Vaginas should be spoiled — full stop. Sexual pleasure comes from them. Babies come out of them. And shoot, those two reasons alone are enough to totally prove my point. And since this is the time of the year when we tend to do a ton of intentionality into gift-giving, I thought that it would be a great opportunity to add on to an article that I wrote (wow!) almost five years ago: “Here's What Your Vagina Wants For Christmas (No, Really).”
Because really, as you’re going down the list of all of the people who you want to get something for, are you even on it? If not, you definitely should be because I agree with a survey that I once read that said that many people are big on “self-gifting” because 1) it’s important to them, 2) they see it as a reward, and 3) it’s a great way to lift their spirits.
That said, when you factor your vagina into all of this, another article that I penned for the platform a while back is “Vaginas Are Like Plants. Here's What I Mean By That.” In it, one of the things that I mentioned is when you actually speak positively to and about your “treasure box,” it can help to boost your self-confidence. That being the case, I’m just providing one more way that you can elevate your self-esteem (including your sexual self-esteem) as you remind yourself that since every inch of you is special, every part should certainly be celebrated.
That said, let’s get into 10 things that your vagina and vulva would be so happy to receive this holiday season.
1. A Vagina-Themed Food Basket
If I were to offer you $25 on the spot to list 10 foods that are proven to be beneficial to your vagina’s overall health and well-being, could you do it? If you’re an avid supporter of the site, you should be able to because, over the years, I’ve written pieces like “The Foods Your Vagina's Been Craving,” “Put Your Vagina On A 'Summer Diet' This Year,” “10 Fall Foods That Are Really Good For Your Vaginal Health” and “This Is How To Eat Your Way To A Wetter (Yes, Wetter) Vagina.”
The reason why it’s important to know things like this is because studies show that consuming a ton of processed foods not only has the ability to suppress your immunity, but it can also make you more susceptible to vaginal infections and even vaginal dryness.
So, why not put some of the foods that are mentioned in those articles into a basket, wrap them in cellophane, put a big bright bow on top, and place it on your kitchen table in time for Christmas? Your vagina will dig it — the rest of your system will too.
2. Bikini Line Moisturizer
The reality is the skin that’s around your bikini area is more sensitive than you probably think it is. And so, if you shave there often and you want to reduce your chances of getting razor bumps, moisturize. Adding to that, since removing hair down below removes a top layer of skin as well, in order to avoid ending up with dry (and irritated) skin, moisturize.
Wanna keep your skin looking great after removing hair? Yep, you guessed it — moisturize. Although there’s a particular carrier oil that can get the job done that I will discuss here in a moment, there are also moisturizers that were created specifically for your bikini line region. A list of some popular ones is located here and here.
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3. Hybrid Lubricant
Whether your hormones are shifting these days, and that’s got you a bit drier in and around your va-jay-jay than you would like, or you simply want to be wetter because, during sex, that way truly is better, you can never go wrong with a tube of hybrid lubricant. If you’re wondering what that is, it’s a blend of silicone and water-based lubricant that’s especially awesome if you’re someone who likes to participate in anal sex, you enjoy using sex toys a lot and/or shower sex (check out “So, This Is How To Make Shower Sex So Much Better”) is totally your thing. Why? Well, when you use hybrid lubricant, it tends to last longer than a water-only lube does.
Also, since it has the “slip” of the silicone, you can experience less friction during intercourse which ultimately makes for a more pleasurable experience all around. At the end of the day, what it all boils down to is a hybrid lubricant is able to give you the best of both worlds. For the record, a hybrid lube that has a great reputation for not being sticky, not staining, and working really well with both condoms and sex toys is Sliquid Silk. At under $25 for around an eight-ounce bottle, that makes it even more of a win.
4. Jojoba Oil
As far as skincare goes, it is my personal opinion that everyone should have some jojoba oil in their possession. It’s loaded with vitamin E which nurtures your skin. It deeply penetrates dry skin. It helps to soothe skin issues like eczema and psoriasis. It also helps to fight acne and reduce signs of aging.
And why will your vagina enjoy it so? Well, another thing that jojoba oil contains is antioxidants as well as antimicrobial and antifungal properties — some of which have been proven to kill candida (which can lead to a yeast infection). So, if you’d like an affordable oil that is great foryour vulva region, without question, jojoba oil is that one.
