decided to get my license, I was looking for somebody that was killing it in real estate. I found so many role models, but none of them were Black girls. I was like, ‘Damn, that sucks.’ When you don’t have your role model, you become your role model — and that’s what I’m trying to do.”
Here are five things to know about Chelsea.
Chelsea is a wife and mother.
Chelsea is married to businessman Jeff Lazkani whom she said on the show that she met shortly after moving to the United States. The couple shares two children, Maddox and Melia, and live in Manhattan Beach, CA.
The stylish realtor took a break from real estate after having her kids but decided to go back into the industry. She met Jason Oppenheim who is the co-owner of The Oppenheim Group along with his twin brother Brett through her husband and later joined the brokerage after impressing the owners.
Chelsea’s British accent is real.
I’ve lived 3 countries (not 4) in 29 years. Born and raised in United Kingdom. Lived in Switzerland and now United States 😊 pic.twitter.com/cCYYOtE760
— Chelsea Lazkani (@ChelseaLazkani) April 23, 2022
Selling Sunset fans had a bone to pick with Chelsea over her British accent. Many fans suggested that she wasn’t British and that her accent was fake. However, the mom of two had an explanation for that.
“I’ve lived 3 countries (not 4) in 29 years,” she tweeted. “Born and raised in United Kingdom. Lived in Switzerland and now United States.”
She’s the definition of having beauty and brains.
Chelsea graduated with a BA in Economics from the University of Buckingham and a Masters in Oil and Gas Economics from Scotland’s University of Dundee. However, she decided to take her talents to Los Angeles and conquer the luxury real estate market.
According to her bio on The Oppenheim Group’s website, she made over $10 million in sales in her first year as a realtor in the bustling city. Her mom worked as the Chief People Officer at Emerson and her dad is an architect and property developer, and both parents serve as an inspiration for her.
Chelsea has an affinity for fashion.
Every time the British babe appeared on screen, she was 'designer'-ed down. Chelsea, who has referred to herself as “Black Barbie” made an entrance in a Balmain green dress and blazer and later we saw her strut down Sunset Blvd alongside her co-star Christine Quinn in a Louis Vuttion trench coach that was a head-turner. Chelsea explained her love for fashion in the Tudum interview. “Fashion’s always been my creative outlet, but more than anything it’s been really important for me to redefine what it means to be a boss lady and not have to wear tailored black pants and a shirt,” she said.
“You can be intelligent, you can be smart, you can be quirky, and you can wear colorful and even slightly revealing clothing. It doesn’t take away from your professionalism or how great you are at what you do. I just really want to go out there with my fashion to show people that you can wear whatever you like.”
She’s not for the drama and is getting along with everyone.
If you’ve been watching the new season, then you know that Chelsea isn’t about the drama, and in an interview with PEOPLE, she revealed that she has formed friendships with nearly everyone on the cast. "I just adore Christine. We have such a great relationship," she said. While Christine is portrayed as the show’s villain, the realtor introduced her to the brokerage.
"Emma and I have a very special connection. I think the world of Chrishell. To be honest with you, I just have a budding relationship with all the girls. I'm still getting to know some of them, but I didn't know them before the show."
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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