Alicia Keys Talks The Importance Of Surrounding Yourself With People Who 'Bring Your Energy Up'
We all have people in our lives that we love and cherish, but a lot of times, some of those people can bring negative energy into your space. You don’t necessarily want to cut them off and so you are forced to love them from a distance. While that may be hard, you have to do what’s best for you, right? That’s something that Alicia Keys had to learn as she got older.
The “Diary” singer is known for her laidback demeanor and positive vibes and she likes the people around her to be on that same wave. Mental wellness is important to her and she shared with InStyle what she’s learned since she’s been on that journey.
"One of the things that I've learned lately that has been resonating with me is monitoring the energy that you allow in your space," she said. "There are a lot of people that we love, people that we've known for years, family members, that we feel obligated to be with and talk to and entertain. And sometimes their energy or their frequency is just not matching yours and not bringing yours up.”
“Even though that's quite hard — trust me, I know — I think that that's something I really, really came to terms with this year. Make sure that the people that are around you bring your energy up, and that's it,” she said.
Alicia recently celebrated her 41st birthday with her husband Swizz Beatz and the mega-producer shared snippets on Instagram of Alicia celebrating in a big way. They never mentioned where they were, but the videos showed the couple on a private jet and then partying all night in a club.
Alicia and Swizz always serve couple goals on social media as they both seem to have one thing in common: they enjoy living life. The singer also highlighted the importance of taking time to experience life and how it plays a major role in your mental health.
"This idea of being able to put yourself first is another part of well-being — making sure that you are okay, making sure that you are mentally stable, making sure that you feel good in your heart and your spirit," she explained.
"I think there are many of us that feel like we're not allowed to or we're not supposed to — like this idea that suffering is a part of life. And surely there are ups and downs for everyone, but there's also the idea that we deserve to be well. It's important to learn how to do that."
Alicia definitely exemplifies that. Being a mother of two and a celebrated, award-winning musician, Alicia continues to be an example of having it all.
"The gift of life is something we can all continue conversations about," she said.
"How are we making the most of our lives? And feeling good and having fun? Because man, life is so short. You can't be stressed the whole time because then it's done."
Featured image by Arturo Holmes/Getty Images
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for daily love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Curate The Vibes With These Black-Owned Candles For Every Mood
Black women of the 90s and early 2000s had incense, and Black women of today are fully embracing our luxury candle era. Candles have become just as important as our perfume selections, and as a luxury candle connoisseur, I keep all of my favorites in stock in my storage closet.
Whether you’re moving out for the first time and want to try new scents or looking to set the mood for a self-care day or sexy evening, consider these Black-owned candle brands to curate the vibe you’re looking for.
If You’re Feeling Bad & Bougie
The Original Candle
If you’re the bougie friend of the group, this candle is for you. Hanifa has become a staple luxury brand; with celebs like Tracee Ellis Ross, Jennifer Hudson, Naomi Campbell, and Danielle Brooks seen in her designs, they have become everyone's favorite brand. They recently launched their first candle, The Original. The candle is infused with notes of mandarin, orange blossom, caramel, sandalwood, jasmine sambac, and vanilla.
When Wash Day Comes...
"Wash Day" Candle
Cavo
Need some inspiration to get up and section that hair so you can get to washing? Not to worry. This pineapple, mango coconut milk, and sugar candle will have your house smelling as good as your favorite conditioner.
Wellness Girl Necessity
Sunday in Brooklyn Candle
If you’re a girl who loves clean scents that clear the energy in your home and feel like the best Sunday you ever had, you need this candle. Infused with wild basil and lemongrass, it’s guaranteed to help you find your zen.
For Sunday Brunch If You’re Hosting
Champagne Showers
Champagne Showers is the perfect candle for a birthday celebration, Sunday brunch night in, or toast to your next big win! The candle includes a blend of bright bergamot, peach fizz, and creamy woods. It’s a bubbly fragrance that’s as sophisticated as our girl, Jackie Aina.
After You Listen To SZA
"After A Good Cry" Candle
Cavo
Let the tears flow, and let the healing begin. This rainwater, lavender, vanilla, and bean and bourbon candle is just what the doctor ordered if you’re getting over a breakup. But once you’re done crying, just remember you're worthy of much more, okay?
For The Lover Girl Era
"Love" Luxury Candle
If you’re done crying and have found the one you’ve been waiting for, let this candle burn as warm as your love for your new boo. Harlem Candle Co.'s "Love" fragrance represents a dramatic, romantic theme with both masculine and feminine accords melding beautifully together, infused with crisp apple and watery green notes.
Let’s make things inbox official! Sign up for the xoNecole newsletter for love, wellness, career, and exclusive content delivered straight to your inbox.
Featured image by Maskot/Getty Images