
Alicia Keys has been opening up about her journey to self-care. Since the launch of her skincare brand Keys Soulcare, the 15- time Grammy award-winner has been more vocal about her life experiences and how it has shaped her to become the person she is today. In a cover story with Fast Company, the musician/mogul is once again speaking about what she’s learned about herself over the years.
"I value myself now, and I think for a lot of years, I didn't," she said. "I learned that in order for me to be the most productive, I have to be well. I prioritize myself in a way that I just didn't [before]."
The singer and songwriter became a breakout star at 20-years-old with her mega-hit “Fallin’” and with her fame quickly rising more eyeballs were on her and so was the pressure to be perfect.
"I think we all deal with this idea that we're supposed to be perfect in some way. The same thing happened to me when I was 20. You don't even know who you are at 20. You're a little bit of what your mama told you. You're a little bit of what the world told you. And then you're supposed to go off into the world," she said.
In her 2020 memoir More Myself, Alicia recounted the time she broke down in tears in a dressing room in 2006 after her need to be perfect started to take a toll on her. “Amid the constant moving…the constant pleasing and pretending, I’d delivered my grandest performance yet: convincing the world that, behind my smile, all was as perfect as it appeared,” she wrote.
She also had a bout with depression, People reported. “I was feeling so sad all the time, and I couldn’t shake it,” she said. “I started burying my feelings, and it got to a point where I couldn’t even tell my family or my friends, ‘I’m twisted,’ or ‘I’m exhausted,’ or ‘I’m so angry.’ … I became a master of putting up the wall so that I was unreadable.”
Now, she’s able to enjoy the “simple things” in life such as spending time with her family.
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Singer and podcaster Emanny joined xoMan host Kiara Walker for a vulnerable exploration of manhood, love, loss, and growth. Known for his soulful music and unfiltered commentary, Emanny opens up about how being raised in a house full of women, his experiences in the Bronx, and the heartbreaks of life have shaped the man—and father—he is today.
Emanny reflected on growing up with his father and the strong influence of the women in his life after the early loss of his older brother. “The gift and a curse of having three women in a household, no matter what I went through, I could always rely on them to be there. My mother was my greatest protector and also my greatest crutch.” He explained how the streets and male mentors offered a contrasting lesson:
“The street and the other guy figures were kinda like, ‘No, fall. Fall. And I’m not picking you up. Figure it out.’”
Looking back, he admits, “I wish I fell more… there’s certain things that I went through that I really weren’t prepared for at all.” Later, the loss of both parents—his father in 2014 and his mother in 2023—brought unexpected revelations.
“I didn’t see a world where I didn’t have her around… With my mom, she still lingers in ways that, like I feel like mentally I still need just to be okay in certain instances.”
Now, as a father of three sons (15, 11, and 7), he navigates the world without the safety net his mother once provided: “To walk around and really feel like that parentless child… it really gives you an outlook on the world that you don’t even recognize.”
His father’s quiet strength continues to influence him deeply. “The one thing I will say about my dad is that I never saw him talk bad about anyone… Be a man of character. Be the person that if you say you’re going to be this, be this… Be who you say you are.”
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Woman Evolve 2025 Honors The Power, Freedom & Wholeness Of Every Woman
Woman Evolve 2025 recently held a three-day conference in Atlanta, fostering sisterhood, empowerment, and faith among women. Led by Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts, the conference attracted women from diverse backgrounds to listen to inspiring speeches from faith-based leaders, musicians, and successful businesswomen who shared their personal journeys and the profound role of God in their lives.
Some of speakers include Uncle Nearest co-founder and chief historian Fawn Weaver, YouTuber-turned-fragrance entrepreneur Jackie Aina, Therapy for Black Girls founder Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, and gospel singer Koryn Hawthorne. The theme for the conference was freedom, and it was expressed throughout the weekend as attendees danced, laughed, cried, and so much more.

Luvvie Ajayi Jones embraces attendees at the Woman Evolve conference at Atlanta's State Farm Arena and Georgia World Congress Center, July 31 - Aug. 2, 2025.
Woman Evolve
Sarah is the visionary behind Woman Evolve and she wore many hats throughout the event such as moderator and speaker. Three years ago, her father, pastor TD Jakes entrusted her with the women's conference and now its more impactful than ever.
Sarah dished on the conference, including the Mind Your Business Luncheon that was held on Thursday. "For us, we really wanted to make sure we catered to the whole woman," Sarah told press. "As we see the rise of women in entrepreneurship and leadership, the Mind Your Business Luncheon is our way of making sure that they are feeling seen that there needs are being met and that we are empowering the next generation of business leaders."
The busy mom also closed out Thursday night with a powerful sermon that had everyone on their feet.
As we see the rise of women in entrepreneurship and leadership, the Mind Your Business Luncheon is our way of making sure that they are feeling seen that there needs are being met and that we are empowering the next generation of business leaders.
Mind Your Business Luncheon
Moderated by Sarah, Fawn opened up about her journey from growing up in '90s LA where gang violence was prevalent to attempting suicide twice. After her second failed suicide, she realized she was on earth for a purpose and began to follow God. She revealed that she co-founded Uncle Nearest not to profit from it, but to serve God, who instructed her to share his story.
"I love what I do not because it pours into me, but because of the obedience of it," she said. "That pours into me." She also shared great business advice like don't assume anything and that it it's okay to say you don't know something. She believes people can lead while still learning, as it makes you a more authentic and respected boss.
During the luncheon, it was also announced that Woman Evolve and Wells Fargo are launching a $75k Mind Your Business Pitch competition to help entrepreneurs reach their goals.
The Winner's Circle Freedom Stage & Expo

I took this photo outside the Mind Your Business Luncheon where the theme was "faith in the squeeze."
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While the main events took place at State Farm arena, next door at the Georgia World Congress Center was Girl Evolve (for young girls), the expo, and live podcast conversations. The expo featured several Black woman-owned businesses and even had special appearances from the business owners themselves such as Monique Rodriguez, the founder of Mielle Organics.
On the other side of the expo, there were live podcast recordings. A couple of the podcasts that participated were Sistas’ star Crystal Renee Hayslett’s podcast, Keep It Positive Sweetie, where she interviewed Terri J. Vaughn. There was also Gia Peppers' podcast, Healed Girl Era podcast, which featured a special guest, comedian Pretty Vee.
I love what I do not because it pours into me, but because of the obedience of it. That pours into me.
Pajama Panel
The Pajama Panel was reminiscent of a girls night in as panelists and even audience members wore their comfy pjs. The panelist included Sarah and her mom, Serita Jakes, businesswoman and LL Cool J's wife, Simone I. Smith, gospel singer Koryn Hawthorne, and writer and pastor Bianca Juarez. The conversation ranged from talking about weight to learning how to say no.
Woman Evolve conference 2026 has already been announced. For more information, visit their website, womanevolve.com.
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