Drake Gives Honest Answer To Why He Won’t Be Getting Married Anytime Soon, And We Can Respect It
Rapper, singer, and actor Aubrey "Drake" Graham candidly opened up about his future plans, revealing his thoughts on marriage and whether he envisions settling down with a fellow celebrity.
The 36-year-old may have gained professional success after dominating the music charts with his catchy tunes for over a decade following his departure from the Canadian hit series Degrassi: The Next Generation. Still, Graham's personal life is an entirely different story.
Over the years, Graham has been romantically linked to Rihanna, SZA, and Serena Williams, to name a few. Although those alleged relationships didn't work out, the "God's Plan" emcee welcomed a son, Adonis Graham, in 2017 with former model and artist Sophie Brussaux.
Drake Reveals Why He Hasn't Gotten Married
In a July interview on Bobbi Althoff's The Really Good Podcast, Graham explains why he isn't a perfect suitor for marriage and isn't interested in being with a celebrity despite his past high-profile relationships.
Drake On Marriage
In the discussion, the "Over" lyricist disclosed that he feels he wouldn't be an ideal partner for marriage because of his busy schedule.
"I don't know. I don't think I could offer somebody what they'd be looking for," he told Althoff. "Just consistency. My work is my priority. I wouldn't want to not be able to contribute as a partner."
Further into the interview, Graham added that he is also reluctant to get married because he doesn't want to disappoint anybody.
"I don't want to get married because, like, I just don't want to disappoint someone," the "Fancy" rapper said.
Drake On Not Marrying A Celebrity
As the topic shifted to the type of woman Graham would marry, the star shared that he would prefer a noncelebrity over a famous person because he finds them more intriguing.
"I probably will end up marrying somebody that's not famous," he stated, "Famous people aren't that anything. They're not that intriguing."
In light of Graham's recent admission on relationships and marriage, xoNecole looks back at his former romances.
Who Has Drake Dated?
Keep scrolling for a brief timeline of the women Drake has dated:
Keshia Chanté
Although the exact timeline of when former 106 & Park host Keshia Chanté dated Graham is unclear, new outlets report that the pair's romance occurred in the early 2000s when they were both teenagers.
Despite their relationship ending, it appeared that Chanté left a mark in Graham's life because years later, in 2022, the emcee revealed that she was the "Kiki" inspiration behind his hit song "In My Feelings" during OVO Fest as he introduced her onstage and mentioned the activities the pair would partake in, which is highly referenced in the track.
"This next person coming to the stage, I used to get in my mom's car, and I used to drive all the way to the west for this one right here, you feel me? So, I have to personally introduce her," he said. "This is my first girlfriend I ever had in my life. A real legend, somebody I love with all of my heart. Make some noise for Keisha Chanté.”
SZA
Following his split with Chanté, Drake was reportedly linked to singer Solána "SZA" Rowe around 2008 or 2009, depending on whose version of events you believe.
At the time, Rowe wasn't widely known. On the other hand, Graham gained notoriety following his mixtape So Far Gone, featuring the hit singles "Best I Ever Had" and "Successful." Although it is unclear how long they were together, the rapper mentioned his romance with Rowe in 2021's "Mr. Right Now."
"Yeah, said she wanna f--k to some SZA, wait. 'Cause I used to date SZA back in '08," he said.
After the track's release, Rowe took to Twitter to clarify a few things, including the former couple's dating timeline.
"So It was actually 2009 lol ... in this case, a year of poetic rap license mattered lol," she wrote. "I think he just innocently rhymed 08 [with] wait. Anybody who really knows me and was around during this time can confirm ... it's all love all peace."
The following year in December 2022, Rowe opened up in an interview with Audacy about where she stands with Graham, their past relationship, and why she isn't fazed by being name-dropped in any of his songs.
"We're cool. We've always been cool. It's never been weird," she said. "Anytime he's ever mentioned me, it's always been positive. He never said anything negative about me, and I'm grateful for that. I think really highly of him… I'm an artist now, I wasn't then, and he's King Drake!"
Rihanna
Graham's most notable relationship to date has been with singer and entrepreneur Robyn "Rihanna" Fenty.