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5. Seasonal Vajacials
If you’ve never heard of a vajacial before, it’s basically a “facial” for your vagina — well, actually, your vulva. As far as if you actually “need” them or not, the reviews are mixed. Personally, I’m all about them if you’re someone who does pubic hair removal on a consistent basis because they can help to soothe your vulva after getting waxed, can help to prevent ingrown hairs, and they can also exfoliate any dead skin cells that could lead to build-up or irritation.
To me, the key is to make sure that a licensed esthetician does them for you and that they focus on your vulva (the outer part of your vagina) only. If you keep that in mind and get one around four times a year, I can attest to the fact that your vulvar skin will be all the better for it.
6. Pelvic Floor Massager
Whether you’ve recently had a baby (vaginally) and you’re looking to speed up the healing process, you’ve been experiencing some pain or discomfort during sex and you’d like some relief, or you’re dealing with a bit of incontinence, a pelvic floor massager (some call it a pelvic floor wand) could be the solution to your problems. That’s because it’s specifically designed to gently apply pressure to your pelvic floor in a way that increases blood circulation, soothes trigger points, and strengthens weaker tissues in your pelvic floor area.
For the record, although these can be pretty effective, it is important to speak with your doctor or, even better, a pelvic floor therapist — just so they can confirm if you actually need to use the massager and, if so, for how long. Some options for reputable pelvic floor massagers are located right here.
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7. Tanga Panties
If it’s time to get some new drawers (and if it’s been longer than six months, the answer would be “yes”), get your vagina some tanga panties. If you’re not exactly sure what those are, they’re underwear that’s a blend of half thong and half Brazilian briefs. What I personally like about them is they provide the sexiness of a thong while having the comfort (and coverage) of a pair of briefs. And since that is the case (and you don’t have fabric that is all bunched up in that space), your vagina is able to breathe better than it probably would in a thong — and that means less (potential) yeast infections. Yay!
8. Vaginal Gummies
You probably already know that taking a probiotic is a great way to care for your vagina from the inside out. Okay, but what about the gummies craze that seems to be going on as far as health-related supplements go? Are they good for your vagina too? Well, what a lot of health experts will say is although your system may not exactly “need” them, many of the gummies do contain a particular strain of probiotic that can help to keep your vagina in good condition as far as its flora and reducing your chances of getting bacterial vaginosis go.
Plus, gummies tend to taste pretty good, which is always a bonus. If you’d like to read up on a variety of vaginal gummies options, Amazon has quite a few to choose from here.
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9. Rose Water
Whether you decide to purchase some rose water or make it yourself (recipe here), please give it a shot. All of the antioxidants in rose water can help to soothe skin irritation, its antiseptic and analgesic properties will help to treat minor skin infections and, when used on at least a semi-consistent basis, rose water can help to slow down the aging process of your skin as well.
And here’s the thing — since vulvar skin can age just like the rest of your body (check out “Vaginas Age Just Like Everything Else. You Can Slow It Down, Though.” and “Keep Your Vagina Like A (Literal) Fountain Of Youth”), soaking in some rose water while taking a bath can certainly do wonders for your vulva and vagina.
Also, rose water (in its purest form, which is roses and water only) can help to balance your vulva skin’s pH levels, deeply hydrate that area of your body, and also bring relief to minor razor burns. And just where can you find some pure rose water? NatureVibe Botanicals Rose Water is a fan favorite for many. You can purchase a bottle of it here.
10. A Book That Celebrates the Diversity of Vulvas
As we prepare to (pun intended) wrap this Christmas shopping list up, at some point, please make the time to read “Did You Know That There Are 10 Different Kinds Of Vaginas? Yep.” Although all of our vaginas basically do the same thing, our vulvas (the outer part of our vaginas) don’t all look just alike — and that’s a good thing. Unfortunately, there is solid evidence out here that says that a part of the reason why labiaplasties are on the rise is that women are viewing porn and wanting their vulvas to look like the people they see on the screen. SMDH.
And that’s why I think it’s cool that there are books out here like A Celebration of Vulva Diversity – A Book by The Vulva Gallery. It’s a visual reminder that our individuality is one of our greatest superpowers…even when it comes to our vulvas. So, get yourself a copy and smile while flipping through it. However your vulva looks, it’s that way by design. Happy Shopping-for-Your-Vagina-Especially-So season, sis!
