Tabitha Brown and her husband, Chance Brown, are commemorating a milestone moment in their relationship: their 20th wedding anniversary.
Over the years, the couple's journey has been proven to be a testament to how true love and an overall solid foundation are the keys to personal and professional success. An example of this occurred early on in Tabitha's career.
As the mother of two gradually grew popular as a social media influencer, television host, author, and entrepreneur, Tabitha made sure to retire Chance from his job as a law enforcement officer because of the many years he worked to help support her dreams. Tabitha's reasoning behind this was that she wanted Chance to focus on other endeavors he was passionate about and help him accomplish some of his goals.
In light of their anniversary on April 19, Tabitha and Chance participated in a photoshoot and opened up with PEOPLE about their past hardships and how her mother, Patricia, who passed away in 2007 from ALS, predicted the pair would reunite following their breakup years ago.
Tabitha On Her Mother's Predictions
In the discussion, Tabitha revealed that before the pair got married in April 2003, she and Chance previously dated in high school but ended up breaking up.
The 44-year-old shared that the split hurt Chance so much that he refused to be her friend. Tabitha disclosed that the pair would remain estranged in the 10th grade as she recalled seeing Chance at a basketball game with his new girlfriend.
"When we broke up in high school, he didn't want to be my friend. He didn't want to talk to me or anything. So in 10th grade, we were at a basketball game when me and my mom were sitting in the bleachers and Chance walked in. He was on the side of the bleachers and he was standing in the corner with his girlfriend at the time. I kind of rolled my eyes because they were all hugged up." she recalled.
Tabitha would add that during that instance, Patricia predicted they would get back together, but only after Chance would welcome a child with that said girlfriend, something the star didn't initially believe at the time because she never wanted to marry a man with children.
"My mom looked at me and she goes, 'I don't know why you rolling your eyes.' And I was like, 'What?' She was like, 'I'm going to tell you what's going to happen. That little girl's going to get pregnant, they're going to have a baby, but that is your husband.' And I said, 'Well, you don't know me very well mama, because I would never marry someone who has children,'" she added.
Following that day, Tabitha stated that her mom would make another prediction a few years later during their graduation. The Tab Time host explained that during their graduation, Patricia asked her to get Chance so that they could take a photo together. As Tabitha obeyed her mother's orders and got Chance, Patricia expressed that this image would be used at the pair's wedding.
"On our graduation day, my mom says, 'Hey, go get Chance. I want to take a picture of you two in your graduation gown.' So I go get him. She goes, 'I'm going to use this at y'all's wedding.' I was like, 'Mom, will you stop saying weird stuff? That's weird,'" Tabitha said while laughing.
Tabitha On Her Reconnection With Chance
Years later, as Tabitha and Chance attended separate colleges, the Feeding the Soul author admitted that her mother's predictions would come true.
Chance would welcome a daughter with his ex, and Tabitha remained in love with him so much so that she decided to call him up in the early hours and try to profess her feelings.
Tabitha explained that when she called Chance, she told him that aside from everything that went on after their split, she had a gut feeling that they were "supposed to be together."
"He was in college in North Carolina, I was in college in Miami, and I woke up in the middle of the night one night, and he was the only person I could think about. I called him at three or four in the morning and told the roommate it was an emergency," she said as she describes the measures she took to try to get a hold of Chance. "I told him, I was like, 'Listen, I know I probably sound crazy, but all the years you wouldn't look at me, you wouldn't speak to me, I always had this feeling in my stomach. I just woke up in the middle of the night, I'm here [in] Miami, and I think that I'm in love with you. I think that all those years, that's what it was. We're supposed to be together. I'm in love with you.'"
Although Chance didn't say much following Tabitha's revelation, she shared that they would talk it over the next night. Since Tabitha's declaration years ago, the couple would reunite, get married, and expand their blended family by welcoming two children.
Despite all the hardships Tabitha and Chance faced in their relationship, the star calls their love story a "beautiful journey."
A beautiful and inspirational journey it is to all. Happy anniversary Tabitha and Chance!
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There’s nothing quite as humbling as navigating adulthood with no instruction manual. Since the turn of the decade, it seems like everything in our society that could go wrong has, inevitably, gone wrong. From the global pandemic, our crippling student debt problem, the loneliness crisis, layoffs, global warming, recession, and not to mention figuring out what to eat for dinner every night. This constant state of uncertainty has many of us wondering, when are the grown-ups coming to fix all of this?
But the catch is, we are the new grown-ups.
As if it happened without our permission, we became the new adults. We are the members of society who are paying taxes, having children, getting married, and keeping our communities afloat, one iced latte at a time. Still, there’s something about doing all these grown-up duties that feel unnaturally grown-up. Enter the #teenagegirlinher20s.
If there’s one hashtag to give you the state of the next cohort of adults, it’s this one. Of the videos that have garnered over 3.9M views, you’ll find a collection of users who are overwhelmed by life’s pressing existential responsibilities, clung to nostalgia, and reminiscent of the days when their mom and dad took care of their insurance plans.
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The concept of being a 20-something or 30-something teenager is linked to the sentiment of not feeling “grown up enough” to do grown-up things while feeling underprepared and even nihilistic about whether that preparation even matters.
It’s our generation’s version of when we ask our grandmothers how old they are and they simply reply with, “I still feel 45,” all while being every bit of 76 years old. In this, we share a warped concept of time while clinging to a desire for infantilization.
Granted, the pandemic did a number on our concept of time. Many of us who started the pandemic in our early or mid-20s missed out on three fundamental years of socialization, career development, and personal milestones that traditionally help to mark our growth.
Our time to figure out and plan our next steps through fumbling yet active participation was put on pause indefinitely and then resumed provisionally. This in turn has left many of us hanging in the balance of uncertainty as we try to make sense of the disconnect between our minds and bodies in this missing gap of time.
Because we’re all still figuring out what the ramifications of being locked away and frozen in time by a global pandemic will have on us as a society, there really is no “right” way of making up for lost time. Feeling unprepared for any new chapter of life is a natural rite of passage, pandemic or not. However, it’s important to not stay stuck in the last age or period of life that made sense to us because self-growth is the truest evidence of personal progress.
So whether you’re leaning on your inner child, teenager, or 20-something for guidance as you fill the gap between your real age and pandemic age, know that it’s okay to grieve the person you thought you would be and the milestones you thought you’d hit before you ever knew what a pandemic was. If there’s anything that the pandemic taught us, it’s that we have the power to reimagine a better world and life for ourselves. And if we tap into our inner teenager as a compass, we can piece together our next chapter with a fresh outlook.
Sure, we’ve lost a couple of years, but there are still some really amazing ones ahead.
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