The couple began dating in 2009, years after Graham appeared as an extra on Fenty's music video "Pon De Replay." Despite their chemistry, Graham and Fenty's romance wouldn't last long because, by 2010, the lyricist revealed to The New York Times that he felt like "a pawn" in their relationship.
“I was a pawn," he stated. "You know what she was doing to me? She was doing exactly what I've done to so many women throughout my life, which is show them quality time, then disappear. I was like, 'Wow, this feels terrible.'"
Shortly after that comment, Graham and Fenty would reunite that same year. However, their reunion was short-lived again because, in 2011, Fenty and Graham broke up for a second time. The following year, Fenty rekindled her relationship with her ex Chris Brown.
By 2016, all appeared to be going well with Fenty and Graham because the longtime musical collaborators released their hit song "Work." At the same time, Graham professed his love for Fenty when he presented her with the 2016 MTV Vanguard Award. Although it appeared Fenty and Graham would take the next step in their relationship following the public admiration from both parties, it sadly wouldn't last because, by 2017, they had broken up for the final time.
In a 2018 interview with Vogue, Fenty opened up about her nearly decade-long romance with Graham and where the pair stood after their final split.
"We don't have a friendship now, but we're not enemies either," she said. "It is what it is."
Since then, Fenty has moved on with rapper Rakim "A$AP Rocky" Mayers. The pair welcomed a son RZA Mayers in 2022 and are currently expecting their second child.
Serena Williams
During Graham's on-and-off relationship with Fenty, the "Hotline Bling" emcee was romantically linked to legendary tennis player Serena Williams in 2011 after he was seen attending one of her matches and shared a telling tweet online.
"@SerenaWilliams I cannot wait to put it on you and make you sweat……. during our match this weekend," he wrote.
Although neither party confirmed the romance, Graham and Williams appeared to be heating up when he mentioned her in his song "Worst Behavior" and later threw jabs at her ex, Common.
Although both men ultimately settled the feud, which was allegedly over Williams, dating rumors continued to follow the alleged couple when Graham kept attending the tennis player's games, and they were spotted making out in various locations.
But by 2015, Williams and Graham's alleged relationship would be over. Williams has since settled down with businessman Alexis Ohanian. The couple share a daughter, Alexis Olympia, and are expecting their second child.
Jennifer Lopez
In December 2016, actress and singer Jennifer Lopez and Graham ignited dating rumors after they shared an intimate photo of the pair cuddling on Instagram.
Although, at the time, it was reported that Graham and Lopez were professionally working together, a source told People magazine that they greatly respect each other and their friends are hopeful it could lead to a blossoming relationship.
"They seem to really like and respect each other, but it's early," they said. "Where it goes, we shall see. Friends of them both are hoping it becomes something, but it's too early to say more than that."
A short time later, another insider revealed that Lopez was "smitten" with Graham and enjoyed "spending time with him." The alleged couple's romance continued well into the New Year when Lopez was seen sporting a Tiffany necklace, reportedly worth $100,000, that Graham gave her. The duo allegedly continued dating for a while, and during that time, it was revealed to the public that Graham met Lopez's children.
But unfortunately, by February 2017, Lopez and Graham's brief union ended. Since then, Lopez has married actor Ben Affleck.
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This Black Woman-Owned Creative Agency Shows Us The Art Of Rebranding
Rebranding is an intricate process and very important to the success of businesses that want to change. However, before a business owner makes this decision, they should determine whether it's a rebrand or an evolution.
That's where people like Lola Adewuya come in. Lola is the founder and CEO of The Brand Doula, a brand development studio with a multidisciplinary approach to branding, social media, marketing, and design.
While an evolution is a natural progression that happens as businesses grow, a rebrand is a total change. Lola tells xoNecole, "A total rebrand is necessary when a business’s current reputation/what it’s known for is at odds with the business’s vision or direction.
"For example, if you’ve fundamentally changed what your product is and does, it’s likely that your brand is out of alignment with the business. Or, if you find your company is developing a reputation that doesn’t serve it, it might be time to pump the brakes and figure out what needs to change.