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Your November 2025 Monthly Horoscopes: An Overview
The passion is high this month, as we have Mars moving into Sagittarius on November 4 and remaining there until December 15. Mars in Sagittarius is adventurous, forthcoming, and empowered. This is the perfect energy we need to get through the month's retrogrades, as Mars will guide us towards what is the highest good. The following day, we have a Supermoon in Taurus, and love comes full circle. A Supermoon in Taurus is all about gaining clarity within financial matters and relationship developments. This Supermoon brings an awareness of what you need to feel more secure, grounded, and safe in the present moment.
Venus, the planet of love, enters Scorpio on November 6 until the end of the month, and Venus in Scorpio is powerful. This brings an intensity to love, but it is also a good time for intimacy, commitment, and getting some more alone time with a partner. Uranus Retrograde moves into Taurus on November 7 and will be Retrograde here until February 3, 2026. Uranus, during this time, will provide more revelations into matters you have been looking to stabilize and find your ground in since 2018. This transit gives a final opportunity to regenerate new ideas, efforts, and intentions.
The final Mercury retrograde of the year occurs this month, and it begins in Sagittarius on November 9, moves into Scorpio on November 18, and goes direct on November 29.
While in Sagittarius, Mercury retrograde asks to be more patient with travel plans, new adventures, and communicating before you have all of the facts. While in Scorpio, Mercury retrograde will highlight what transformations are needed within relationship dynamics, and what path forward will help you gain your empowerment and inner clarity here. Jupiter also goes retrograde this month and will be retrograde in Cancer until March 10, 2026. Jupiter retrograde in Cancer brings emotions to the surface, and everything can seem a little more overwhelming than it actually is in this energy.
Overall, this transit occurs to guide you through new emotional regulation tools and show you what dreams can come true when you take some time to reflect.
The New Moon of the month occurs on November 20 in Scorpio, and this is a New Moon of manifestation. This New Moon provides the new beginning you have been looking for, and something is inspiring about what presents itself during this time. The following day, the Sun moves into Sagittarius, and Sagittarius Season officially begins. Sag Season is the upliftment we need after a month of closure, clarity, and transformation, and there is a lot to look forward to as we end the month. On November 27, Saturn goes direct in Pisces after being retrograde since July, and with this powerful force now direct, what you have been building and rebuilding through the heart since 2023 comes to fruition in a more grounded and long-term way.
Overall, November is a big game-changer, and what is being brought to the surface is changing things for time to come.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what November 2025 has in store for you.
Your November 2025 Monthly Horoscopes For Every Zodiac Sign
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is about finding your balance, Aries. A lot of things are in motion for you right now, but you may not be seeing eye to eye with some of the people around you in the midst of it all. Your guidance for the month is to choose your battles wisely and to think more about what will benefit you long-term. Mars enters your 9th house of adventure this month, and you are feeling fierce, inspired, and ready.
The Mercury retrograde of the month inspires you to open your mind to what else is possible for you in life, and gives you the clarity needed to make the necessary changes to be in the place you want to be. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in your 8th house of rebirth, signifying the deep changes you are moving through this month.
As November closes out, remember to set your intentions for where you want to feel the passion, commitment, and depth in your world, and what ideas or perceptions you may need to let go of to see your own truth a little clearer.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is all about taking more time for yourself, Taurus. You are in a contemplative mood this month and are seeking more alone time for healing, clarity, and emotional rejuvenation. This month, we have a Supermoon in Taurus on November 5, and this Supermoon is bringing your goals, intentions, and path ahead to the surface. This is the time to let go of what doesn’t resonate with your soul and to pay attention to your inner guidance system and the signs you are receiving in your life right now.
Venus moves into your 7th house of love this month, and love is here for you to thrive and grow in.
Relationship matters feel more promising in this energy, and you are a magnet for love, reciprocity, and romance. Uranus retrograde also moves back into your sign on November 7 for its final transit through Taurus. Until February of next year, you will be reevaluating plans and intentions, and learning more about yourself and what you need to feel both inspired and grounded in life.
