LeToya Luckett Says Being Kicked Out Of Destiny's Child Helped Her Reconnect With God
Every loss is an opportunity to level up; just take it from LeToya Luckett, who said that one of the most devastating times in her life was only a blessing in disguise.
In moments of despair, we're quick to blame God, but it's important to know that God will never allow you to go through pain without purpose. LeToya learned this firsthand at only 19 years old after being suddenly removed from Destiny's Child after 7 years of performing for the group. On a recent episode of her Facebook Watch show If Not For My Girls, the singer opened up about the experience and proved that sometimes your loss is actually a win. She explained to her co-hosts:
"When I came out of DC, out of Destiny's Child, there was a moment of 'OK, what do I do next?'"
Although the news sent her life into a tizzy, it was proof that sometimes God will push you into your pain for the sake of your purpose. It wasn't until later in her life, when she met a friend who encouraged her to reconnect with her spirituality that she was actually able to find peace. The woman, who LeToya described as a "motherly, nurturing spirit", is a prime example of how God will sometimes speak through others to get to you, you just have to be ready to listen.
"[She] comforted me and told me, 'Dust yourself off. Let's go to church. Let's go to these women's conferences. Let's pray together.' She helped me to build my prayer life. I got a better understanding of who God was to me."
God puts people in your life to be either a lesson or a blessing, and if you're lucky enough, you'll meet people who will be both. In the past, LeToya has been open about how her departure from the group left a number of lasting emotional wounds and said that although it "hurt", she's now able to see that everything that has happened has all been for the better.
"I feel that God places people in your life because I know that I've had so many different angels, as I like to call them, that I feel God perfectly — in His timing, in His perfect timing — placed these women in my life for a specific reason."
Today, LeToya credits both the people who have come into her life as well as her pain for allowing her the opportunity to be uncomfortable.
"I started to build a relationship with God and I found comfort in that instead of comfort in trying to figure out what I wanted to do next. I had to seek Him first before I could make any moves."
A devoted husband, a precious baby, and a platinum-selling album later, it's safe to say that LeToya is doing "So Good", and it's all because she let go and let God figure out the rest.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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How A Stay At Switzerland's Luxurious 7132 Hotel Reminded Me To Live The Life I Deserve
Sometimes, as women—especially as single Black women—we simply need to be reminded that we are deserving of living a life we dream of. Even if that means creating it for ourselves. I recently set out on a weeklong trip to Switzerland, a trip I’ve been wanting to take for years, and near the end of my visit, I had an epiphany.
“DeAnna, this is the life you deserve,” I thought to myself as I took in the gorgeous bathroom in my suite at the famous 7132 Hotel and Thermal Spa. It was one of the most luxurious hotels (and bathrooms) I had ever stayed in—and that’s saying a lot for someone who often travels for work.
To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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