It never fails. Right around late October, my nail tech will recommend that I take a polish break — and it’s actually due to a couple of the things that you are about to read about below. Her logic is that since it’s cooler outdoors and I’m publicly showing my feet less, why not give my nails a moment to be polish-free?
Do I listen to her? I mean, I try to be as transparent in my content as possible, and so, more times than not, the answer is “no.” Although it’s been pretty much since lockdown that I’ve basically gotten no more than a manicure for my hands, at least once a month, I am going to get a pedicure that has at least one polish color on it — whether it’s June or it’s December.
That doesn’t mean that I don’t get the importance of why taking a break is beneficial, so while I’m literally preaching to the choir in this here content, pray for a sistah.
In the meantime, check out eight telling signs that you yourself might need to give your nails a bit of a salon vacation (if you want your natural nails to remain as strong and healthy as possible, that is).
1. Your Nails Are Discolored
If you notice that your nails have a bit of a yellowish hue to them, it could be due to a few different things — a nail fungus of some sort, a vitamin deficiency or, what happened to me: the result of wearing polish (especially a dark color) for too long without taking any breaks. Apparently, dark nail polish has something in them known as iron oxides that can temporarily turn your nails yellow, if you’re not careful.
Again, what my nail tech tells me is to take a break from polish for a few weeks whether it’s during the fall or winter season, so that my nails can breathe (not literally because nails are made up of dead keratin; that’s just a figure of speech). The rare times that I do actually listen, the yellow goes away and my nails end up looking healthier (well, looka there).
2. Your Nails Are Thin and/or Brittle
Before lockdown, you couldn’t tell me nothing about how long and strong my natural nails could get. And because of this, I was good for using gel polish on the regular. The challenge with that option is, when it’s time to remove it, sometimes the electric files and other harsh tools are used can thin out my natural nails — yours too. So, if you are noticing that your own nails are weak, thin or peeling, at the very least, take a gel polish mini-vacation; that way, your natural nails can build up their strength (dip powder or press-on nails are solid alternatives in the meantime).
3. Your Nails Are Dull
Do your nails look dry and dull? Do your cuticles seem to be thick and dry too? That could be because your nails are dehydrated or some of the chemicals in the nail products that your nail tech is using are starting to take a bit of a toll. Although applying paraffin wax on your nails during your salon visits can certainly help, make sure to use cuticle oil on your nails (and nail beds) in between visits and that you consume more protein (like meat, eggs and whole grains and vitamin C (like citrus fruit, berries and leafy greens); they are building blocks for keratin, so that your nails can get/remain healthy.
4. Your Nails Are Constantly Breaking
Aging, underlying health issues (like eczema or psoriasis), a lack of moisture, being low in iron and even texting and typing too damn much can cause your nails to break. Know what else can do it? Leaving nail polish on too long. That’s because certain brands contain toxins that can weaken your nails. Again, it can’t be said enough that, as a proactive measure, sometimes your nails should go polish-free. However, if you simply can’t see your life going that way, at least require polishes that are as toxin-less as possible. Or you can always bring your own. Some semi-popular brands are located here, here and here.
5. Your Nails Have White Smudges on Them
There are pros and cons to Googling everything. A potential con is if you notice something abnormal about yourself, you freak out and Google and then become paranoid if something like “it could be cancer” (or something just as serious) comes up.
That said, when it comes to your nails, you might get nervous if you start to notice something else that happens to my own nails from time to time — white dots or patches. More times than not, it’s probably what is known as keratin granulation which is what can happen when the combination of nail polish and nail polish remover end up creating small clumps of keratin protein build-up.
Since it does sometimes look a lot like nail fungus, you might want to confirm that this is indeed the issue (via your nail tech, doctor or dermatologist); however, if it is nothing more than a keratin issue, a break from the polish and remover should resolve the issue after a few weeks.
6. Your Nail Bed Is Infected
The technical term for a nail infection is paronychia. It’s what can happen if you’ve got hangnails or ingrown nails, if some sort of trauma happens to your nails (or nail beds) or your nails become irritated due to dirty water or harsh chemicals — and yes, unfortunately, all of this has the potential for happening if you go to a nail salon (especially one that doesn’t come highly-reviewed and/or recommended). So, if you happen to notice that one or some of your nails are swollen, your nail beds feel warm to the touch or there is pus anywhere around your nails — make an appointment to see your doctor asap. And definitely steer clear of returning to that particular salon again.
7. Your Nail or Nail Bed Feels Sore and Sensitive
If your nails or nail beds feel sore or ultra-sensitive and you know that you haven’t recently injured it, it could mean that you have some sort of infection going on — and yes, it may have come from your salon too. I actually read an article not too long ago that said that if it’s your first time trying out a spot, you should check out its bathroom; if it’s nasty (eww), chances are their cleaning practices are as well. This is definitely the case if the specific tools that are used on your nails (like clippers and cuticle trimmers) don’t come out of their own sealed package. Pumice stones, orange sticks and emery boards should be fresh and the basin that your feet are going to soak in should be thoroughly sanitized.
If none of those are the case and/or you end up with a sore or sensitive nail (or set of nails), never return to that salon and see your physician, so that it can be properly treated.
8. Your Nail Texture Is Changing
Final one. Your nails can reveal quite a bit about your health. That said, if you happen to notice drastic changes like dark streaks or deep curves (you can see some pictures of what I’m talking about here), you should see a doctor or dermatologist as soon as possible to rule out the possibility of an underlying health issue. However, if your nails feel really soft all of a sudden, your natural nails don’t seem to be consistently growing or your nails are splitting — definitely take a break from your salon visits. 8/10 it’s not a big deal; it's just your nails’ way of telling you that the chemicals and nail equipment that are being used are a bit much and they would like a bit of a vacation. Understood.
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So, what if one or more of these are the case? Are you supposed to just be out here looking crazy? Absolutely not. When you get a chance, check out “Uh, About That Salon Manicure. How To Treat Your Nails While You're Stuck At Home.” Hmph. Funny how it was penned during the peak of the pandemic and yet it can still come in handy now.
The circle of life, sis. The circle of freakin’ life.
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Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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