She continues, "Sometimes you’ll see companies (especially startups) announce a name change that comes with updated messaging, visuals, etc. That usually means their vision has changed or expanded, and their previous branding was too narrow/couldn’t encompass everything they planned to do."
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The Brand Doula was born in 2019, and its focus is on putting "the experiences, goals, and needs of women of color founders first," as well as brands with "culture-shifting missions."
According to Lola, culture-shifting is "the act of influencing dominant behavior, beliefs, or experiences in a community or group (ideally, for the better)."
"At The Brand Doula, we work with companies and leaders that set out to challenge the status quo in their industries and communities. They’re here to make an impact that sends ripples across the market," she says.
"We help the problem solvers of the world — the ones who aren't satisfied with 'this is how it's always been' and instead ask 'how could this be better?' Our clients build for impact, reimagining tools, systems, and ways of living to move cultures forward."
The Brand Doula has worked with many brands, including Too Collective, to assist with their collaboration with Selena Gomez's Rare Beauty and Balanced Black Girl for a "refresh," aka rebrand. For businesses looking to rebrand, Lola shares four essential steps.
1. Do an audit of your current brand experience — what’s still relevant and what needs to change? Reflect on why you’re doing the rebrand in the first place and what success would look like after relaunching.
2. Tackle the overall strategy first — before you start redesigning logos and websites, align on a new vision for your brand. How do you want your company to be positioned moving forward? Has your audience changed at all? Will your company have a fresh personality and voice?
3. Bring your audience along the journey — there’s no need to move in secret. Inviting your current audience into the journey can actually help them feel more connected to and invested in your story, enough to stick around as changes are being made.
4. Keep business moving — one of my biggest pet peeves is when companies take down their websites as soon as they have the idea to rebrand, then have a Coming Soon page up for months! You lose a lot of momentum and interest by doing that. If you’re still in business and generating income, continue to operate while you work on your rebrand behind the scenes. You don’t want to cut existing customers off out of the blue, and you also don’t want so much downtime that folks forget your business exists or start looking for other solutions.
While determining whether the rebrand was successful may take a few months, Lola says a clear sign that it is unsuccessful is negative feedback from your target audience. "Customers are typically more vocal about what they don’t like more than what they do like," she says.
But some good signs to look out for are improvements in engagement with your marketing, positive reviews, press and increase in retention, and overall feeling aligned with the new branding.
For more information about Lola and The Brand Doula, visit her website, thebranddoula.com.
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‘It Was Her’: Blair Underwood Opens Up About Marrying His Longtime Friend Josie Hart After Divorce
At 60 years old, Blair Underwood has never lost "it." It was a thought that came to me frequently as I indulged in the 1-hour listen that was his recent interview with the fellas of Nice & Neat The Podcast. I must admit, for the entire duration, the veteran actor had me utterly entranced.
In episode 124, aptly titled "BLAIR UNDERWOOD," the Three Women star detailed his more-than-30-year career journey, the male heroes who have helped shape who he is in his masculinity, being the "good guy" versus the "bad guy" on screen, and walking into the most recent chapters of his life with an unapologetic demeanor that comes with wisdom and age.
Blair also played coy when asked to rank himself among the quintessential fine 90's Black men like Morris Chestnut and Shemar Moore. "I can't quite answer that. That's not really for me to answer," he said in the podcast. Sure Blair, sure.
The actor has had more than 30 years in the game with his fair share of leading man roles alongside actresses like Jada Pinkett Smith and Julia Roberts has also showcased versatility in villainous turns in his portrayals in films like Madea's Family Reunion and the thriller Just Cause. The duality of the types of complex roles Blair has taken on as an actor can sometimes be so far removed from who he is as a man and how he defines his masculinity.
Blair credited the "male heroes" in his life, like his father, Sidney Poitier, and his pastor for helping him understand what masculinity looked like to him and in turn what he brings to his characters on-screen. "It's not just being strong physically," he said when talking about masculinity. "It's not just being...even 'strong' in a relationship, it's about being able to listen and hear. Hear your partner, hear your family, hear your kids."
