Back in 2012, when news dropped that Michael Ealy ran off and got hitched, you could almost hear millions of hearts around the world break in an instant. Four years later, he is a doting father and just welcomed his second child with his wife Khatira Rafiqzada.
During a recent interview with Steve Harvey, the 43-year-old DC native revealed that he discovered a whole new love after his daughter was born:
I just discovered a whole new love and I've never ever felt this way before. I was wondering if I could love another child as much as I love my son, and what I realized within hours of my daughter being born was that, not only do I love her just as much, if not more, it's a protective love. Within two hours, I understood your emotions at your daughter's wedding. I'm scared of the day.
Later in the interview, Michael reminded the audience that he played some dangerous characters as a warning to guys who will want to court his daughter when she's old enough to date.
Since Michael Ealy prides himself on keeping his personal life private, this little insight into his life and how he's navigating fatherhood was refreshing. A few years ago, in a rare moment for Rolling Out Magazine, he spoke on his marriage for the first time and revealed that although he didn't marry what he would consider "his type," jumping the broom was a well-thought-out mature decision after four years in a relationship. For Michael, he realized that it wasn't about trying to live up to the romance in the movies.
He found a woman he wanted to spend his life with and wifed her up.
On why he decided to get marriedWell, you know me, and you know that I am an extremely private person. But what I can say is that I’m not a young cat anymore. I’ve gone through my share of relationships [...]. I can relate to Danny in [About Last Night], because I was him. So when I watched the film I was so happy that I had matured beyond that point in my life.
Don’t get me wrong. Marriage opens up an entirely different can of worms as it pertains to your evolution as a man. I’ve found that, for me, the timing of it was right … And that’s a personal decision that was not made in haste, because we were together for four years. But when you find someone - and that’s something that is very hard to do - but when you find someone that you actually want to spend the rest of your life with, you have to go for it. I was just very lucky that the stars lined up for me.
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Michael Ealy and 4-year-old son Elijah
On his advice to men who are apprehensive about taking the next step
While I don’t consider myself a person that should write a book, or give advice on relationships, what I will share is my personal perspective. What helped me along the way was I had two personal friends of mine whose fiancés died. And I went through a personal struggle where my father got really sick, and I spent a week with him and it just dawned on me that we don’t have as much time as we think. And when you’re done playing games, and you find someone who has qualities that are much more practical as opposed to romanticized ideals, then you’ve got to hold on to them.
People think that you’re supposed to marry your type … well, I didn’t marry my type. It’s much more practical, and based in a day-to-day existence. So when you have that, and you’re happy, and you love her, don’t waste time. Because time — and I’ve learned that at this point in my life — time is my most precious commodity. Nothing is more precious than time. Because when it runs out … that’s it.
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That's a grown man right there!
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I've always had a love-hate relationship with wigs. Sometimes, I struggle to get them to lay flat and don't get me started with the bonding glue process. So when it comes to wearing wigs, I like to keep it nice and breezy around this b--- (word to Katt Williams), especially in the summertime.
That's why I jumped at the chance to try these three versatile wigs from Luvme Hair. Each one offers a unique look and is surprisingly low maintenance, which aligns perfectly with my philosophy that wearing wigs should make life easier. Let’s dive into the three styles below.
Headband Wig
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This was the first wig I tried on, and I instantly fell in love with it. So much so that it took me weeks to even consider trying the other two. I’m partial to colored hair, especially blonds, browns, and reds, so I was skeptical about the jet black hair. However, I think the color, combined with the curl pattern, worked surprisingly well for me.
One of the things I really liked about this wig was that I didn’t have to braid my hair down first. I could simply throw it over a low ponytail, which is the epitome of a low-maintenance style. The headband has combs inside and velcro on the ends, ensuring a secure fit.
Half Wig
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I had never worn a half wig before, so I faced some challenges. I cornrowed the bottom half of my hair where the wig would sit, but I believe this made it more difficult to use the combs. It might just be me though. I straightened the top part of my hair to blend it with the wig, which looked cute for about five minutes.
Firstly, I have a brown/blonde color mix on the ends of my hair, and the half wig is black. So, I had to hide some of the color (I didn’t have time to dye the wig). Secondly, straightening my hair myself is always a hassle because it never lasts long. Add to that the summer humidity, and you get a hot mess. Despite all this, I managed to get some cute pictures before things got out of control, and that’s all that matters, right?
Would I consider this a low-maintenance hair style? Yes and no. I think it’s unrealistic for me during the summer, especially since I enjoy summer activities. However, when the weather cools down, I’ll definitely rock it, dyed, of course.
Bob
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Now, this is the wig I was nervous about. I never had a bob and I didn't think I would like it. But once I put bobiana on, my mind instantly changed. I finally understood why the gworls rave about the bob so much. It was giving boss. It was giving grown woman. It was giving the bob means business. Iykyk. It was the ultimate statement.
I will say when I first put it on, one side of my wig just would not lay flat. It took some trial and error, but I finally managed to get it to look good. With the bob, I highly recommend braiding your hair down first as small as you can so it can lay as flat as possible. I really liked the ash blonde color, which is perfect for summer. The length also makes it a great low-maintenance style for the season, so you don't have to worry about the hair making your neck sweaty.
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