Ciara Subscribes To The ‘Fake It Til You Make It’ Mantra On Days Where She’s Not Feeling Her Best
Ciara is living her life outside the confines of what anyone wants her to be. When it comes to balancing her career, being a mom to her three adorable kids, having one of the most praised marriages in the world of A-list sports and entertainment, and getting to walk around as one of the most beautiful women in the world, she proves to remain unde-frickin-feated.
But even our girl has moments where she isn't feeling her most "Ciara."
That is because, according to Ciara, she has to put in the work to be the woman we know and love today. In fact, she touched on the subject in an interview with POPSUGAR, where she revealed that even when life's curveballs are acting up, when it comes to confidence and whether she is feeling that way or not, she's going to show it off.
"Confidence took time for me. I was taking on so much as a young girl...you gotta be confident when you're doing that. Even when you don't know what you're doing — be confidently wrong."
She says she even subscribes to the "fake it till you make it" philosophy, attesting that it really works.
"People don't see you or hear you if you're not confident — I learned that early on, and I've just worked at it over the years. Every year, I get better; through every experience, I get better."
Rihanna famously opened up about living her life on these same terms, admitting that she's down to 'pretend' to keep herself going.
As one of the biggest and most confident celebrities in the world, it'd be easy to assume that Rihanna has it all together, but nah. She struggles sometimes too. When asked what is it that she does on those days when she isn't feeling her best, her answer was real Rihanna, with the "Needed Me" saying:
"[I] pretend. I mean, it's either that or cry myself to sleep. Who wants to do that? You wake up with puffy eyes the next day, it's a waste of tears."
And as if on cue, she admitted to being nervous and feeling like she was going to throw up before performances before, but ultimately working it out. In a press conference for this year's Apple Music Super Bowl Halftime Show:
"When you become a mom there's something that just happens where you feel like you can take on the world, you can do anything and the Super Bowl is one of the biggest stages in the world, so as scary as that was because I haven't been on stage in seven years, there's something exhilarating about the challenge of it all. It [was] important for me to do this this year. It's important for representation. It's important for my son to see that."
Law Roach recently opened up on the subject and how he pivoted his way to be Zendaya's go-to style BFF.
For Law Roach, it was less about "faking it" but more so committing to his self-belief, telling CNN about his journey to styling despite not having many clients, “It was literally just fake it ‘till you make it. When I met people that’s what I would say. I would be like, ‘I’m a stylist.’”
Roach now has over 1.2 million followers on Instagram and has a team of six assistants in the US and Europe to help manage his formidable client roster, which includes Ariana Grande, Anya Taylor-Joy, Bella Hadid, Megan Thee Stallion, Keke Palmer, and, of course, Zendaya.
Not bad for a guy with just a small vintage shop that Kanye just so happened to walk into one Chicago day, catapulting his styling career.
Tracee Ellis Ross says she's okay with faking the funk due to her relationship with herself
Tracee Ellis Ross shared her usual gems when asked how she shows up when she's not feeling her most confident. She told CRWNMAG:
"My job requires me to be at my best even if I feel at my worst. And I don't think we always have to feel our best. I don't think you always have to think you're the sexiest person in the room or have the best body in the room, I think the thing is having a relationship with yourself."
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Charmin Michelle is a southern native and creative spirit who works as a content marketer and events manager in Chicago. She enjoys traveling, #SummertimeChi, and the journey of mastering womanhood. Connect with her on Instagram @charminmichelle.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Exclusive: Koryn Hawthorne On Her Miraculous Love Story: ‘I Was Never A Girlfriend’
Gospel singer Koryn Hawthorne has used her voice to let the world know about what God can do, and now the Season 8 finalist of NBC’s The Voice is sharing a miraculous act that led to her engagement.
The Praise This actress shared in an interview with xoNecole that prior to becoming engaged to her partner, Hunter Register, she passed over one particular title on her way to becoming a fiancée.
“I was never a girlfriend,” Hawthorn, 26, tells xoNecole.
“We've known each other since we were kids, so we just kind of always had this distant friendship. We would hit each other up on social media, and [I] slide up under things that he was posting,” she says. “We ended up hanging out together, and when we hung out, it was an instant immediate connection from all fronts. I think we just knew from the first day that I don't want to spend a day apart from you.”
Koryn Hawthorne On Her Miraculous Love Story, New Album, & More
She continued, "And yeah, we probably were boyfriend or girlfriend after — am I delusional? Then we were engaged a few months later.”
The Grammy-nominated singer, who became engaged in November of 2023, went on to share what her experience has been preparing to become a wife, exploring the personal growth, challenges, and emotions experienced throughout the process.
“It's a journey, I'm not gonna lie,” she says. “Relationships, in general, are hard, and whenever you think about marriage, is just different from being boyfriend and girlfriend because if you piss me off, I could just go,” she shared. “But marriage is an actual commitment. It's a partnership. It's a ministry.”
Hawthorne, 26, and Register, 27, were childhood friends growing up in Louisiana and sealed their love during a weekend getaway in New Orleans last fall.
For the gospel star, marriage involves more than lovely-dovey aspects, emphasizing how her relationship has allowed her to grow, mature, and learn valuable lessons through love.
“We were supposed to get married in May, but like for us to be mature enough to be like, ‘You know what? No, let's take the necessary time to make sure that we're fully prepared for this commitment such a beautiful thing,” Hawthorne reflected.
“It's a learning curve for sure, but our preparation for marriage would have been the only thing that brought this out of me. It's hard and it's scary at times, but it's God's purpose and His plan for our lives.”
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