With a lot of energy in your 1st house of self and 7th house of love, November is all about finding the balance between what you need and what your relationships are asking of you.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is a month of growth, Gemini. You enter the month with the Sun, Mercury, and Mars in your relationship zone, and you are motivated to connect, move forward, and own what you need in love. This is a beautiful month of being met with the love you are giving out, and feeling like you are supported in life. Your wisdom is growing, your inner clarity is shining, and there is something beautiful about the space you find yourself in this month.
Uranus retrograde enters your house of closure on November 7, moving out of your sign and giving you a chance at healing. This is your opportunity to close the door to a chapter in your life that felt more restrictive than freeing, and to develop the insight needed to move on from negative energy for good. Your ruling planet, Mercury, also goes retrograde this month, and will be guiding your heart towards what people, relationships, and experiences light up your life and make you feel loved and seen.
Overall, November is a big month for owning the wisdom you have found in life and in love.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is about trusting your instincts and listening to the guidance of your soul, Cancer. You are naturally a very intuitive being, and November is requiring you to use this strength for your benefit. As you enter the month, there is a Supermoon in your 11th house of friendship, community, and dreams, and manifestations appear that you have been looking forward to.
The patience you’ve had in your life shows fruition for you now, and you are recognizing that you’ve had the right idea all along.
Jupiter, the planet of good luck and expansion, entered your sign earlier this year and goes retrograde this month from November 11 until March 2026. What this means for you and your life is that you will be discovering spiritual guidance in new, unexpected places. You may feel like life moves a little more slowly under this energy, but this is needed in order for you to truly understand where an expansion and new perspective are needed in your world.
Before the month ends, there is a New Moon in a fellow water sign, and your heart gets a chance at a new beginning.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is a month of progress, Leo. You are thinking a lot about the future right now and what’s ahead of you, and are making the necessary plans to bring your dreams to fruition. With a Supermoon in your 10th house of career, goals, and reputation as you begin the month, you are really showing up and allowing yourself to be met with success. You are inspired by what is possible for you in life in November and are making the efforts necessary to meet your goals halfway.
Mid-month, Jupiter goes retrograde in Cancer, and what this means for you is a need to take a step back and focus on your healing. When Jupiter entered Cancer earlier this year, you saw a lot of the gifts that have come from closure and emotional renewal, and with this planet now retrograde, you are getting more into the nitty-gritty of healing and what tough decisions you may need to make to do so.
On November 20, we have a New Moon in your 4th house of family and foundations, and you are getting the opportunity to rebuild, connect with loved ones, and feel more secure in the present moment.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is all about finding your balance between moving forward when you feel ready to and taking the necessary time to plan your next steps ahead, Virgo. With a Supermoon in a fellow earth sign to begin the month, there is a lot to look forward to right now, and you are feeling inspired by what is presenting itself. You are moving through November with confidence and conviction, and your eyes are opening to what spaces you want to be in and what people you want to meet along the way.
Your ruling planet, Mercury, goes retrograde this month, and it’s all about taking time within communication matters and new developments in the home.
Ask yourself what stability, safety, and clarity mean to you right now, and be prepared to let go and create the necessary space in your life to receive that. At the end of the month, we have a New Moon in your 3rd house of communication, and this New Moon highlights your communication strengths and interests, and also brings some new people and experiences into your life.
Overall, although we have a lot of retrogrades this month, you are not letting them stop you and are overcoming and moving forward in November.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is your month of abundance, Libra. Venus, your ruling planet, is in your 2nd house of income, values, and self-worth, and you are owning who you are, what you bring to the table, and what you deserve in your life. This is a month of seeing your intentions come to fruition, and progress is made regarding your finances and the plans you have set for yourself here this year. This is your month of owning your efforts and intentions, and knowing you deserve the good that is presenting itself to you right now.
With a Supermoon taking place in your 8th house this month, which rules your shared finances, support is coming in for you, and you have a lot of opportunities to make new gains and to see the gifts of some of the relationships and commitments in your world. Before the month ends, there is a New Moon in your 2nd house of income, and it’s the time to create new intentions for yourself here, and you can do so with some added strength and confidence by what has already come to fruition or you this month.