Blair also touched on some rumors that started to swirl since his private life had become the talk of public fodder. For much of his time in the public eye, he was married to Desiree DaCosta from 1994 to 2021 when news of their divorce was made public. The couple shared three kids (two sons and a daughter).
A divorce after 30 years can be shocking, but what made the split controversial was Blair's second marriage to his long-time friend Josie Hart that quickly followed. Blair and Josie married on June 24, 2023. When asked how he navigated the divorce from his first wife, Blair revealed, "You know, I've found in life, in this industry, in this business, but especially in marriage that you have to be so often intentional. Be specific, particular, and intentional about what you want to accomplish."
"My ex-wife, at the time of the divorce, what we wanted to accomplish was for us to be in a healthy place, coming through a divorce, and most importantly, our kids would be in a healthy place," he continued.
"So, what was intentional was how we speak to them. Once we had decided that it was time, that our marriage had kind of come to a natural conclusion, and we both agreed that, you know, after 27 -- 30 years together, 27 years of marriage -- it was time."
Blair Underwood and Desiree DaCosta
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Blair shared that he felt the pandemic further punctuated the fact that their marriage had come to an end. He would later detail in the same interview that he felt he and his ex-wife stopped growing together in their marriage in 2012 when he went to New York to do Broadway in A Streetcar Named Desire. The bottom line was, who they were in the present no longer aligned. They were different people.
They decided on the divorce together and then decided how they would tell their kids. Their solution was to write "almost like a script" where each of them handled different aspects of breaking the news of their decision to their kids.
He called it one of the most difficult conversations he has ever had in his life. "These are my children. These are my hearts," he explained. "These are my hearts beating outside of me." He recalled their kids needing time to process before coming back to the table and having another heart-to-heart where they answered questions openly and honestly. Blair said he didn't care about the "tabloid of it all" as much as he cared about his "three human beings" and "the integrity to my ex-wife."
"There was no screwing around, no behind-the-scenes stuff, so I could hold my head high because I honored that relationship and I honored my three kids," he shared.
Blair lightly addressed some of the rumors swirling out there about him and his current wife's relationship, saying, "What everyone else might speculate or think, because my wife now, we've known each other for 43 years. We've been great friends. But you can be great friends... You can be friends without having to cross that line."
Even though Blair admitted that he and his ex-wife were on the same page about getting a divorce, they didn't take the decision lightly. The former couple sought counseling and prayer. "The therapy was about, let's see where God leads us. If there was another answer to stay together, I wanted that answer. If the answer was, it's not meant to stay together, I wanted- that was the answer I got. But we both came to that answer."
Fast-forward to today, Blair was aware of the narrative of him supposedly leaving his ex-wife to get with his best friend but allowed it to just fall off his shoulders. As far as he was concerned, he knew the truth. His kids also knew the truth. His ex-wife knew the truth. And for him, the truth was what mattered most. Not the tabloid rumors.
He also knew the collective disappointment the public might have in him for having a marriage that lasted so long and a marriage that might have been upheld to a certain degree as "goals." But he had to live his life for him, not for the public. "I'm not playing a role. This is my real life," he said.
Blair revealed he had no idea that another marriage would be on the horizon for him, let alone a marriage to his great friend Josie. He was open. "It was her," he stated simply of his revelation. At that point, he had been dating for six months and Josie had been divorced for seven years.
"Four decades of friendship, of family, of understanding each other, you know? We're- she's godmother of my son. I'm the godfather of her daughter. My brother's the godfather of some of her kids. You know, we have nine kids between us so there's history in the friendship. I see her ex with all her kids and the grandkids. You know, we're cool.
"It's taken time and process. But the reason that can be now is because there was such a history before. But most importantly -- and what I do want to say for people to understand this -- most importantly... it was important that I honor everybody in the process. I honor my ex-wife in the marriage and in the divorce. I honor my children. So you can hold your head high when you've done those things."
He repeated his reasoning for getting married so quickly after a divorce, "It was her." He listed more things that revealed her to him as his second wife. She knew him before he was Blair Underwood when the actor was 16 and had no fame. "She knew me and has known me. And I consider our relationship- I categorize it as a 43-year unfinished conversation."
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