Send Nudes: Here's How Ayesha Curry & 4 Other Celebs Keep Their Relationships Spicy
I want to get married, like the Currys, on some Steph and Ayesha sh*t. I don't know much about sports, but I know that Steph was the real MVP when he shot his shot with his wife of nearly eight years and scored.
Although the couple has been through hell and back over the past few months, met with threats and scrutiny, this power duo is proof that with the right person on your team, you can't lose. Giving us the Love & Basketball vibes we didn't know we needed, Steph and Curry continue to give us all the feels in their constant PDA via social media.
If you were wondering how you, too, can keep your marriage poppin' after nearly a decade, never fear. Ayesha just shared one of the secrets that keep her and her hubby just as in love as the day they met and the truth might surprise you. Here's how Ayesha, along with 4 other celebrities keep the spark lit (and I mean LIT) in their relationships:
Jada Pinkett & Will Smith
On next week's episode of the Red Table Talk, Jada sits down with a throuple to talk about polyamory and even reveals that she once had a threesome. Although it wasn't exactly her cup of tea, Jada confirmed that she's not afraid to get a lil kinky. In an interview with Redbookin 2009, the actress said that the secret to keeping her marriage with actor Will Smith spicy after more than a decade was having the ability to use your imagination from time to time. She explained:
"Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary! Be sneaky. Your girlfriend's house at a party. The bathroom! A guest bedroom! Just switch it up. Anything like that can keep it going. Anything it takes to keep the flame alive."
Ayesha & Steph Curry
This past week model/actress Bella Thorne was in tears after Whoopi Goldberg criticized her on an episode of The View for releasing her own nude photos in response to a hacker's threats. While Whoopi advised that young people be more cautious about what they upload to "the cloud", that doesn't stop Ayesha Curry from sending her man some rated-R photos.
According to Ayesha, distance makes the heart grow fonder and she shows that fondness by sending her husband hundreds of risque selfies (from the neck-down only, of course) on a regular basis. Recently, in a promotion for her latest show, she told E! News:
"He won't delete them off of his phone! He's not that secure with his phone so it's actually one of the scariest things in my life."
Chrissy Teigen & John Legend
We get it. You're busy. You're tired. It's hard to leave time for romance when life is hitting you at 150 miles per hour at all times. But according to John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, you'll never really "have time". You just have to make it. In an interview with E! News, John Legend said that anything from birthday trips to weeknight dinners can count as quality one-on-one time that you'll find is extremely valuable in the long run.
"You just have to make time for each other, go on little trips like we did for her birthday and go to dinner just the two of you sometimes. You still have to have romance time."
Adrienne & Israel Houghton
Recently, we posted an article that reported that Adrienne Bailon could not go more than 24 hours without some good old Christian-coitus with her husband, Israel Houghton. There's no doubt in our minds that this couple's relationship is poppin' like the fourth of July, and Adrienne says that along with sucking toes and taking her man out on dates, she's also added some spice to her marriage by adding in a special element of sexy.
Adrienne said that before her wedding night, she did a boudoir shoot and hung the enlarged pictures on the walls of their honeymoon suite, but it doesn't have to be a special occasion to employ this spice-inducing method in your relationship.
Oprah & Stedman
The quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and Oprah says that's part of the reason she and her longtime boo Stedman Graham have kept their more than 30-year relationship on fire after all this time. Despite the ability to hire private chefs from around the world, Oprah still makes sure her man has a home-cooked meal every chance she gets.
"Well, I am a really good cook. And the wonderful thing about Stedman is in all the years that I've been cooking for him, no matter what it is — even if it's a piece of toast — like the other day I made an English muffin, and he's like, 'Where did you get this English muffin?' and I'm like, 'It's an English muffin.'"
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Another season of Love Is Blind has come to a close, and almost two months later we’re still unpacking the drama that is Clay and AD. The finale, reunion, and post-interviews with Clay and AD after season six of Love Is Blind left millions of people wondering - why couldn’t AD see the signs? Clay told her he had a fear of marriage, his parents experienced infidelity, and he seemed to have many doubts about saying, "I do."
After changing his mind at the altar and hearing AD question why she feels like she’s never enough, I was finished watching. I didn’t need to hear anything else because, at that moment, I realized this wasn’t about Clay; this was about AD feeling inadequate before she ever met Clay.
If I’m honest, I don’t watch much dating television. TikTok keeps me updated with the clips that I need to see in order to be kept in the loop, but it’s difficult for me to watch an entire season of dating TV because seeing Black women settle for less and questioning their beauty is a trigger for me. In many ways, there were points in my life where I was AD, settling and ignoring red flags because I wanted to be loved.
Now, on the other side, it doesn’t feel good to see Black women lower their standards on national television. There have been many hot takes on this couple and who was in the wrong. Did Clay play in AD’s face or did she not listen to the truth of what he told her from day one? Was his reason for joining the show to promote his business and not to find the one?
We’ll never know the truth, but what we can do is learn tactics to better our self-worth. Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Denise Francis shared her expertise with xoNecole on what tangible steps to take to improve feelings of worthiness. “Self-love blooms in a garden where self-worth is planted, nourished, and whole. However, when your self-worth is challenged, displaced, or broken, it could be difficult to rebuild," Denise explains.
How To Rebuild Self-Worth
During her self-love coaching sessions, Denise likes to walk her clients through the cornerstones of rebuilding self-worth: grace and self-compassion. To her, self-worth is never lost, it's only displaced, so practicing self-compassion and giving yourself grace is a must. "We tend to place our self-worth in entities and people of ourselves such as relationship status, physical appearance, material possessions, social media followings, what others think of us, and more. Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth.
"Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth."
"When we place our value into people or things, we tend to feel that we are not enough, worth it, special, or important when relationship status, job titles, friendships, and physical appearances are lost or changed. We then tend to feel lost within ourselves because we’ve placed our value outside of ourselves. Using grace and compassion, you can rebuild your self-worth by returning home to who you are at your core," she concludes.
How To Return Home To Yourself
Denise advises taking a step back and using self-reflection through journaling by answering the following journaling prompts:
First, ask yourself, "What do you tend to attach your self-worth to and why?"
Is it your relationships, your job title, your finances, your appearance, etc.? Why do you think you place so much emphasis on external status? How does it make you feel when you are defining yourself through these entities and/or people outside of yourself?
Then, ask yourself, "Without these things, who am I?"
Once you have your answers, show yourself kindness, remove the shame, and, as Denise says, "Redefine yourself by detaching your value from the things and people you have no control over and no longer serve you. Challenge yourself to define yourself outside of titles and societal values."
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person. You begin to find value in the way you love instead of your relationship status, your compassion instead of your popularity, your drive instead of your income/job title, and your heart instead of your physical appearance," she adds.
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person."
"Be intentional with healing your self-worth by leaning into the people and things that nourish your core values. Surround yourself with the people who love and cherish you, they will always remind you just how valuable you truly are."
It all goes back to self-compassion and grace. As Denise explains, leading with those two things as you heal and rebuild your self-worth allows you to reduce negative self-talk that might come up for you. "This weakens thoughts like, 'I am not enough... why am I never enough?'" she shares, "And 'I don't deserve this while strengthening thoughts like 'I deserve better,' 'I am enough,' and 'I am worth it.'"
Denise continues, "Once you return home and remember the irreplaceable person you are, you can rebuild your self-worth by placing it back where it belongs. It belongs to you."
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