Positive changes are in store for you, and you have the Midas Touch in November.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleScorpio Season is here, and you are shining, Scorpio. November is a month of feeling balanced, loved, and abundant, and like you are in the perfect position to find gratitude and own what blessings are ahead of you. We have a Supermoon in your sister sign to begin the month, providing you with the insight needed to see the love in your life with more clarity, and to gain some closure within relationship dynamics that have felt confusing for you as of late.
Venus also enters your sign at the beginning of the month, even further amplifying the energy of love in your life and the sense that you are truly recognizing how loved you are.
Mercury retrograde enters your sign on November 18, and you may need to redirect more of your energy within. Use this opportunity to gain more guidance on yourself, your path, and your goals, and remember to give yourself a little more compassion during this time. Before the month closes out, we have a New Moon in Scorpio on November 20, and this is a powerful time for seeing your manifestations appear. A New Moon in Scorpio is enlightening, and you are owning your passions, your self-confidence in life, and what new doors are opening for you now.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is all about owning your power and not counting yourself out, Sagittarius. This month is about lifting your head and remembering who you are and what matters to you in life. Mars enters your sign as we begin the month, and this is powerful energy for direction, new beginnings, and inspiration, but you may also be feeling some combative energy in your life in the midst of it all.
With Mercury also going retrograde in your sign for a little over a week, be careful with getting ahead of yourself right now, and take your time with things by knowing that you are supported and your dreams are coming to fruition in due time.
Sagittarius Season officially begins on November 21, and you feel more of the strength in your life as you close out the month. With Venus also moving into Sagittarius on November 30, a lot of the self-doubts you were having at the beginning of the month are long behind you now, and you finally get to see more of the progress you have been making in your world.
Overall, this month is about balancing patience with conviction and knowing that what is meant for you will not pass you by.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are making strides this month, Capricorn. November is a month of victory, progress, and achievement, and you are owning what you have been building in your world. You begin the month with a Supermoon in your 11th house of hopes and dreams, and this is a beautiful time for seeing your intentions appear and things looking even better than you had expected them to. The universe really wants to show you how loved and cherished you are this month, and will be giving you plenty of signs to show that to you.
Jupiter goes retrograde in your opposite sign mid-month until February of next year, and during this time, you will be able to revitalize some of your close partnerships and gain more clarity on what you need to feel more safe and inspired here. You may feel like some relationship dynamics are more up in the air than you are used to, but this is necessary for you to really see what and who you want to commit to long-term.
Before the month ends, your ruling planet, Saturn, goes direct in your 3rd house of communication after being retrograde since July, and you are taking a deep breath, getting the answers you have been looking for, and finding your peace this month.
AQUARIUS
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleNovember is a new beginning for you, Aquarius. You are setting new intentions and focusing a lot on your career and financial world this month. The month begins with a Supermoon in your 10th house of career, and you are seeing the fruition of some of the developments you have made in this area of your life over the past month. A lot of opportunities are coming to the surface for you, and you deserve to feel abundance, support, and clarity in the world.
This month is about owning who you are, your gifts, and what efforts you have made to live the life of your dreams.
Mid-month, Jupiter goes retrograde in an area of your life that rules your daily routine and working environment, and you are making a lot of changes in your world. Your career and work-life get a revamp this month and for the rest of the year in general, and this is happening so that you can increase your earnings while also feeling better about what you are doing daily. As we end November, Saturn goes direct in your 2nd house of income and earnings after being retrograde since July, which is even further increasing the abundance in your world.
Overall, you are claiming your successes and doing what is necessary to feel good within.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleDreams come true and miracles are possible for you this month, Pisces. November is about opening your mind to everything you can experience in your world, and about being a magnet for your desires by being open to it all. Venus is in your house of inspiration, adventure, and travel this month, and you are meeting love in unexpected places. You are feeling more of the magic in your world in November overall and are being met with the beauty you create around you.
Jupiter goes retrograde in your 5th house of romance mid-month, allowing you to gain more clarity in matters of the heart and to reveal what joy means to you and what and who you want around you to feel more stable happiness and less shake-ups in your world. Saturn goes direct in Pisces on November 27, before the month ends, and this is really a ground-breaking moment for you.
With Saturn now direct and in Pisces until February 2026, you are following your dreams, laying down new foundations in your life, and feeling like things are finally lining up for you.
November is about owning the magic you create in your world, Pisces.
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