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Since leaving songwriting full-time to pursue her dream of being a singer, Muni Long has seen mainstream success. Her song “Hrs & Hrs” went viral during the pandemic and won her a Grammy, and since then, she has had everyone singing, “Twin, where have you been?” which are the lyrics to her song “Made For Me."


But while her star was rising, she was battling hardships in her personal life. In August, Muni released her new album, Revenge, and during her visit to The Terrell Show, she opened up about what inspired her recent music, particularly her song “Revenge."

“One song that just evokes a lot of emotion is the title track, “Revenge,” because I talk about some domestic violence there in the bridge. And I don't think a lot of people understand, like, I've been through a lot, and I just don't talk about it,” she revealed.

When asked how faith played a role during this turbulent time in her life, she shared how it was difficult as she was often told to just pray. “I’mma just say this, a lot of times, organized religion and old-school thinking will have you in bondage to some very misogynistic beliefs and ideals. And so a man can do wrong a million times, and you should forgive him because that is the blank thing to do, right? It's the right thing to do. It's the Christian thing to do, it's the feminine thing to do, it's the wife thing to do, right?” She explained.

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“But what about all this stress and drama and all that whatever, and him knocking me upside my [head?] How much of that should I take before a grown-up realizes that I'm out of control and I need to get help? There's only so much you can do for somebody who doesn't see the error in their ways. I was a little bit embarrassed that it was happening to me."

She continued, “I present myself as this very strong [person,] which I am, but when you got somebody that's like 200 pounds coming at you, it's nothing you can do. Yeah, you want to leave. They follow you. It's very, very nasty. I don't wish it on anyone. It's not that I didn't want to leave, but the way that my life was set up, you don't expect the love of your life to turn into your enemy.”

The mother of one made a plan, which included becoming a successful singer as a way to finally leave. Because, as she said, “I just knew, like, no one's coming to save you. It was me who walked down the aisle, so I'm gonna have to figure out how to get up out of this.”

Back in 2022, the “Ruined Me” singer revealed she had lupus, and in 2023, she shared that she was autistic and that repressing her autism led to her having lupus. While talking to Terrell, she said she hasn’t had any flair-ups since leaving her relationship. If you or you know someone dealing with domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)-799-7233 or text START to 88788.

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“One song that just evokes a lot of emotion is the title track, “Revenge,” because I talk about some domestic violence there in the bridge. And I don't think a lot of people understand, like, I've been through a lot, and I just don't talk about it,” she revealed.

When asked how faith played a role during this turbulent time in her life, she shared how it was difficult as she was often told to just pray. “I’mma just say this, a lot of times, organized religion and old-school thinking will have you in bondage to some very misogynistic beliefs and ideals. And so a man can do wrong a million times, and you should forgive him because that is the blank thing to do, right? It's the right thing to do. It's the Christian thing to do, it's the feminine thing to do, it's the wife thing to do, right?” She explained.

Muni Long

Photo by Santiago Felipe/Getty Images

“But what about all this stress and drama and all that whatever, and him knocking me upside my [head?] How much of that should I take before a grown-up realizes that I'm out of control and I need to get help? There's only so much you can do for somebody who doesn't see the error in their ways. I was a little bit embarrassed that it was happening to me."

She continued, “I present myself as this very strong [person,] which I am, but when you got somebody that's like 200 pounds coming at you, it's nothing you can do. Yeah, you want to leave. They follow you. It's very, very nasty. I don't wish it on anyone. It's not that I didn't want to leave, but the way that my life was set up, you don't expect the love of your life to turn into your enemy.”

The mother of one made a plan, which included becoming a successful singer as a way to finally leave. Because, as she said, “I just knew, like, no one's coming to save you. It was me who walked down the aisle, so I'm gonna have to figure out how to get up out of this.”

Back in 2022, the “Ruined Me” singer revealed she had lupus, and in 2023, she shared that she was autistic and that repressing her autism led to her having lupus. While talking to Terrell, she said she hasn’t had any flair-ups since leaving her relationship. If you or you know someone dealing with domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)-799-7233 or text START to 88788.

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