Dear Single Self: What I Wish I Knew Before Getting Married

Marriage

I've been married for a little over a year and everything I thought I knew about marriage has proven to be a lie. I don't know why I read the last part of that sentence in Maury Povich's voice, but it's true.


Of course, there were things now that I really wish I knew before I tied the knot. Would it change anything? Only my perspective for the better, which would subsequently change a lot of other things.

I think if I had known these things going into it, I wouldn't only be a better wife but more of a selfless person, which is what they say marriage is all about. Read on to learn more about the truths I've come to know.

It's Okay To Change

I know there's this complete stigma about why you should know yourself before you get married. If you don't know and love yourself, then how can you love someone else? I get it. But I got married about three months after I turned 30. And while I thought I had myself all figured out, I certainly didn't. Little did I know I had a lot more changing and growing up to do. I had to come to terms and be okay with that.

Don't get me wrong, I'm still on my "Cater 2 U," keeping myself up and staying the same chick he fell in love with when it comes to certain personality traits. But at the same time, I'm growing. I'm going to continue to grow, evolve, and develop for the rest of my life, and I'm good with that.

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